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    farmersdaughter    June 26, 2010  

    I've been thinking about this a lot lately...what are you all doing to maintain balance in the midst of planning a wedding? If you're anything like me, you love your wedding, but often feel stressed and overwhelmed with everything you have to do. It can be hard to balance work, school, relationships (both with FI and others in your life) all while planning a wedding. Its even harder to "do it all" while still being healthy, both mentally and physically.

    I haven't gotten it down yet, but here are some of the things I try to do:

    -Running

    -Yoga

    -Pre-marriage counseling (our church requires this, and I've actually found it to be really therapeutic, and it helps me remember why I'm getting married!)

    -Take a "day off" from wedding stuff here and there to hang out with friends or do non wedding-related things with FI

     

    I'm curious - what does everyone else do to stay "sane"?

     
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    ProudPeacockBride    August 13, 2011   Washington

    Sane? What's sane?!?! I haven't been in that state of mind for quite some time now! Hehehe!

     
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    farmersdaughter    June 26, 2010  

    Haha I feel you, proudpeacockbride! I definitely don't claim to be sane...I do strive for sanity daily, though. Maybe I'll get there someday!

     
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    LittlestBirds    July 24, 2010   Seattle, WA

    Just working out every day helps keep me balanced in general.

     
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    Miss Olive    February 20, 2011   Albany, NY

    Well, I work out.  And I have lately become addicted to an Australian soap opera courtesy of streaming Netflix.  It's called McLeod's Daughters.  I highly recommend it.

     
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    Blueshoes2    June 2010   PA

    I second the marriage counseling.  I've been reading a lot more lately, which helps me relax.  Watching my fav shows is a welcome distraction too.  Coming on Weddingbee actually helps me feel sane, because I realize I'm not alone in this school/wedding/work thing!

     
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    msqthoney    April 10, 2010   Los Angeles, California

    hmmm... weddingbee actually keeps me sane.  and my books, of course :)

     
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    I saw a counselor in the weeks leading up to the wedding.  I needed someone wiser than me to help me put things into perspective and make sense of all the impending changes.  Not to mention, there were definitely relational issues (with the future husband, with family, etc) that crop up as part of the wedding stress that I needed to discuss with a non-partial party.

     
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    sewing    July 2010   SF Bay Area / Oahu

    i make a list of things i want to do after the wedding. it helps keep me in perspective. i also de-wedding-stress by doing neutral, mundane things i enjoy -like crosswords and jeopardy and reading a ton of non-depressing-happy-ending fiction! or there's always the reliable 'get some fresh air' walk outside!

     
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    tbk041710    04-17-10   Augusta, GA

    I make to-do lists for everything.  I am totally type A so it gives me great pleasure to cross something off a list.  I also work out daily with my FI.  I also have to make sure that I spend enough time on my school work or I get completely stressed out, but I have a list for that too!

     
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    farmersdaughter    June 26, 2010  

    Awesome suggestions, ladies! There's one I forgot on my list - my dog. Spending some quality time with my puppy always helps me keep things in perspective. Its hard to be stressed out with her tail a-waggin', and she's always so happy to see me when I get home it momentarily makes me forget about all the stress Smile

     
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    stlginkgo    3/20/10  

    yeah....um at this point there are things I jsut HAVE to get done since it is getting closer (36 days eek!) bt I guess my yoga is something I do for me

     
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    g8rgirl1020    March 5, 2011   Orlando, FL

    Running daily. It gives me a chance to clear my head from my classes and wedding planning.

     
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    Tiger and Pearl    June 5, 2010   New York, NY (Wedding in Lexington and Red River Gorge, Ky)

    Iguess what I do is allow time for myself not to think about the wedding.  I try to *not* bring up the wedding when I chat with friends because I tend to highjack the convo if I do.

    I'm currently not working so I get to spend lots of time obsessing during the day.  At night, I get off the laptop after my FI gets home so we can spend quality time together.  We cook dinner together, then watch a movie or a documentary.

    I also try to do some stuff around the house - basic cleaning and laundry - when I get too immersed in wedding details. 

    I just rejoined my gym after a month of no membership and I think that will help, too.

     
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    i've actually not been stressed out at all by wedding planning- what's more fun than planning a giant party for all your friends and family! i jokingly said to my FI "now i know why the divorce rate is so high- cause people want to plan a second wedding!" i guess i just trust everything will work out in the end so why worry about it!

     

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