- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
And how much are you spending?
And how much are you spending?
First time round…
We bought both sets of Parents the “Parents Wedding Album” that our Photographer offered.
This time round, we are Eloping, so there won’t be any Parents present. Do think though that I’ll get a nice photo framed for my Dad & his wife.., for decades he displayed a couple of pics from my first Wedding (25 Years), and since the Divorce he’s removed them all out of respect to me… lol, I kind of miss seeing such “Happy” Family Pics when I visit him, so it’ll be nice to see some NEW ONES in their place.
We are spending a considerable amount on our parent’s gift. Only because they are paying for most of our wedding and have not demanded any extra guestlist or must haves on us.
So our dad’s will be getting a bottle of Johnny Walker Blue’s and we are getting our mother’s designer scarves.
We’ve gotten the following:
For my Dad: Embroidered hanky, cufflinks, and he will also get a photobook from the photog, later.
For FI’s parents: embroidered hankies, a golf pick (or something like that) for FI’s Dad, a Willow Tree figurine for FI’s Mum, and a photobook..
For my Mum: Nothing, yet. We’ve never been close, and I’m actually surprised she’s coming to the wedding. I’m at a loss about what to get her, however, as I’d feel awkward giving her anything sentimental.
We aren’t getting them anything. We paid for the wedding ourselves, and they don’t expect anything. Actually, technically they’re getting a grandchild, cause we’re pregnant. lol.
My wedding is only a week away and I’m still unsure about this for 2 reasons. One reason is my parents never want ‘things’ as gifts because they have everything they need. The second reason is because in talking to friends, a lot of them have never heard of buying gifts for the parents- so I’m not sure whether it is something we need to do.
We are definitely planning on giving each set of parents a framed wedding picture of us, but that will probably be given as a Christmas gift. Fiance and I also decided at the last minute to hire a pair of musicians to play irish music during cocktail hour. My parents are paying for the wedding, but we are paying for this to surprise for them because I know my dad will love it. So, that is technically a gift to them I guess!
FI’s dad: engraved pocket watch
FI’s mom: embroidered picnic basket set
My mom: embroidered hankerchief and a Swarovski necklace
My stepdad: grilling basket that we’re putting together
My dad: embroidered hankerchief and something else (undecided)
My stepmom: most likely a really nice robe and slippers
I struggled with this sooooo much (and continue to when it comes to my dad!). My parents are each contributing to our wedding a little bit but FIs parents are not. They are all getting gifts out of appreciating for their support — not just financial contribution. Almost everyone that I’ve mentioned this to (including our parents!!) did not know that you’re “supposed” to buy gifts for your parents. Maybe it’s a dying tradition!
Hm. I’d love to get them both (FMIL and FFIL/FSMIL) wedding albums, but…those are really expensive (rightfully so, but way out of our budget at the moment).
Like @brighteyedgirl, I’m not close with my mother and will be surprised if she shows up to the wedding.
Our parents are contributing a lot to the wedding so we wanted to do something really nice.
My Parents: Night in a casion, dinner, some gambling money
FI’s Parents: Night in a B&B and maybe some champagne or wine for the room.
@RunsWithBears: Aw same! We are giving both sets of parents a night (maybe two nights, haven’t decided) in a B&B. They never go on vacation or take time off, and my parents are paying for most of the wedding so we really feel like we owe them. We are going on a really big honeymoon to Australia and New Zealand and feel guilty leaving them behind… So hopefully they’ll get some R&R in the Texas Hill Country 🙂
We bought both of our mothers clutches ($120 each), his dad a travel case and carry-on bag he’d been admiring in the store ($100) and my dad a watch ($450).
We split paying for the wedding 3 ways (his parents, my parents, and my husband) but both of our parents had kind of a tough year financially, so we wanted to show them our appreciation with nice gifts. It was kind of weird for me to see such a disparity in what we spent (particularly on the dads) but my husband doesn’t look at (well, he looks at them, but doesn’t compare) price tags and never cares if it’s “even” or “fair,” such as for Christmas, etc. His dad already had a nice watch and my dad didn’t, and my husband wanted him to have one. (Anyone else have hangups with this? Like at Christmas, I’ve always tried to make gifts evenly priced for my parents, his parents, our siblings, etc. and my husband thinks it’s so silly and that we should buy them what they will like and what we want to give them.)
They all loved their gifts. The picture of my dad trying on the watch for the first time makes me want to cry!
For my parents, we had a custom frame made from Etsy. It was this one but with our details on it:
DH’s mom is a hoarder so we decided not to get them any more “stuff.” Instead, we decided to take them to an Orioles game, tour the stadium, and a nice dinner.
I got my FIs mom an embroidered hanky. I think I will just be getting my parents an album. Probably the day of the wedding I will give them a very nice card thanking them for everything and saying that I will be making them a photo album. I hope that’s enough!
we are getting them each 1 framed picture from the wedding. They helped us pay for the wedding, so understand that we aren’t able to get them something more extravagent.
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