Post # 1
FI and I are eloping and thinking of having a back home reception. More like party since it would be so few people. We don’t have much family.
FI’s mom and MAYBE grandma would show up. I just have two pairs of aunts and uncles and three cousins. We would invite a few friends but only one our two will most likely show. Would a bbq at our house be okay? We moved about six months ago so only our mom’s and a couple friends have seen the house so it could be a ‘housewarming party’ too. Or should we go to a restaurant? I’d like to keep it low key and inexpensive since we are paying for our weddingmoon and we have a few expensive things we need to purchase this year. We’re just looking to celebrate with family as we rarely see the little family we have besides our mom’s. N
What are you guys doing? How many guests do you expect? How far after your wedding are you having a reception back home? FI and I would like to finish the back yard so we have space for everyone so that may be up to 4 months later.
Post # 2
We are having it 6-7 months after, as when we get back from our destination wedding, it will be winter. We are wanting to have an outdoor/indoor at home reception with a fire pit and tiki torches and other fun stuff, so we are having it at a country hall outside of where we live where people can camp if they would like. This way, it’s very low key but still a fun party.
We are expecting anywhere from 100-300 as we both have huge families. Honestly, the FI doesn’t even want to have an at home reception but I come from a very traditional Ukranian family, so it’s pretty much a given that we are having an at home reception.
I think a backyard “reception” would be awesome, you could decorate it with tiki torches and lights and have it be themed.
Post # 3
JazzyGirl85: We don’t live near our families (we are in CA, they are all in GA) but we flew back to their state after our wedding to do a little party/get-together. We just rented out a bbq pavilion at a state park. Our families wanted to do something for us, so we asked them to bring a dish- I made a ton of sides, someone else brought ribs for the grill, my dad made a dutch oven peach cobbler. We spent maybe $50 on decor (single stem vases, tablecloths, and banners), and another $300 on food. Drinks had to be byob because the state park doesn’t allow alcohol so we were’n’t going to provide it but could careless if anyone brought it. We ended up with about 40 people- it was about a week after we got married (but just because it was easier than flying back to CA, then waiting a few months to have to take another flight to GA)…
Everyone loved it, thought it was pretty fun and had a great time hearing about our wedding & catching up in general. We setup a laptop on a table with a guestbook (that was never used) with pics of our wedding in a slideshow. Some people noticed it and loved watching the pics but others (like DH’s mom) apparently had no idea it was there.. <br /><br />
I think 4 months later is fine, but prepare yourserlf that nearly half a year later people may not be as excited as you expect…. You said no gifts, so that’s great too! We did get a couple, but not too many thankfully because we had to figure out how to stuff them in our luggage for the flights back home!
Post # 4
BeckyS0: no one besides our mom’s and two of my friends know we are getting married so it will be a surprise! I’m sure no one would be excited either way, though! Lol. So it’s more of just a get together for everyone to eat and see our house.
lilymarie23: yes, that’s like what we envisioned! We want to build a patio with a fire pit and have tiki torches, etc.
Post # 5
Our families and friends are scattered across the country (I’m from LA, he’s from the midwest, but his parents’ families are all on the East Coast, and we went to school in Connecticut and New York).
So we’re doing a teensy ceremony here in the midwest where we’re living for the year with just our immediate families, then a big reception in LA for my family and hometown friends (I have a large family, my dad’s close friend is a wedding planner, and my uncle owns a hotel with a very good restaurant, so this is gonna be a great deal for us), a very small dinner in western PA (where part of his family is from, they’re all elderly so they won’t travel for the other receptions), and then a small (around 30 person) reception in either New Haven (where we went to school) or Manhattan (where we’ll be living next year), with his family and our college/graduate school friends. #1 will be at uncle’s hotel, #2 will just be in a private room in a local restaurant, and #3 we’ll either rent our favorite restaurant in SoHo, or do a private room in a fancy New Haven restaurant. I don’t think we’re going to be worrying about stuff like decor and flowers for #2 and #3.
I loove your idea of a fire pit with tiki torches–I threw a party like that in my parents’ backyard in LA a few years ago, and it was awesome, everyone had an amazing time, and I got everything (food, liquor, flowers, decor including torches) from Costco so it was a total steal, something like $500 for around 100 guests. I wouldn’t be surprised if you could do the whole thing for a few hundred, maybe a little more if you want fancy champagne. (Which is still cheaper at Costco than anywhere else) (Uhhh I love Costco so much that it’s gonna sound like I work for them, but I don’t. Just obsessed haha.)
Post # 6
glasskey: I love Costco too!! FI LOVES cooking so I know he’ll want to make a lot of the food himself. Omg, I just want to buy all the delicious dips from Costco!!! Lol. I’m hungry now..
Post # 7
JazzyGirl85: COSTCO IS THE BEST. I’m getting my flowers from there, as well as my invitations! Also my engagement ring lol. I could live there. Maybe I’ll just get married AT Costco…
Anyway, if you do a barbecue, I think it will be amazing and fun and you’ll be able to offer more food and probably better food than if you went with a caterer. Can’t wait to hear about your plans/decisions!
Post # 8
We’re doing a bbq a month or so after we get back, nothing fancy at all.
Post # 9
Mr. Trilly and I got married in my hometown with all my friends and family (and a few of his friends from out of the country), but all but one sister was unable to come to the wedding. So when we go to his home country later this year we’ll be having a dinner with his family to celebrate the wedding and present my new mother in law with her wedding album. Assuming it ever gets here.