Post # 1
So my fiance and I started this discussion last week and I was wondering what everyone else is doing/recommending.
We have been together for nearly 4 years and we have always used birth control and condoms as a combo every single time. Now that we are getting closer to our wedding date we were beginning to think about post wedding options. I feel like condoms seems silly after marriage but is just birth control enough? What do you do? Its not like we would be horribly upset if we got prego but ideally we would like to wait a few years. Any suggesions? Am I the only one worrying about this?
Post # 3
We dont use any form of birth control.. Just being extra safe LOL We went through a miscarriage last August & then decided to set a date to get married, so we dont want to get pregnant obviously before the wedding but we defiantly wont mind it after we get married!
Post # 4
We’re going with Natural Family Planning…besides the religious reasons for doing it, I’m actually really excited that NFP allows me to REALLY KNOW what’s going on with my body! The charting helps me know my body’s “usual” fertility signs, so, even when factors change my cycle (stress, sickness, etc.), I KNOW when I’m fertile. And I LOVE that it “works both ways”…we simply will avoid having sex when I’m fertile until we WANT to get pregnant & then we’ll make SURE to have sex when I’m fertile. Don’t need to change methods, just change the approach. FI likes the fact that it’s totall natural &, as of yet, I don’t have to put anything in my body that doesn’t already naturally go there.
Note: As a practicing Catholic, we’re abstaining from sex until the wedding (we’re not virgins, just abstaining since my last confession about a year ago), so I can’t tell you how NFP is working as a birth control, but abstaining sure works!
Post # 5
We do pills plus a spermicidal film (it looks like a little plastic square that you fold and put over your cervix. It dissolves into a gel and provides additional physical and chemical barriers. Since the average birth control pill is less than 95% effective in women we decided to double up in a way that doesn’t chnge how it feels for either of us (and those stats are taking it perfectly – the study statistics with real women are much lower for effectiveness than the official info insert with your pills would have you believe).
Post # 6
@crayfish – not sure where you heard that, but as long as you are using your birth control effectively and are not on any antibiotics or things that make it less effective, than it is at least 98.9% effective.
I have been on BC for almost 10 years, 7 were on the pill and I have been using Nuvaring for the rest of the time and I love it. I get my periods when I want and it is the only form of BC we have used since we became serious. No scares yet, and we don’t plan on getting pregnant for a long time. I would love to get the IUD, but I hate getting my period every month so until they can come out with something that takes away your period I’m sticking with the ring
Post # 7
I meant correctly, not effectively
Post # 9
Right now, I am on the pill but I want to switch to an IUD. We aren’t planning on having kids of a long time. I have been on BC for the past 7 years and have never ever had a scare with it. I am always good about taking my pills on time though.
@MrsSl82Be: A lot of people have very light or no periods with Mirena, so you might want to check it out.
Post # 10
I’m in the same boat as ms.pascua! I’ve been charting for a few months now and abstaining since my last confession and plan on doing that until marriage 🙂
Post # 11
I have been on BC pills for 4 years and I take them correctly everyday. The chances of becoming pregnant are really small if you consistently take the medication. We haven’t used condoms other than for the first month of so, and we won’t after the wedding either.
Edit: If you don’t take the medication correctly, there is a higher possibility of a pregnancy. Also, we have decided that it won’t be the end of the world if I get pregnant. We would really like to wait a few years, but if an accident really happens it’s okay.
Post # 12
We’re both virgins (religious reasons) but I’m going on the pill in the next month so everything’s OK by the wedding. From what I can tell, the biggest thing is remembering to take it at the same time every day, which won’t be a big deal since I take meds every day anyway. I’m hoping it doesn’t mess up my body too much.
Post # 13
@ebs1123: Just make sure your other meds don’t interfere with your bc and vice versa 🙂
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
Staying on birth control pills. Not very exciting.
Post # 15
@beekiss Indeed! That’s what this whole slew of doctor’s appointments this month is ensuring 🙂 But thanks for the advice!
Post # 16
NFP! (with condoms during ovulation) I’ve been charting for over a month now.
I’m not Catholic, but my grandmother & mother both used this practice and never had any surprises. It also makes sense for me because I’m in tune with my body & I hate pumping my body full of hormones (because it makes me nutso!!).