Post # 1
I am not the biggest fan of tradition. I want my wedding to reflect who my FI and I truly are and we are kinda strange sometimes and sometimes not so much. Just a few ideas I have had (and have probably been done before but are out the box enough to satisfy me, I live in a small town the is like 10 years behind on the times) are
my flower girl throwing glitter instead of flower petals
pretty much kicking out flowers and replacing them with feathers for the centerpieces(the groom and I both have allegies)
a sparkler exit
have one of our many gifted friends sing or play a song to kickoff the start of the (fun part!)reception after all the important dances and stuff are done
a picture of each guest with the groom or I will be our guest book where they can sign and write sure to be funny things in it.
our kids will dance our first dance with us.
my FI wants there to be a lightsaber battle at some point maybe something planned out with the bridal party.
we will name our tables after our favorite book, movies, in my case criminals (Hey! future criminal pyshcologist here!)
thinking but no so sure yet about singing a song for my FI as a suprise on the wedding day or recording one because he always wants to hear me sing and even though he and both families are always asking me to sing I don’t want it to seem self centered or attention grabby.
I want my colors to be black and deep royal purple but I may take my moms suggestion and do black and white with purple accents so it isn’t too much.
anyway that is a few nothing super crazy but something to break up the endless parade of wedding that seem exactly the same where I am from.
I would love to hear your ideas and what y’all are doing
Post # 3
– Video invites – no one on weddingbee was able to provide any help with these when I asked. For the non-traditional brides, any ideas? They are through a website, so will be done through webcam. We’ll record one and then send it to everyone with all the info. I think it’ll be neat and people won’t forget it! 🙂
– Walking down the aisle to “The Final Countdown” intro, because it makes me laugh.
– Video speeches
– Silly/funny entrance of wedding party and groom and I
… and more 🙂
Post # 4
@brittanyfm91: P.S. I love your ideas! Glitter will be fun and live music! Our photobooth will include photos where peeps can sign their name and message and it’ll be our guestbook.
And I love the lightsaber battle!! I’d totally do that.
Post # 5
Were doing a guest book quilt ( much to my families dismay), a wine ceremoy instead of unity candles, and a non reglious ceremony ( i think our families wanted to disown us!!)
Do what makes you guys happy! its your day!
Post # 6
@HotnHollerin: I love love love your video invite idea! and your song choice made me laugh also your wedding sounds fun!
Post # 7
@Jen51287: we are going non religious too. I think your quilt guestbook is a cute Idea and no unity candles either because it is lready a source of friction between my adopted parents and my birth mother plus it’s not my cup of tea anyway.
Post # 8
@brittanyfm91: THANK YOU!! No one has given me any feedback on it and I’m guessing that people think it’s tacky. I’ve never seen it done, so I’m kind of paving the way with it. I have two ideas…
1) I was thinking of just sitting with my FI and just saying something short and simple, that we’re getting married and would love for you to attend and celebrate with us…etc. Providing info in the email and on our website. We could do simple paper copies for one grandma and one aunt who don’t have internet.
2) Something a little sillier, as FI is a man of few words. I could talk and he could hold signs (white with words) as if we’re both talking. Everyone who knows FI would have a laugh.
Those are the only two ideas I have so far. It’s limiting as it’s by webcam, but I think it will be such a surprise! We still have another half year or more before we have to do it, but I like brainstorming now so we have a plan! 🙂
Post # 9
@HotnHollerin: I like the second one I can just picture it. have Video invtes for the more tech savvy and a few regular invites for older or guest without internet.
Post # 10
We would have a shorter list of traditional things we ARE doing.
Some highlights for the day-of:
Pop-up ceremony, standing only in a spot that you cannot get a permit for so we may or may not get arrested/ticketed (it’ll make for good pictures!) We have no aisle, music, chairs, decorations or anything else “wedding-y” for our ceremony.
Out of our 110 guests, 25 will be at the ceremony (but the rest don’t know that we’re getting married before the reception.)
Reception has no dancing, seated meal, favors, or garter or bouquet toss.
My dress is not white, and we have no bridal party or groomsmen.
A large number of family members are not invited to our ceremony.
Our guestbook is a typewriter (kind of played out, I know…) and our cardbox is a 1920’s hatbox
We’re also having a ring-warming ceremony, which I’ve learned on the bee is apparently cheesy but we are very excited for it 🙂
Our best friend is ordained and registered with NY state and is writing our entire ceremony, which we will not hear until the actual day-of. She has been a huge part of our relationship and we both expect to cry.
…less than 3 months now!
Post # 11
@brittanyfm91: Here is a light saber idea for you. FTR – my home is a cross between Star Wars, Star Trek, and The Big Bang Theory. I am not kidding.
OK – so, one of my DD’s was in wedding maybe 4 years ago. Her dear friend, the Bride, is a lovely young woman who refused to get all caught up in the pomp and circumstance her IL’s wanted and paid for. Her husband is a Star Wars geek. (that is a term of endearment where I come from). She surprised him when they were introduced into the ceremony.
They first did the wedding party and then closed the doors prior to the B&G being introduced. The lights went out and every member of the wedding party had a light saber turned on. They made an arch before the doors opened (think military wedding style) and the couple came in under the arch to the Imperial March. Coolest. thing. ever! Just a suggestion to share.
As far as your flower girl throwing glitter, where are you having your ceremony? I ask because I have had 2 weddings of my own, hosted weddings for 3 of 4 daughters and have hosted some open houses at venues also. I am so serious when I say that every contract I have ever dealt with had a no flower, no glitter, no nothing being tossed clause (I didn’t have a flower girl). I just wanted to throw that out there, no pun intended, so you could be aware of it.
I think black and white with deep purple accents would be gorgeous!
Post # 12
Civil ceremony outside, in the snow ! Where our guests will surround us instead of us being in front of them.
My dress will probably be black or another color instead of white.
There will be no dancing and no DJ – but instead we’re planning on having games. And as for music : classical and jazz for cocktail hour and dinner, rock and roll (ZZTop, ACDC, Kiss, Deep Purple) for the evening and games.
Probably will have pictures of our cats included somewhere as members of our family.
No flowers. Too expensive for me, but hey, it’s a winter wedding and I live in Canada ! 😉
No ”hitting on glasses for kisses”. Will ask tables to sing a love song to us if they want us to kiss. 🙂
We won’t exchange rings during the ceremony. We already have engagement rings (him and I) which were lovely but inexpensive, and we do not intend on buying new ones for the wedding. So why exchange those we already own (and wear) ?
I won’t say I do ”until death do us part”. But I will promise to honor my engagement to him every day, for each of the days in our lives that I will choose to spend with him. Both he and I are quite ”realistic” on this : we do want, wish and hope that we spend our life together. But … we can’t see in the future. And I can’t imagine myself promising something like that, and taking vows I might not be able to fulfill.
Post # 13
We are throwing out the idea of having a big wedding and just taking our immediate families on a weddingmoon. 15 of us will hang out in a house for a week, have great adventures (think white water rafting, hiking, mountain biking, beach time) and at the end of the week we’ll have a tiny little ceremony on the lawn. No real flowers, no chairs, no wedding party… Just us and the people we love the most.
Post # 14
Our ceremony will be a mix of Wiccan and Native American. For example, we will be honoring the four directions in our ceremony. We are only having light refreshments and cake after the ceremony and a huge pig roast the next day. Oh, and I am wearing a wedding HAT instead of a veil or hairpiece.
Post # 15
@hermom: at our community center which is really nice and they are not strict except no hanging or glueing anything on the walls they really don’t care as long as it gets cleaned up.
Post # 16
@trueblue14: I like the idea of a hat instead of a veil I considered it for about 5 minutes but I look rediculos in hats. 🙂