Post # 1
I am delegating the FI:
Getting his side of the guestlist for addresses and emails.
Picking out his, his groomsmen’s, and our father’s tuxes (but with my final approval of course!)
Our save the date (it’s a video)
Anything video related
Reception entertainment (songs to play, friends singing/performing, any videos/slideshows)
Hmmm… I think that’s it for now. Maybe I’ll add on the wedding website.
I’m not sure what else I would delegate without wanting to take over. What about you girls? How much work did you give the FI? Were you worried that he wouldn’t pull through? Or have anxiety about the responsibility you gave him? I kinda wish I had more of a groom-kong so that I could give him more things to do without me worrying about letting it go!
Post # 3
Haha groom kong – I never heard that! Is that like the mortal enemy of a groomzilla?
Post # 4
Honeymoon & DJ for now. Maybe more later. I have to give him responsibilities in small increments or he gets stressed out! But for the most part all of the decision planning is joint. Anything too girly he doesn’t want to touch with a 10 foot pole!
Post # 5
My hubby didn’t want anything to do with the planning, that is until I started actually getting things done then he would put his two cents in, lol. He did suggest we go with burgundy instead of blue for our color so I added the orange to go with it. I had to practically print out his friends list on facebook and say, "Pick out the people you want to invite" because he was totally slacking on it. I did make sure he had asked the people he wanted to be in the wedding and that they went and got measured. He mostly picked out the tuxes but I had to change a few things with them when I finalized the order. I did tell him that he needed to deal with the catering guy because it was a friend of his but he didn’t do that very well and I had to do it. Although, he was great at making sure he got his nacho cheese fountain that he dreamed about! Really the only thing he had to do was make sure that he and his guys showed up on time.
Post # 6
My fiance, while not groom kong (or zilla) is highly involved. He picked the caterer (although delegated the menu to me). He’s doing hotel blocks. He’s helping design the invitations, picked colors with me, is working on the ceremony (no honey, I do not want a handfasting!), picked tuxes, and generally is helping a ton.
I’m really happy he’s so involved, and I wouldn’t trade it for the world… but unilateral decision would be simpler (and less fun).
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
We are deciding on/doing pretty much everything wedding/marriage-related together. There are a few things I’ll do on my own (dress for example), but honestly he’ll probably help me pick that out too. On his own, he’ll need to pick out his wedding band… and figure out who in his family/friends he wants to send an announcement to (if we get married in the courthouse) or invite (if we have a wedding). He definitely wants to be involved, though I imagine that we’ll both be trying to squeeze in whatever needs to be done between our exams and projects and reading assignments.
Post # 8
My finance has actually done much more work than I have so far.
He’s the one whose spoken with the potential caterers (although I will be there for the tastings), he set up hotel blocks and he reserved the reception site. I picked our readers and readings and registered for our Wedding Web site. We helped each other pick our outfits. (Yes, he’s seen me in my dress). And nothing else has been done.
In my defense for being such a slacker, I wanted to have a small family-only affair. He said he wanted a medium-sized (approx 125 guests) wedding with all his friends in attendence. I told him if he made that call, he had to do the lion’s share of the work.
The only thing I’m being a control freak about choosing is music. I must control the playlist!
Post # 9
My fiance has been letting me handle things although I’ve communicated all decisions getting his opinions. But, I’ve asked him to handle the transportation. He kind of balked at first but he’s going to do it.
I tend to like things my way although I’m flexible and compromised on a few things, but as long as we all get to the church and to the reception I’m happy!
Post # 10
Umm.. absolutely nothing. I guess you can say he "approves" my final selections…
Post # 11
Other than gathering all the contact info for his guests my husband took care of the after party, making sure his GMs got their info in to the tux place, dealt with his parents.
Post # 12
Sit there and look pretty.
Post # 13
My fiance is more than happy to go with me to meet all of the vendors, but he leaves most of the decision making up to me. In terms of wedding details, he reviews everything (invitations, centerpieces, etc.) and lets me know if he has any suggestions, but he’s a pretty "go with the flow" kind of guy. If I have a project, I can be kind of a control-freak, so our arrangement works out well. 🙂
Post # 14
My groomzilla is ultra involved…down the green colored Converse he wants for his men and the red parasol I’ll be using as a photo prop. He’s detail oriented, so this is pretty much up his alley. He’s had an opinion and idea on everything. We have pretty much made every single decision together, and he even took a Friday off of work to run wedding related errands. How’s that for a modern man, huh?
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm
While my FI initially said I could do everything, he’s become much more into the planning. At this point we really share in the duties, like I contacted the caterer, we developed a menu together, etc. He’s in charge of asking a friend to be our videographer and dealing with that sort of equipment, he’s also in charge of what the groomsmen will be wearing, but I’m sure he’ll want to show me things, just like I want to show him my bridesmaids things. He was also incharge of designing our invites, he wanted to, but I’ve helped a lot since he’s been super busy at work. It’s really a planning partnership!
Post # 16
@ mr. bee – Groom-kong is what happens if you play the wedding dash game and you do not deliver. haha!
I forgot to add the the FI is also doing the Honeymoon. He has also helped out with our wedding day timeline since he’s more experienced in that and will probably help out a little more with ceremony details.
I am really impressed with the ones that have been really involved! Mad props =)