Post # 1
I’m going nuts here. I had myfirst all out crying session today since I am so overwhelmed with home much everything gis costing for this wedding. My FI and I have 102 days to go but Ido t know if we can afford all theSe expensEs on top of regular daily bills. My parents are going to pay for the rest of the reception hall and the flowers but we still have the dj, photographer, church, Invitations, and honeymoon. I just don’t know what to do. I work full time and teach piano lessons after school 4 days out of the week. My FI works too but he doesn’t make a full time salary so it’s just hard. Does anyone out there have any advice orexperience dealing with all this crap? I feel like Im at my wits end.
Post # 3
As much as you want to go for a honeymoon right after the wedding, can you postpone the date? This might free up some extra cash and a little bit of breathing room. Maybe wait a month or two and go on the honeymoon? If your locked into contracts with all those vendors I think the honeymoon might be the only thing you can work with. Good luck with everything.
Post # 4
Make a list of “must haves” vs “would-like-to-have.” Do some number crunching on how much you can save within the next few months, and how much you can afford to spend on those items. You can still have a beautiful wedding without spending a fortune! And I second post-poning the honeymoon for a better time when finances might be less tight! Take a deep breath, and good luck!
Post # 5
I agree with putting the honeymoon on hold. This close to the wedding, I think that’s all you’ve got working in your favor 🙁 Good luck!
Post # 6
I would put off the honeymoon as well and cut back on some of the other things. Maybe use different flowers or a smaller photo package? If you still wanted to go away I have another suggestion:some friends that were in the same situatio as you went to a provincial(or state for US) park. They camped for several days in beautiful surroundings, went hiking, swimming, etc and it was very economical.
Post # 7
How much do you have left to go? If you’ve already put down hefty deposits and it’s just final payments I second that postponing the honeymoon could really help out…but if you have a lot left…I guess my answer would depend on how much you have left to go and how much you’re bringing in.
Post # 8
I agree with the PP’s, nix the HM for the time being. There’s nothing wrong with holding off for a few months (or even longer) until you can comfortably afford it.
Other than that, have you considered having an iPod reception instead of hiring a DJ. I’m personally a DJ or band type of person but if my budget didn’t allow for one then we would have made due with what we could afford. If you have a trust worthy friend with a great personality, you could always ask them to MC for you.
Everything can be scaled back. Check out vista print for your invitations. If you catch them at the right time, they run promos where you basically pay for shipping and that’s it. Even if you end up paying full price, it’s still crazy cheap.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
DJ: Some companies have set ups that if you have an ipod, they’ll provide just the set-up (speakers, etc.), and will pick up at the end of the night.
Invites: DIY. Vistaprint has groupons frequently for $17 for $70, plus 30% anything else you order. You can keep your invites simple- we’re not doing inner envelopes, for ex.
Honeymoon- Do a night in a nice hotel, then wait until later for your honeymoon (we’re doing a local mini-moon for 2-3 nights, and are doing our honeymoon 5 months later.)
You can DIY flowers, and maybe have your parents help out elsewhere, if they haven’t done a deposit. If they have, you can always adjust what you’re getting, and save some there.
Post # 10
Do you really NEED invites? Honestly, we made one of those free wedding websites and emailed the site as our save the date and BAM we’re at a 90% show rate (let’s not even talk about how unhappy I am about that).
Honeymoon – giiiiirl, road trips are perfect for this type of budget. Camping at the Grand Canyon? Seeing the biggest ball of yarn? Hello. Nothing more romantic than taking honeymoon shots all across the country!
Photographer. Honestly, I know there are a bunch of Bees that will totally disagree with me but I think a few simple photos are what you’re going to enjoy most 40 years later, not the gigantic $4k package of each individual action shot. Is there a university or JC near you with a photography department? Maybe inquire if they would recommend one of their students.
DJ…are you making dancing into a big thing? Don’t let other people’s wedding plan dictate your own. If you guys aren’t even the dancing type, there is no reason why you MUST have a DJ. Planning a playlist ahead of time should be sufficient. You won’t have some obnoxious person screaming ‘welcome to the dance floor for the first time….Mr and Mrs MUSICBEETEACH!!!!’ in that awful way they do.
You have a lot of choices. This isn’t keeping up with the Jones’, this is keeping up with your paycheck. Do what you can do and make sure you love it. 🙂
Post # 11
@rebwana: Nice. I cosign all of your suggestions! 🙂
Post # 12
I’ll second Vistaprint for invites… FI and I just ordered ours, we’d found a $10 for $50 gift cert livingsocial deal, which also got us 30% off plus free shipping… We designed our own invites and got 200 invites, with response cards and envelopes for both, for $92. That’s stupid cheap.
Are your contracts all set in stone yet? Can you call your vendors and explain the situation? Maybe there’s services that are “extras” that you can cut (will your photographer not do a wedding book, or can you hold off on paying for it til well after the wedding when you’re more stable? Will your DJ nix lighting or maybe agree to not do cocktail hour and cut you a price break)?
Definitely put off your honeymoon. If you really want a break of some sort after the wedding, can you just book a couple nights in a local hotel or B&B for just the two of you? Nothing says you have to leave the hotel room on your honeymoon 😉
If worst comes to worst and there’s absolutely nothing you can do to cut prices, can you get a family member to loan you some money? Only as a last-ditch effort would I put the costs on a credit card (if you even can- some vendors won’t let you).
Post # 13
Bees thanks for all your suggestions! The problem is we ate getting married in the summer because of our jobs as teachers and we have enough time to honeymoon before we go back to work. Once we go back in aug/ sept there is no room to take vacation or anything like that:/
Post # 14
You can have honeymoom during a Christmas break 🙂 Going some place nice and warm. Maybe you can small small amount of guests at your wedding?
Post # 15
I am a teacher as well (also why we are getting married in the summer) and we are postponing it until either march break or next summer. Not a big deal! JUst go away for the weekend somewhere small and then celebrate big later.
Post # 16
Well both our families are so big we decided to only invite 200 ppl and we are hoping not everyone can come since its so expensive. We serious got the basic package for everything. We are only using one photographer, not ordering albums we decided we can do it oUrselves on shutterfly or iPhoto. Our dj package is very standard no extras and we ordered our invites online without getting all that extra crap. We were looking for an all inclusivehoneymoon to get the best bang for our buck too but it’s just overwhelming