- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Wedding planning has been horrible!
We first chose locations because my mom is a me-me-me type person and she decided that the historic home in her neighborhood would be the perfect place to hold our wedding ceremony and reception. After finding out what it was an amazing deal and trying to keep the peace, we decided to book. We found a caterer and photographer and moved on with planning.
We had to fire out caterer in May because we started planning in October 2012 we had 4 different contacts who did not share the information with the new one so we had to start over 4 times at the same company. What happened was our original catering contract person was fired and was replaced in March with a new contact. We never heard anything from management then about the turnover. Our new contact has left the company and we never heard from a third contact that she will be taking care of our wedding from now on. The manager decied to take over the wedding but took 2 weeks to get back to us when we tried to contact her to find out why we had not heard anything from our new contact. Not once in this entire process has the manager contacted us to let us know anything or to try to make up for anything to us. Since this was something we were spending over 14000 on we decided to leave and find a new place so I called multiple country clubs, multiple restaurants, multiple hotels and almost allwere booked or too expensive. We finally ended up finding a restuarant where we could hold our reception but it is now a dinner party. We are unable to have a DJ or dancing. We lost out on our money from those contracts and have since moved on.
Friday I got home from work to a missed call from my mom. Telling me it’s not a big deal but our ceremony location cancelled our contract. They have water and structural damage that they are going to work on. They called all the other reservations to cancel and they never called my parents, my mom found out about it at book club. We now are under three months away from our wedding without a venue. Since we found out about this on Friday afternoon there was no one in any of these offices to pick up the phones. I am also upset because we budgeted based on the original location now we are out that money, since it has not been returned yet and having to pull money out of thin air in order to find a new location. We went running all over the area this weekend and have yet to find somewhere that is available, in our budget, and close.
We had been DIYing the invites but because of this we now had to order invitations which is also costing us money that we did not budget for. Luckily I have a sorority sister who was able to give us a little bit of a discount on those. We had lunch with my parents today and my mom told me that i was overreacting and that it was not a big deal. She told me just to find a new location, like it was super easy and then she told me to get married at the chuch I grew up going to. I am not religious and there are multiple reasons why I do not support that church, one of which was they covered up a potential chid molester to not ruin his character.
We have already paid for hair, makeup, a photobooht, a photographer, a wedding cake, and multiple other things that we will not be able to get money back for. At this point I just don’t know what to do. I am not going to have anywere remotely near the wedding I wanted. I won’t have dancing, I won’t have a DJ, I am having a reception in a restaurnt and now I have no venue. Should we cancel? Should we postpone? Should I elope? Should I elope and then have a reception to celebrate with all the people who we already sent save the dates to? I hate everything. I hate wedding planning.