Post # 1
So I have started all the wedding planning and have gotten a kick out of all the great ideas. But I’m starting to get bummed when I think think about what is making this OUR wedding and not a picture perfect ideal of consumerism?
When I started planning, I had the idea of renting a huge loft, having long tables with glass jars and candle centre pieces, a dance floor to die for, pictures of us everywhere and nothing but cheap and awesome fun!
Now it’s turned into a brown and blush pink colour cordinated wedding, with long bridesmaids dresses, real flowers, table runners, chair covers and favors. (not hating on anyone who loves this but it’s not “me”)
So I guess I’m not really doing much at this point to make it OUR wedding.
What are you doing?
Post # 3
Eloping! 🙂 Mine all Mine. Well, and his too! lol.
Post # 4
i am right there with you, what i pictured my wedding to be is nothing like it has become. the colors arent what i wanted, the venues arent what i wanted but everything has worked out easy enough that i am just fine with the way things are, but just like you, its not me….my dress isnt even really me. haha what happened here? luckily im not to worried, i just want to have fun and finally be married, as long as it looks nice and everyone has a good time thats all im concerned about. There are certain things that i just knew i wanted to do…on our cake table im putting framed pictures of my parents and his parents on their wedding day, along with both sets of grandparents. it was just something that was important to me since all of them (from the outside looking in) have perfect marriages…i also want to do pictures of him and us from childhood to now….I also am not going to do the typical leave the reception and go to your room…im partying all night long. thats how im making it mine…i want to spend as much time with my family and friends as i can, not retire to my room at 11. thought ill probably do the send off just for pics, then return to party some more, maybe take it to a bar in my wedding dress 🙂
Post # 5
All of our guests have commented since our wedding that they loved it so much because it was so “us”. I put a lot of time and effort into very small details and I love the fact that our guests noticed and appreciated every single one of them. I’ll try to give you a run down off the top of my head:
- invitations – they told “our story” of how we met in an elevator simply, but elegantly
- venue- it was on the same river system our house is on, technically we could have thrown a canoe in the river and gotten home that way! Also, the venue was a really gorgeous rehabilatated mill, DH and I both work in design/construction, so it was the perfect venue that reflected our passions as well as personal style (rustic meets contemporary).
- Programs – Designed to match our invites with the elevator type motif going on as well as a thank you note for our guests in the back. I hand stitched these (and the invites).
- Escort cards – Handmade by me, my sister and I picked out fabric for each table (10 tables total) and I made buttons out of the fabric for each escort card that coordinated with the jam jar skirts on the favours
- Placecards & menus – again, made by me
- Catering – We used a chef we’ve hired for private dinners that we’ve raved about to anyone who would listen. Our dinners with him are so personal and our favourite nights, it was really meaningful to share his meal with all our closest friends and family at the wedding.
- Dessert buffet – I bought as well as made cake toppers for our buffet, made signs for each of the desserts, and made a few things for the buffet as well. I also bought really cool dinner tie napkins which is likely something funny you’d see at one of our dinner parties at home 🙂
- Cupcakes/wedding cake – I made the cupcake picks, wrappers, and cake topper. This again tied in with the elevator/telling our story motif.
- Favours – homemade caramel. Nuff said.
- Favours – Forget-me-not seeds from the Alzheimer’s Society of Toronto since my grandmother couldn’t make it due to her illness.
- Flowers – lots of white roses in honour of my other grandmother who passed last summer and had beautiful rose gardens
- Bridal accents – I wore my grandfather’s WWII dress lapel pin on my dress (he was pleased as punch!), and a locket with both my grandmother’s photos inside on my bouquet. I also had fabric flowers from my mom’s wedding dress wrapped around the handle of my bouquet.
- Table scapes – DH and a friend hand picked each piece of barnboard on our table tops, and I scoured Value Village and Goodwill for months for silver teapots for our centerpieces. I also hand wrapped our votive holders in lace.
Those are just off the top of my head. The list is freaking endless. Honestly, the response we’ve gotten from our guests since the wedding has been amazing. They all loved how much the wedding was about “us” rather than a more fill-in-the-blanks type wedding. I guess my advice to you is that it’s up to you to create the ambience and how you want your guests to experience your wedding step by step. If you want a loft, book a loft! No one is telling you to have your wedding at a golf and country club other than their marketing execs 😉
Post # 6
@bakerella: Oh wow! That’s pretty awesome! I kind of snooped through your profile and your fabric buttons are awesome!
I guess I need to find these little ways of making it ours!
Do you have pictures of your teapots? My FI and i LOVE LOVE LOVE thrift shopping (wierd i know) and that seems like a cool project!
Post # 7
Sorry, that was a LONG list I know. I have a few photos, but nothing professional yet, so please excuse the quality. I totally loved the thrift shopping and I also bought all the stainless steel cake stands for our dessert buffet. Oh and I made a cake stand too! Dear god the list never ends!!!
This was all the silver I accumulated. On the left are the cream/sugar pots which I filled with baby’s breath, the centre is all the candle stick holders which we really didn’t end up using other than the big one for our sweetheart table, and on the right are our teapots. I had teapot polishing parties with my friends and my mom’s neighbours to get it all pretty!!!
I actually ended up not polishing one teapot because it looked really different, so we looked it up and found out it was worth $200!!! I got it for $15! Great find huh?! So here’s what they looked like after the florists filled them:
Oh ya, I made those table numbers and the little birds that sat on the place cards too.
If there’s anything you guys are “known” for (ie love of a particular food, music, movie, a trademark piece of clothing or accessory) use it! I think that’s what made our wedding so successful. Lots of thoughtful details. I even put a little secret note behind one guest’s escort card when she pulled the button off that said “Congrats Mrs XXX” because she had gotten married the weekend before us.
Post # 8
Oh one other thing I did that was meaningful for a few specific people, I put their wedding songs on our “must play” list. They noticed and practically melted when they heard their song being played! I loved seeing the smile on their faces because I knew that they would be thinking about their own weddings on our day 🙂