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We dont use any form of birth control..
Just being extra safe LOL We went through a miscarriage last August & then decided to set a date to get married, so we dont want to get pregnant obviously before the wedding but we defiantly wont mind it after we get married!
We're going with Natural Family Planning...besides the religious reasons for doing it, I'm actually really excited that NFP allows me to REALLY KNOW what's going on with my body! The charting helps me know my body's "usual" fertility signs, so, even when factors change my cycle (stress, sickness, etc.), I KNOW when I'm fertile. And I LOVE that it "works both ways"...we simply will avoid having sex when I'm fertile until we WANT to get pregnant & then we'll make SURE to have sex when I'm fertile. Don't need to change methods, just change the approach. FI likes the fact that it's totall natural &, as of yet, I don't have to put anything in my body that doesn't already naturally go there.
Note: As a practicing Catholic, we're abstaining from sex until the wedding (we're not virgins, just abstaining since my last confession about a year ago), so I can't tell you how NFP is working as a birth control, but abstaining sure works!
We do pills plus a spermicidal film (it looks like a little plastic square that you fold and put over your cervix. It dissolves into a gel and provides additional physical and chemical barriers. Since the average birth control pill is less than 95% effective in women we decided to double up in a way that doesn't chnge how it feels for either of us (and those stats are taking it perfectly - the study statistics with real women are much lower for effectiveness than the official info insert with your pills would have you believe).
@crayfish - not sure where you heard that, but as long as you are using your birth control effectively and are not on any antibiotics or things that make it less effective, than it is at least 98.9% effective.
I have been on BC for almost 10 years, 7 were on the pill and I have been using Nuvaring for the rest of the time and I love it. I get my periods when I want and it is the only form of BC we have used since we became serious. No scares yet, and we don't plan on getting pregnant for a long time. I would love to get the IUD, but I hate getting my period every month so until they can come out with something that takes away your period I'm sticking with the ring
Right now, I am on the pill but I want to switch to an IUD. We aren't planning on having kids of a long time. I have been on BC for the past 7 years and have never ever had a scare with it. I am always good about taking my pills on time though.
@MrsSl82Be: A lot of people have very light or no periods with Mirena, so you might want to check it out.
I'm in the same boat as ms.pascua! I've been charting for a few months now and abstaining since my last confession and plan on doing that until marriage :)
I have been on BC pills for 4 years and I take them correctly everyday. The chances of becoming pregnant are really small if you consistently take the medication. We haven't used condoms other than for the first month of so, and we won't after the wedding either.
Edit: If you don't take the medication correctly, there is a higher possibility of a pregnancy. Also, we have decided that it won't be the end of the world if I get pregnant. We would really like to wait a few years, but if an accident really happens it's okay.
We're both virgins (religious reasons) but I'm going on the pill in the next month so everything's OK by the wedding. From what I can tell, the biggest thing is remembering to take it at the same time every day, which won't be a big deal since I take meds every day anyway. I'm hoping it doesn't mess up my body too much.
@beekiss Indeed! That's what this whole slew of doctor's appointments this month is ensuring :) But thanks for the advice!
NFP! (with condoms during ovulation) I've been charting for over a month now.
I'm not Catholic, but my grandmother & mother both used this practice and never had any surprises. It also makes sense for me because I'm in tune with my body & I hate pumping my body full of hormones (because it makes me nutso!!).
I checked other because I won't be using anything as we'll be TTC right away. ;-)
I'm like you.. currently using condoms and BC pills. After the wedding we're going to discontinue using condoms, and I'll stay on the pill. We both feel that if I miss a pill on accident, or it is somehow not effective and I get pregnant, we'd be elated. The only reason we're staying on it for now is that we'd prefer to hold off until we buy a house, but if it happens, we wouldn't be upset.
I'm on the pill right now (Loestrin, which by the way has completely eliminated the monthly visitor altogether) but have agreed that after the wedding I'll go off it and basically stop trying to not get pregnant. It'll happen when it happens but we're both excited to start a family!
I use the ortho evra patch right now and I've been using it for years. After the wedding (and delayed winter honeymoon) I'm switching to NFP. I like that it will help me get in tune with my body and it's free! Lol anyways my mum said that that is how she planned my brother and that it worked so we're both excited to try. Hopefully as long as we do it right and pair it with condoms we'll be able to wait a couple of years before having children. :)
NFP, w/ condoms when necessary. We've been using that combo for over a year. 100% effective so far, and I imagine it will stay that way. :) I love knowing what my body is doing (seriously, I don't understand why ALL women aren't taught this information as soon as they hit puberty; my cycle seems so obvious to me now, but before I thought my body was weird).
I'm also not comfortable with the idea of hormonal BC or IUDs...to be honest, even condoms is pushing it because of the spermicides. I don't want anything to compromise my health or sexual well-being for when I have kids.
I will have been on the Pill for 4 years by the time we get married with no scares yet (knock on wood!). We'll probably be 'trying' within 6-8 months of getting married though, so I won't be on it for much longer.
I have a copper IUD. I just got it put in a few weeks ago, so I'll be keeping it until at least a few years after the wedding. Before that, I was on the pill, patch, and most recently the ring. I went off the ring in February and didn't feel safe enough using only condoms, but I didn't want to go the hormonal route so I decided on Paragard. I've also started trying to be more in tune with my body (not full-on charting, but I try to be aware of what it's doing and when I'm more fertile), which I imagine I will continue to do after the wedding. We still use condoms sometimes (I know, I'm paranoid!), but will probably rarely use them after the wedding, if ever. I know I'm safe with my IUD alone, but since I just went off HBC and just got the IUD, I need some time to get used to it!
Hormonal birth control eeks me out, so we're going to stick with our tried-and-true method of condoms, and are going to start using NFP (and maybe stop using condoms once we've got the science down, except if we feel in the mood when I'm fertile...).
Since this is our 2nd marriage, and we aren't planning on having any more children (my daughter turns 18 in 17 days!), he has graciously agreed to go under the knife after the wedding. We'd do it sooner, but he doesn't have health insurance of his own.
NFP with condoms when necessary. We love doing this because I don't put any hormones or even something like an IUD in my body.
NFP here, too. I really like it because I know what's going on with my body and don't have to worry about unwanted side effects. We've been married 8 months now and aren't pregnant, so it works pretty well (and will help when we do want to have kids)
Sticking with my Mirena. No plans for children anytime soon, if ever, but we're leaving the door open to it being a possibility 'someday'. I also need hormonal birth control for cramp reasons. We felt the effective prevention rate on the Mirena was good enough that we don't need to bother with a backup method like condoms in addition.
NFP.
Hormonal BC & I do not get along.
We will likely not change our method after the wedding.
Staying on the pill until I am covered by a good insurance (starting a new job soon), then try for a family and NFP. Once we are done having kids I'd prefer a non-hormonal IUD.
I work in drug development and actually got to look at the drug trial statistics. What companies are forced to disclose as the "average" and the totality of test results are two different things. Yes, it is possiblt for the pill to be significantly less than 98% effective, even if you are taking it correctly and are not on antibiotics.
Vasectomy for him... or Mirena for me if he gets nervous about snippage. :) I'm 30 (for two more hours! hehe - tomorrow's my b-day), and he's 51, and has a 23 y/o and a 20 y/o, so we're not planning to have any kids together.
I'm on the pill for now, though.
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So my fiance and I started this discussion last week and I was wondering what everyone else is doing/recommending.
We have been together for nearly 4 years and we have always used birth control and condoms as a combo every single time. Now that we are getting closer to our wedding date we were beginning to think about post wedding options. I feel like condoms seems silly after marriage but is just birth control enough? What do you do? Its not like we would be horribly upset if we got prego but ideally we would like to wait a few years. Any suggesions? Am I the only one worrying about this?