Have you thought of this before the engagement, after the engagement, during the wedding planning?
I am sure most of your time, energy and excitement (even stress and frustration) has been taken up planning for your special day BUT after the day has come and gone.........what is you next chapter, aim, focus?
Are you gonna start focusing on caring for or building even buying the house, popping out babies (words of my BFF...LOL), WHAT?!!
I would love to hear WHAT'S NEXT? from my fellow Bees.
For me I am still to determine this! What about you......???*Twilight Zone sound effects*
Our plan is too continue growing together as a couple, take a few years to just be with eachother and do things together as a married couple. Then we want to buy a house/start having children.
@Mz Izzie: We haven't thought about it in great detail, but there are a few things we'd like to achieve over the next 2-5 years:
- We want to take a honeymoon. We're waiting until spring 2014 to go (we're getting married in November 2013), but it'll be a fun thing to look forward to.
- We want to buy a house. We've gotten pretty comfortable in our apartment (it's actually pretty spacious and nice), but we'd love to actually own something.
- We're going to start trying to have kids. He wants kids more than I do, but we've both agreed that it's kind of "now or never" for us since we'll be 29 (me) and 31 (him) by the time we're married. I know women have kids well into their 40's, but that's not something I'd personally be interested in doing.
- We'd like to get a dog. We can't have one in our apartment (and really we wouldn't want to have one here), but we'd love to get one once we move into a house.
I won't be finished with my teaching credentials until the following year, but we plan on starting to try for a baby around September of the year that we're married...then hopefully a house the following year :-) We'll see how things go!
We'll enjoy each other for a few years and use that time to save for a house and travel a lot. The rough plan is to buy our forever house 2-3 years after we're married (already have a small one) and start TTC 3-4 years after we're married.
First we'll enjoy our honeymoon which wil be 3 months after the wedding & start the attempt of baby making then :)
We have a house already, so after the wedding I plan on focusing all my attention on furthering my career and finishing my Master's degree, which should be done mid 2014. We will travel and grow together as a couple. Babies are not in the picture for another 3-4 years.
We plan to save for many years for a perfect home! We also want to travel alot! See the world before we start a family!
I voted for "other": an internship, and then graduate school! No house or babies for us for QUITE a while (we plan to be in apartments for quite some time: first for our 3 years of graduate school, then as we save money), and no babies for at least 5 years. But I'm sure graduate school will keep us PLENTY busy!!
There's so much more out there than babies, houses, and spiritual growth! We really felt like life itself was so fulfilling that checking off an expected "life list" box wasn't super necessary. We traveled the world for 8 months, moved, got new jobs, made new friends, and enjoyed ourselves. Over 2 years later, we just now are getting around to buying a place. Babies aren't on the horizon for another couple of years at least.
@Miss Bat: Grad school pretty much is a baby. It's expensive and exhausting. But the results are worth it.
WEEELLLL, I'm an animation student and I will have just graduated before we get married and he JUST started his innactive duty in the Corps and has started college at Le Cordon Blu. So, after our wedding we will go wherever his externship is ( might be Alaska) and then we will go wherever I can find a job and then he will continue his college education :)
We'll both be graduating, and then we'll move (likely up to Boston) for his grad degree in architecture.
He toured Yale today, and seemed to really like it. They said they would help me find a job if he got accepted. <3 His Harvard tour is tomorrow.
Hmmm I already have a son who is graduating from high school and we bought our townhouse last year so my after the wedding plans are pretty different than most people. I guess it's time to figure out my career direction as I am only working casually at the moment
Our plan is to take a honeymoon to Italy this winter, and then attend a family reunion for my Hubby's side in Portugual. After that, we're ready for whenever kids decide to make an appearance. We grow together every day, and look forward to what the future holds. :)
I started grad school right after the wedding, so other!
Well, I'll be finishing school and getting ready to take my registry exam for radiologic technology, so there's that. We already have a house so we'll focus on paying it off. Other than that, I haven't thought about it much. We're just going to focus on being married and building our relationship. We also plan to travel a little at some point.
Honeymoon, finish law school, find a job, and start TTC :)
@littlemisst08: So I've heard!! I can't imagine both of us juggling our graduate school baby AND a real baby (although I know people do--my mom had two toddlers while in graduate school!!). But I'm looking forward to the rewards, too!
FH has a Masters degree but is going back to school to be a dentist. We hope to save up while I'm working and while he goes to school. We will buy a house once it is clear where he will end up working and then an (adopted) baby will follow.
Finish School
Find Super good jobs - at least for him
Get a home
Start making babies!
All the while figuring out whats best for our marriage and what we want for our spiritual life cause getting married took us away from the church we both grew up in.
Buying a house ideally but I'd love to have a baby now. We have a two bedroom apartment, *winks*
lol, I am baby crazy right now. I am dying for one. I have been like this since way before the wedding. A couple years into our relationship DH caught me checking out cribs at target LMAO.....>.<;;; I want oneeee
Like a PP, right after the wedding I was concentrating on amping up my CV for grad school. We were married in Oct 2010, started the grad app process in Fall 2011 (which was a stupid amount of work!), and moved last July 2012 to our new home! My program is 5 years, so babies and houses aren't on the radar for several years (if ever, lol).
We're both upgrading in college; I'm 23 and just starting a second degree in Nursing, and he's 22 and upgrading to work in a medcal lab after his undergrad degree. We'll continue with that. We're saving so we can have a downpayment for a home by the time we graduate; we'll graduate with fairly minimal debt at this rate because we've made a committment to live fairly frugally.
We're childfree by choice, so that's not in our future. So far we've made varying savings accounts for our home, our future debt, and the vacations that we have planned for the coming years!
Buying a place! It's been on hold for a year, so we're starting up on that process again.
@Mz Izzie: Well we are in the process of buying our house right now. Its a short sale so it will take awhile. We should own it a few months before the wedding. I would absolutely LOVE to get to the baby making right away but really after the wedding my focus will be finishing my bachelors and both of us will be securing steady jobs in our profession. We both work now of course but our careers still need to be established. Other than that, we are going to check a few things of our bucket list, including traveling!
Travel travel travel! My job is changng to where will be traveling 80% of the time and making more money. Fi can come with me at times too, and we can go on trips a lot more often to other places as well. One of my dreams is to stand on the Great Wall of China. I also need to visit Peru, Japan, Indonesia, Belize, all of Europe....haha...
We relaxed after the wedding. Still relaxing actually and we planned a long 9 day beach trip for this summer. Actually we also planned a cruise for 2014 and a trip to Disney World in 2015 so I guess we just went travel plan crazy after the wedding.
After our wedding I switched jobs, then it was the holidays. In late winter/early spring we started planning a delayed honeymoon for August. Then we started looking for a condo. We took the trip, FINALLY closed on our new place in late November, and now we are settling in with a long list of small scale home improvement projects. And we are also TTC.
My husband got a new job less than a month before the wedding and I received a promotion the week after I returned from our honeymoon so the past few months have been us adjusting to our new positions. Next up is lots of travel, travel, travel and hopefully buying a house in the next year!! I will admit to having some baby fever, but that is a long ways down the road still. :)
We will have just moved before the wedding and we are not planning to have kids so those aren't really issues... FI will work on personal growth (working to get his engineering license), and what will I do!? I don't know!!
Seems like a lot of things are going on with us...lol.
We are currently growing spiritually and are in the process of building our house. Already have a kid, we know we want another one but not right now, too much going on! lol
Focusing on our careers, nesting (I have a borderline obsession with Young House Love!), and traveling. We don't plan on TTC for 5+ years, we have a lot of adventurous things we want to do first haha.
2013: younger daughter turning 18, graduating from HS, getting her first car, heading to college; reevaluate my career, continue to build and expand hubby's company; climb Mt. Whitney with my dad, husband, and whoever else wants to come; go to Hawaii for a week; buy a house; visit Montreal
2014: visit Europe with my parents; older daughter finishing college; visit Vancouver; milestone (not saying which one) birthday trip with my older sister;
No babies for us; hubby already has 2 grown daughters and we are not having any together.
Our plan is to honeymoon for 2 weeks right after the wedding.
Come back and get this house in order (me) since I will have graduated from my MSW in June also. I'll have some free time on my hands. I want to catch up on a lot of the things I let fall behind over the last year.
Plan to start making family visits to FI (CA) and my family (ID) for Thanksgivings and Christmases and to see my guardian for their big family reunion in August.
We plan to go on tons of dates and to travel, go on road trips, hike mountains etc. We already have a cruise planned with friends for 2014...so we'll be saving up for that.
We also plan to fully pay off all student loan debt.
Finally we will start saving for a down payment!
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