(Closed) What are you covering/providing for bridesmaid and what are they doing?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@vegas:  I am providing their hair, but not makeup. They bought their own dresses and shoes, and I am giving them gifts. 🙂 Maybe that’s cheap of me, but…Oh well!

ETA: I made all of my own centerpieces and decor, they literally have to do nothing except show up and look pretty, lol.

Post # 4
969 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

They will pay for their transportation and hotel, one is local, one has a $400 flight but is the grooms sister so will be coming anyway, the other is a friend that will have a long drive. They are paying for their dresses but they get to pick the style of dress, I choose the color. They need to go to rehersal, ceremony and reception. Bachelorette party the night before the rehersal but shouldn’t cost anything, other than drinks they might buy. My hairdresser is free so no one is paying for her. I will probably pick out a necklace for them to wear the day off as their gift. No showers or engagement parties but the one that is local might help occasionally with some DIY stuff. 

Usually the rule of thumb for hairdresser and makeup is you only have to pay if you are being really picky about style of hair or color of makeup and you would be fine if they wanted to do their own hair and makeup. Some kind of small thank you gift for your bridesmaids would be nice.

Post # 6
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mine paid for their transportation, hotel, shoes and the hen party. I bought their dresses, shawls, jewellery, gifts and paid for their hair and make up. There was no shower.

I think you only really need to pay for their hair and make up if you’re telling them how to wear it. And I would get them a small gift (it doesn’t have to be expensive) just to say thanks. 

Post # 7
6750 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Destination wedding, they will be flying there and getting their own hotel, etc. like all other guests. They’re buying their dresses and I might have them get shoes. They will be doing their own hair/makeup if they want to get it done professionally. I will probably take them out on an excursion as a gift (will likely cost as much or more than their dresses cost). Not doing any showers, but a bachelorette party will likely happen on the Saturday before the wedding at the all-inclusive resort, so it will be free. In the end, they will likely spend less than $300 more than a normal guest for the purposes of being in my wedding.

Post # 8
6750 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@vegas:  I’m not sure that there’s a rule of thumb, but I thought it would have been nice if the bride had given me a gift that was around half of what I paid for the dress  I had to wear (I paid around $250-280 per dress per wedding I was in). I think if you’re providing hotel costs and dress, I wouldn’t provide hair/makeup (do you absolutely want them to get it done? then maybe you should), and maybe a very small token as a gift.

Post # 9
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@vegas:  I think a small gift would be nice, but you don’t have to pay for their hair/makeup unless you insist on them having it professionally done.

My BMs will be paying for their own dresses/shoes and travel/lodging (some are local and some are not).  I am having my hair/makeup professionally done and I’m thinking that will be optional for them (i.e. if they want it done they can pay for it or else they can do it themselves), and I’ll getting them gifts- jewelry, a satin robe, and something not wedding related.  We haven’t discussed shower/bachelorette party stuff but I figure if they want to and can come, then that’s great and if not, then no big deal.

Post # 10
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My only BM is my sister who’s a broke student. My parents are paying for her flight, shoes and dress. She’s staying in my suite the night of the wedding and staying with my parents the rest of the time she’s here. I’m hoping that she’ll offer to pay for her own hair and makeup but if she doesn’t, then I’ll cover that. 

The only thin I’m expecting her to do is come to the rehersal and dinner, my bachelorette party the day before the wedding and provide a ‘bachelorette’ sash or something for me to wear. I asked her to see if she can get Channing Tatum to come dance for us as well but I’m not holding my breath on that one. Oh and she has to stand for photos and what not too.

Post # 11
4050 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I paid for their dresses, and I will look for a shawl or something for them too. They are getting their own shoes, hotel, and transportation.

Post # 12
8982 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I paid for hair, hotel, nails, makeup and gifts. One bridesmaid helped with the finishing touches of a handful of centerpieces but my husband and I made the majority. All the girls had to do was show up and get their dress.

Post # 13
5851 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014


We are providing:

Dresses at $300+ each

Bouquets at $60-90 each

Gifts at $75 each

They are expected to:

Turn up on the day.


If they attend my hen, that’ll be awesome; but I’m arranging it myself. They’re doing their own hair and make-up as a) we don’t want a uniform look and b) they are all kinda OCD and HATE people doing their hair and make-up.

Post # 14
9 posts
  • Wedding: January 2014

We are paying for dresses ($300), shoes hair and makeup. I am planning to buy them a gift of jewelry for the day. We are having a destination wedding so we are paying for their accommodation for up to 10 days.  Flights for one BM are about $350 and the MOH will be about $550. I am not having a shower or a bachelorette party so they have no additional costs.

Post # 15
7568 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would provide their hair and make-up (if you want it done) and also buy them gifts. Even if the gifts are small, it’s important to formally say thank you. 

I paid for my BM’s accomodation, hair and gifts. They paid for their dresses (they chose them) and transportation. 

Post # 16
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I am rpoviding every single thing…my bridesmaids are not paying for anything


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