Post # 1
I feel like in general I’m scaling back quite a bit in everyday life when it comes to my unneccesary spending. I’ve always been pretty frivolous with my money until the husband came along. Have you seen Confessions of a Shopaholic? I’m Rebecca Bloomwood, without the ridiculous credit problem. I adore shopping. Since becoming an independent adult, I have always been able to shop whenever I wanted. Not so much right now. And I’m pretty much okay with that. Pretty much. I do hate it when the husband points out how much stuff I have when I say I need something new. That really pisses me off. Anyway, here are the things that I am not spending money on:
*Shoes. I love my designer shoes. I miss shoe shopping, and I’m afraid it will never be the same again.
*Purses. Obviously every girl loves a good purse. I need a seperate closet for my purses. Love em!!
*Cocktail dresses. For some reason, I am drawn to buying cocktail dresses. Most of them I’ve never worn, and it’s not like I have a whole lotta’ soirees to attend. It’s silly, but I just feel so pretty in a good cocktail dress.
* This one is bad. Clothes for my daughters. I literally cannot walk past kids clothes without buying something for my girls. Excruciating. This summer, I went through their clothes, and had to really come to the realization that they’re fine with what they have. My sister scolded me.
*Stinky cheese!! We love wine and cheese. We love trying new gourmet goodies. It’s been Triscuits and cheddar for a while.
So, is there anything in particular that you crave to buy that’s on hold until after the wedding? Or do you feel like you’re scaling back too? I have a feeling I’m going to lose my mind when the fall lines start hitting stores in a few weeks.
Post # 3
I am a shoe-a-holic, as well as, a book-a-holic. I have not bought any unless it is a steal because I rather spend the money on the wedding. I have to tell you though that it is VERY hard.
Last night I started emptying out my closet of clothes that I either don’t fit in or haven’t worn in a long time… So guess what that means? SHOPPING TIME!!! At least the wedding is a little over a month away. I think I can hang for a bit.
Post # 4
Books! I loves me some books. My library card has gotten significantly more use since wedding budgeting began!
Post # 5
We are really trying not to eat out as much – and i too am battling my love of shopping for the love of my beautiful day.
It’s hard, but I feel good about it. I feel good to watch that savings grow and to see that I can make it. I’ve always been a thrifty shopper, but planning a wedding has put that in high gear. I find myself watching sales more. I am planning a HUGE purge of kids stuffin my house this week – they are growing super fast right now and they have way too many clothes. Luckily i found a resale store that will pay cash for their clothes.
The only big thing that’son hold for me is a new vehicle. I’m sure it’ll be about two years before i can do that.
Post # 6
Books here too! I love to read and I love to have piles and piles of books but since I’ve been planning a wedding and unemployed, I’ve stopped buying books and started going to the library. The only thing that sucks is that we live in a small town/rural area and our library doesn’t have a great selection. But I’m dealing with it.
Post # 7
I’m pretty much the same as everyone else. DEFINITELY shoes, clothes, and purses — hurts so much. Books too, I love to read and I used to just go to the bookstore on a whim and browse for good books. Now, I usually only go if there’s a book I already know I want. I just have to keep reminding myself it’s worth it!
Post # 8
I am obsessed with COACH!! I don’t buy much of Coach but I sure do drool over their purses. I really want one…and sadly am not going to get one until after the wedding hahah!
Post # 9
No more books at the bookstore– now, when I find a title I want, I go to Amazon.com and buy it in the used section. Usually only a penny, plus shipping, so works out pretty cheaply. Then I sell it back when I’m done, so in all usually only costs me a dollar or so per book.
Post # 10
FI and I really took a hard look at our budgets when we got engaged. He’s paying for grad school out of pocket and I’m staring down student loans that come out of school deferment around Christmas time (Happy Holidays, right?).
Our biggest reductions have been:
Eating out (we LOOOOOVE food and love trying new restaurants. We eat out once or twice a week now — if it’s twice, it’s usually at places where we can each eat for under $7 bucks or so)
Books (like the y’all, I’ve become a library whore basically)
Man, come next March when I’m packing for the honeymoon I think I’m filling it with brand new books and since we’re going to an all-inclusive, I plan on eating like a champ. I have some time to make up for!!
Post # 11
Clothes in general. I bought, I believe, one nice designer item (a JCrew purse for like $250) throughout the course of my wedding planning. Everything else was a necessity (as in a few basic inexpensive items so i had a proper work wardrobe or my running shoes got holes, etc).
I’m so happy I can go shopping again! Amazon.com is always cheap!
I didn’t skimp on my food, though. I know healthier food is more expensive than things like pizza and corn dogs from the freezer section, but I made myself make sure I didn’t waste any, either! In the month before the wedding, I bought a lot of prepackaged organic, low processed foods and my grocery bills skyrocketed, but i had no time to cook and wasn’t going to compromise for bad food
Post # 12
ejs-My fiance aren’t scrimping on food either. We eat a lot of fresh fruit and veggies. We hardly ever eat fast food and the only frozen food we buy are the steamers veggies and tater tots (fiance loves them). Besides, eating healthy is cheaper in the long run.
Post # 13
One of the things we did before the wedding was eating at home more often. My husband used to buy lunch everyday, but he started bringing his own lunch from home instead. This not only helped us save money, but it was actually better for him as well. I stopped getting my Starbucks everyday and cut back to once a week. Those lattes can really add up!
Post # 14
I’m right there with you! I’ve put some beautiful items (even on sale!) back on the rack thinking – I can invite one more person to the wedding!
The most painful part is walking by the ‘come hither’ shoes….and Starbucks!
We are also trying to scale back eating out in nice places, which is also hard since most of our friends don’t think twice about splurging on food and drinks at [very] nice restaurants…
Post # 15
We’re making an effort to eat out less (we tend to eat out about 3-5 times per week) and I’m making an effort to keep things at work that I can have for lunch instead of buying lunch. This is probably the biggie!
But I also work in a majorly tempting shopping area in Dublin and have to walk by all kinds of shops just to get to and from work. I’ve been pretty good since getting engaged but it’s a struggle sometimes to stay mindful about how much a little here and ‘oh it’s on sale!’ really adds up. Like carrie38707 said – those purchases can mean adding or subtracting a guest!
Post # 16
I’ve cut out almost all of my "slush" fund to save for the wedding… cutting back on books (only one every two weeks! and I read FAST!), trying not to eat out as much, excessive clothes shopping… I find that I often will ask myself, "Do I really need this or could I save the money?" and often the answer is… save the money!