Post # 1
Okay so my fiancee and I grew up in different parts of the country – Chicago – where the norm is “adults only” wedding and reception, and New Mexico – where the norm is that kids come to both the wedding and reception. To be quite honest, I don’t think that people would get it if we wrote “Adults only reception” on the invitation because its so out of the norm.
Have any of you ladies had experience with a corporate babysitter or having someone do activities with children? I don’t mind the kids honestly, but at my sisters wedding they were completely out of control, parents letting the kids run around on the dance floor when their first dance and other special moments were going on.
Is there a way that we can make both sides happy or do we just make a decision and run with it? What decision have you made for your wedding – kids, no kids or a combination?
Post # 3
We are having kids at the wedding, but only family kids, which will be about 8 of them aged 3 – 9.
I decided not to go with a babysitter b/c I know most of the kids would escape and want to be at the party with their parents.
I’m doing a kids table, which will have their parents at an adjacent table. We have little gift bags for the kids with coloring/activity books, colored pencils (I avoided markers), little puzzles, army men, and some other little toys. I went to Party City and found the aisle with the birthday party favors and got some great deals! I figured each new toy would buy us another 5 minutes of the kids being occupied. Most of these kids were at my bridal shower and they were suprisingly well behaved, they even helped me open gifts!
I might have a little chat with my one niece about being good. She sometimes throws tantrums and instigates things with other kids. I think I’ll talk to her at the rehearsal and tell her how good she is being and how happy I am that she is being a great flower girl, blah blah blah!!
I can’t imagine my wedding without my nieces and nephews. I can’t wait to see my brothers dancing with their little girls standing on their shoes!
Post # 4
There will be no children at our wedding, with the exception of those in our bridal party. Our famliy dynamics are similar to yours. Where I am from “adults only” receptions are the norm, whereas that is virtually unheard of where my fiance is from. We have had to be very open and honest with everyone to make sure they understand that children are not invited. Some are okay, some are not. But we are sticking with our decision.
Post # 5
No kids here, and that seems to be the norm around here. However, my venue has long docks on the water with no railing plus open bar, so absolutely no kids will be allowed! It’s really a major safety issue.
Post # 6
we are having 6 kids (ages 7-12) at our ceremony and reception, but only because they are in our wedding. those are the only exceptions i can make. i didn’t feel right asking them to be a part of our wedding and not inviting them to the reception (although i think that’s ok if you can make it up to them another way). that being said, they are very well behaved. i will not have a sitter. i am going to have a table just for them (they are all girls) and include fun activites and stuff. i’m sure they will partake in the dancing when we get to it, so i’m not too worried.
Post # 7
We’re going to have about 14 between the ages of 2-17. Most of them neices and nephews. Kids at weddings is the norm around here. I’ve been thinking about setting up a kids table where they can go color, do word puzzles, etc.
We never thought of not including kids but our ceremony is outdoors and our reception venue is kid friendly. It actually has a separate bar area. There is also a little lounge area with a tv so if parents wanted, they could have their kids watch a movie or cartoons.
If we were having a formal wedding at a much fancier venue, we may have considered not including kids.