Post # 1
What are you afraid of? More then just heights and spiders, which is what I would say. But more then that..what’s a fear that you don’t usually share with people?
My mom died when I was 19 from cancer. Losing a parent so young is defnitiely not something you ever think will happen to you.
It’s kind of caused me to have a fear of losing people. I’m so scared I won’t get to spend my whole life with my FI, that he’ll get cancer or be killed in an accident. I’m just so scared of going through such an overwhelming loss again in my life.
Post # 3
I’m scared that some of my family members will never be okay (financial/responsibility) and I will have to take care of them (and possibly their children) for the rest of my life because I won’t have the backbone to say no.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood
Well, a fear I tell everyone about is my fear of water.
A more secret fear is my fear of having a great marriage that fails. I mean, my parents are getting divorced now after 27 years of marriage. I’ll watch old family videos and they were so happy. I remember them being so happy. And now they’re getting divorced and he has a girlfriend and my mom is miserable.
Sometimes when I think about it, I get absolutley terrified that will happen to me.
Post # 5
I’m afraid of people around me or myself, getting very sick. I started being extremely afraid after my FI’s mom died within three months of getting diagnosed with a rare auto immune disease, which just ate her lungs away. She was so healthy.. exercised everyday, ate right.. did everything right and she still got sick. I just can’t describe what happened to her. She was just so full of life and suddenly she was sick, then she was in the ICU for a month. I get nervous if FI gets a cold.. since we all thought she had the flu in the beginning.
Post # 6
I think fear of losing people is really common. That is basically mine too. That either I or a family member will get a serious life threatening illness. Mostly because when I was 19 and my brother was 26 he had some weird “1 in a million” “should never happen to a healthy young guy” type stuff happen. So now basically ANYTHING makes me worry about serious illness (feet hurt? MS. head hurt? Brain tumor) and statistics mean nothing to me because no statistic on earth would’ve ever said it was possible for my brother to end up with what he did.
Post # 7
That I’ll die without finishing the book I’m writing. I don’t want to die feeling like I never accomplished anything meaningful outside of my personal life. Even if it never gets published I have to finish it to the fullest extent of my ability or I’ll regret it forever, dead or alive.
Post # 8
I’m afraid of vomit-me doing it or someone else doing it. I don’t tell just anyone about it because it sounds weird. But it’s a real phobia for me.
Post # 9
This probably sounds insane, but zombies. Seriously… I can’t sleep for a week after watching Dawn of the Dead.
That face eater in Miami… I almost lost my shit.
Post # 10
I could probably survive any loss except my mom and my FI. Thinking about it makes me hope I will die first. I guess that’s pretty selfish, but even thinking about getting news like that makes my brain want to implode.
Post # 11
I killed a thread about death… by talking about death. That’s too morbid.
Post # 12
@Taeyers: Haha it’s not dead yet 🙂
I fear losing my husband as well. I also fear things like unemployment or poverty. Not that I have ever actually been unemployed or poor (knock on wood). It’s just… it terrifies me.
Post # 13
I fear that this is as good as it gets. And that makes me….sad. It’s a long life and I’m afraid I’ve done what I am going to do.
Post # 14
I’m scared of being alone. And airplanes. I hate airplanes because they are flying germ containers.
Post # 15
Thought of another one! I have a (small) fear of infrastructure failure. I am by NO MEANS a survivalist or preparing for the end of times or anything like that, but in the last year or so i’ve just become very aware of how much we all depend on the government/social infrastructure for basically EVERYTHING. Like, my husband and I usually couldn’t scrape together more than $5 cash between us (and that would all be change), and I almost never have more than 4-5 days groceries in the fridge (that would be the day I grocery shop, sometimes I have like 1 day’s groceries lol). We let our cars get to E. We have an electric stove (so no way at all to cook when the power is out).
So I just worry about *something* happening. A terrible storm that strands us in the house for 2 weeks (I’ve been snowed in 5 days before). A hacker attack on the banks that makes it so we can’t use our credit cards. Any kind of terrorist attack that goes after computers/infrastructure (doesn’t that seem like it’d be next?). I believe we’d get it worked out, but how many of us would be okay if it took 3 weeks to do that?
So yea, that is something I worry about to some extent but I don’t like to talk too much about because I come from a family (and married a guy) who are very much like: that kind of thinking is way too pessimistic, everything is FINE.
(I did at least start buying a few extra gallons of water and some pb/crackers to keep upstairs in case we get stuck here w/out groceries, and i hid a few hundred dollars in case we ever got into a situation where we couldn’t use CCs)
Post # 16
I’m afraid of dying alone. I don’t have siblings, so once my parents and DH are gone (assuming he goes first), I could be all alone if we somehow don’t have kids. That ties in with my other fear: that I’m unable to have children. I have no known fertility problems, so it’s kind of irrational. But it’s just this weird feeling that I sometimes get.