Post # 1
I’m a worrier. I’m worried about not a lot of guests showing up, because of my 1.5 hr away venue. Worried about our ceremony being too long and confusing (bi-lingual). Also worried about 4 hrs of open bar not being enough. Does anyone know if this is enough?
Tell me about your worries…
Post # 3
I’m worried that even though we’ve explicitly told multiple people that so-and-so isn’t invited, they will bring them/show up anyway. That’s just the kind of family we have.
I’m worried that FI’s Step-sister&family are going to be too close to the gift table, and one or two cards/gifts might accidentally slip away with them. Yep. That’s the kind of family he has. haha
I’m worried that it’ll be overly hot and muggy for photos, and my makeup will run off.
I’m worried that traffic around the ceremony site will prevent us from getting photos done quickly.
I’m worried that people will think they can show up to the reception RIGHT after the ceremony, when it doesn’t start (and won’t be set up fully) until 4:30 (about 3 hours after ceremony)
Post # 4
Oh jeeze, don’t get me started. I’m worried that….
the vendors won’t show up
more guests than we expected will show up and we won’t have anywhere to put them
it will rain or be too hot/humid
we’ll run out of booze
we won’t have enough food
the reception hall will look terrible
I will look terrible
I will ugly cry the whole day
The list goes on and on. I’m trying to just let go and let it be what it will be!
Post # 5
I’m worried it will rain (our ceremony and reception are strictly outdoors with no backup!)
and I’m worried some members of my family I am strictly forbidding the presence of will show up!
As for the open bar- 4 hours really sounds like plenty, I have been to weddings with 2 hours and that felt like a rush to get drinks at the end but anything more than 4 and you will just have sloppy people trying to congratulate you and stepping on your dress. Did you ask the vendor what they typically do for an open bar? That’d probably be the best opinion to have!
Post # 6
Well, the wedding is over for us and I can tell you that the groom having food poisoning on your wedding day is something that, had I known about it ahead of time, would have been at the top of my worry list.
Moral of the story, don’t eat at waffle house at 3am two days before the wedding 🙂
Post # 7
I am worried that:
I will trip down the aisle
My hair will fall flat
I will look ugly
I will get a huge pimple
It will rain
People won’t have a good time
People will bring extra guests that they didnt rsvp for
My garter will fall to my feet
People will show up late and interrupt the ceremony.
My photographer won’t get everything I want
People will think Fiance and my first dance suprise is lame and won’t clap (we are interrupting halfway through into a fun dance routine to “Crazy in Love”
I will cry walking down the aisle or during the ceremony and ruin all my makeup
My sister will try and be an attention whore the entire night.
Post # 8
To be honest as long as my Fi and I are there and my family is there, nothing else matters.
At this point sometimes it is questionable if his family will show up because they don’t like to leave the house, not becasue they don’t agree with us getting married.
I don’t care if I have 6 people there. (I know my parents and sister and brother-in-law will show up) Whatever else happens will happen. Why waste time worrying?
Post # 9
I obsessed about the weather. We planned an outdoor ceremony and had a less-than-desirable back up. Luckily, it ended up being sunny and beautiful.
Post # 10
While worrying might be a waste of time, some people just cannot stop. I know I can’t. It is in my blood I swear!
I worry about not many people showing up because our wedding is on a Friday.
I worry that things won’t come together the same way as they do in my head.
I worry that I will get too nervous and anxious and have a panic attack.
That is pretty much it for now…I still have over a year so the full worry list hasn’t been completed yet!
Post # 11
I’m worried that I’m going to be an ugly bride with gorgeous bridesmaids.
I’m worried that people are going to bring their children even though we’ve specifically said “adults only” like a bazillion times.
I’m worried that our faux-to-booth will somehow crap out and Fiance will have to spend a good chunk of the reception fixing it.
I’m worried that we’re going to have to end up going through more booze than we initially budgeted for.
I’m worried that it will rain and our amazing lakeside ceremony will be moved inside.
I’m worried that even though we’re getting married in October, I will sweat like a pig and look nasty.
I’m worried that one of my aunts (who has a definite drinking problem) will make a fool of herself.
I’m sure there’s more but that’s all I got right now. Ugh, I’m going to be a nervous wreck!
Post # 12
I’ve been a wedding planner long enough to know that anything I spend time worrying about is wasted time.
Will some things not go exactly as I think they should? Probably.
Am I willing to waste that time stressing and energy on an amazing day freaking out about it? No.
At my first wedding a HUGE downpour showed up out of nowhere and we were literally running to get inside. Cocktail hour was suddenly moved to inside, where the cake was in the process of being delivered and the DJ setting up since they thought they had another 90 minutes. Our steel drum player took off in the rain, so it was quiet for a few minutes until the DJ got going. My sister didn’t show up as a Bridesmaid, no one put out my seating chart to make the placecards make sense, and no one filled out our guest book properly.
And you know what? It didn’t matter 🙂 People STILL talk about that wedding as being the best they’ve ever been to. The wedding far outlasting the marriage in that case and it was a blast.
This time around I have years of wedding planning under my belt and know things will go wrong, but that the guests will have a great time no matter what. And at the end of the night, we’ll be married and be with our family and friends that chose to come.
What more can a bride ask for? 🙂
Post # 13
The above said… I’m worried:
my mom will screw up the part of the alterations to my dress she’s doing
people will expect a much grander wedding from a wedding planner
that they’ll be pissed there’s only a very limited bar since we’re now paying for wayyyy more of the wedding than originally discussed
That FIs family will show up straight from the afternoon milking at their dairy farm without showering (seriously!)
That my mom will be unbearable that day
And that certain members of FIs family who don’t get along will make it known publicly at the reception
🙂 (see? I can be a tweaky bride, too) 🙂
Post # 14
@UpstateCait: I’ll come fix your fauxto booth!
Post # 15
Right now I’m worried about everyting! OMG, too many to list.
As long as the big things happen as planned, I can overlook minor things going wrong.
But I am definitely a worrier.
Post # 16
I am worried that:
It will rain 🙁
Too many people (uninvited guests) will show up, or that we will not get many “no”s for RSVPs (not that we want people to not come who were invited, but there are some ppl (family) that were kind of obligatory) and we are slightly over our goal numbe.r
I will cry the whole time and have ugly pictures
My photographer will miss a few important pics (I don’t think she will though-she is awesome!)
People will think our reception site is ugly (it’s nothing special, but not terrible)
Our reception venue will be too small. Our original hall from them got double booked. Long story.
Our flowers won’t get set up correctly on the tables. As of now, our moms are doing the florals but I don’t want them spending the whole wedding day setting up flowers. We are making it super simple and may be asking others to help instead.
Is this weird? I’m worried that my Fiance won’t cry when I come down the aisle. He is not a sap, but he will cry when he is really emotional, and I feel like this is one of the times that he would, but if he doesn’t then I might worry about what he is thinking or that I’m not pretty enough–i don’t know… lol
I also worry that we won’t have that many people at the ceremony. We have a 2pm ceremony and a 6pm reception (thank you, Catholic gap…) and I’m afraid a lot of people will just show up for the party, not the main event.