Post # 1
This goes out to all my waiting bees.
Are any of you planning, I mean REALLY planning while you wait.
For example, I have decided my colors, I have a selection of dresses picked out, my invitations picked out, programs picked out, favors picked out, some florists picked out to visit, my venue picked out (who is also my caterer and cake maker), my DJ picked out, my photographer picked out, and some options for videographer picked out and thats just to name a few.
Am I an anxious overly prepared freak of nature? Is this strange and ridiculous?
Or are other waiting bees planning for their big day also while they wait?
Post # 3
I am enjoying every day as it comes and am excited and happy that sometime this year I will be proposed to 🙂 We have talked as to when we would like to have a wedding and it’s October 2013.
I have also started to practise making scented soy candles so I can get good enough to make my own favors for our wedding 🙂
I have an idea of my hairstyle and there is a dress online that i love, but haven’t tried anything on and won’t until the time comes.
Post # 4
@Happy Hopeful Bee: the only problem with picking everything out is that you don’t know if they will be available on the date you want to have your wedding! I guess if your date is flexible than it’s not such a big deal…we did put a deposit on a venue and on the band since we had to have a specific date! Now that these things are done I can’t help but look at colors/bridesmaid dresses/flowers etc.!
Post # 5
Thanks for sharing. I’m sure your soy candles will turn out great, love the personal touch!
I’ve done a lot of the planning but have not physically gone anywhere to try on anything or meet with vendors or make downpayments, or anything of that nature.
But it’s safe to say that I pretty much have everything for that day all picked out.
Once I get that ring, all I have to do is hit the streets and lock everything in, Yay!
I’m pretty excited, can’t wait to get my ring and get married to SO…but for now, back to waiting…
Post # 6
I agree, thats definitely the downside, we are flexible in that we want to be married by the end of this year (so he says, him having no idea the work it takes to plan a wedding, lol) which is why I had to get a move on things early…he’s been really good at being supportive and giving me his thoughts and ideas about what we should do, all the while with me NO RING!!!
I do have very specific things in mind and even though I too would like it to be this year, I am open to being flexible within reason in order to have the most important elements remain the same, like my venue, I LOVE IT! But, I also have a back up venue picked out just in case…LOL!
Bcuz like you said, you never know…
Post # 7
@Happy Hopeful Bee: It sounds like you’ve been busy with your planning! That’s awesome. It’s really exciting to be able to plan already!
I haven’t visited any veunes or picked dates or made any super concrete plans. I would really like to include my SO and I think if we started planning before the proposal, it would stress him out big time.
That being said, I have a collection of pictures/info in my email that I’m using as inspiration when I actually get to start planning. I have a picture of what I think I want in my head but so much of it depends on the venue we go with. I know what colors I want, what type of dress I *think* I want, and we’ve already settled on wedding pie. I started collecting music too. Right now I’m in the brainstorming phases.
I think I have about 3 months until a proposal so until then, I’ll just stick to daydreaming…
Post # 8
I would say I’m not doing anything, but I’m on Weddingbee sooo….. I like to say I’m passively researching. I’m not looking things up or planning anything but I’ve learned a lot about weddings just from being around this site for so long.
Post # 9
I have my pinterest board with ideas. I’ve slowley managed to figure out what kind of wedding i want as far as decor, colour etc. Just general ideas. They could change when i start seriously deciding.
I’m trying to get in shape and do projects around the house. Anything to help me not wonder if he will do it soon.
Post # 10
I was planning back in December and January! I went to a bridal show, signed up on The Knot, researched, asked the SO some questions and started eliminating things. Then we even went to see a venue together!!!!
I went to Alfred Angelo to try on gowns. I broke down the next day because I felt like it wasn’t really real and I didn’t think it was coming. Well it’s been 5 months and it hasn’t soooooo…
I ain’t plannin’ no more.
Post # 11
@missjuli. I AGREE BIG TIME!
Which is why even though I have a firm idea on how I would like every single thing to be and have discussed the majority with SO, I havent gone to try on dresses, havent met with vendors, or anything else because 1) NO RING and 2) i really feel it will make my wait that much harder…totally understand the breakdown thing, that could be me…
So, the waiting and the planning continues…
Post # 12
@Happy Hopeful Bee: That’s a smart move, I think. Plus I think him knowing I was doing all that stuff made him feel like a proposal wouldn’t have even been special since I was already acting like we were engaged. Anything I do now “research” wise is not beknownst to him.
Post # 13
I hate waiting. ‘Nuff said.
Post # 14
I’ve been semi-planning with just 1 or 2 things decided on but also still in school.
Post # 15
I wouldn’t say that I’m really planning but more researching and collecting information.
I voted that I’m going to university and working (I should be working on my seminar on Euripides and my essay on Early Christian art but I prefer procrastinating so much more lol :P) and that I’m enjoying my relationship with my SO and I truly am happy to be with him, knowing that he’ll be proposing next year when we go to Vegas and that I’m researching options for the wedding but no definitive choices have been made. Yes, he knows that I’m on the Bee and Pinterest and that I’ve been researching and he is completely fine with it since he knows that I’m a planner (and he’s not) and that I ask for his opinions and involve him.
Oh I have been to two wedding shows but to my defense, both times were either as a favour to a friend getting married and as a bridesmaid accompanying the bride. It was great because when I do go as a bride – I won’t find it so overwhelming and I would have more of an idea of which vendors to approach.
Post # 16
I’m full time in graduate school, so I don’t have a lot of time. Thank god. I’m already about ready to freaking crack, so I’d probably explode if I actually had free time.
I’m very Type A, controlling everything, have to do everything myself or it won’t be right (unfortunately, experience has taught me that this is true 9 times out of 10 and it’s not just in my head!).
We’ve been together for over 8.5 years. He wants the proposal to be “perfect”, and it’s really getting on my nerves. I flat out told him “Honey, nothing will ever be perfect. Just do it before I kill you.”