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How old were you/do you hope to be when you have your first child? How about your last child? I have some strange fixation with only being pregnant in my 20's, and my fiance thinks this is strange. My mother had me and my siblings in her 20's, so perhaps that is where it comes from.
What about you? How young is too young and how old is too old?
I plan on being a mom well into my late 30s :)
I just have too much I want to do and see before I want kids, and I'm perfectly happy waiting until then. Plus, my husband and I also want to adopt kids because of some health issues I have, and we will need time to save up the money, as it can get costly.
I wanted to wait to have my first till I was 28 lol but FI recently told me he wants to be done having babies by the time he is 30. I am two years younger than him so I guess we will have our first when I am 26 and he is 28 and our last when I am 28 and he is 30. I am 23 now so thats only 3 years away! Yikes.
I used to think 29, but now that i'm 27 and I am not sure I'll be ready by then. My mother had me in her early 20s, but I know that if she could have waited a few years she happily would have. I was a woops right after my parents got married. :-P
My more realistic age is 30 or 31 or 32, but dammit, I feel like I'll never be ready by then. And logically I'd rather have children younger for my body. :-X Can someone just deliver a 4 year old to me that is my biological kid please?
FI and I want to be at least pregnant before we turn 30! We are both 27 now!
I'm almost 33 and hope to be 35 with the first child, 37 with the second (final) child. :)
30's I think.
However, maybe at 29 we'll start wanting kids. I have no idea! I don't think you can put timelines on stuff like this.
Our goal is to be done having kids by the time we are 32. The idea is that when we are 50, all the kids will be 18 or older and out of the house (at least they better be). We are 25 now, but aren't engaged yet, so looks like we'll be squeezing as many kids in as possible in a relatively short period of time. I can't imagine we'll start having them for at least 2 years or more.
Personally, I think 30-40 is ideal. Too much younger, and I think you miss out on a lot of your youth. Too much older, and you risk missing out on your children's adulthood.
I'll be 36-37 when we start trying for #1 and 39-41 for #2.
When is our preference or when is medically correct? lol
I'm currently 26, and I'd ideally like to be married for a year or two first... If it happens in that first year, I'll be happy too. If i was married younger I'd have the same plan. Whenever it happens, I'm ready. FI is 31. I don't want HIM to start his family at 35+ either... and neither does he.
Medically speaking, I'm already missing out my "best" years... lol
I think my ideal range is 28-32, which is incidentally when my mom had kids. I need a few more years to live through my 20s.
I always said I wanted to have my first kid when I'm 30. Considering I'll have just turned 29 when we get married next month, I guess we have some baby making work to get started on ;-)
I always wanted to have my first kid before I was 30, so that I didn't feel like I would be too old when (s)he is growing up. We'll see how life actually plays out though.
I would like to wait two years after the wedding...which would put me at 31 or 32.
Personally, I'd like to be done by 32. I had my son at 27 which for me was perfect (besides the fact that we are not married yet). It all depends on the person. My aunt had babies at age 18 and age 40 something!
I've always said 30s, FI doesn't want to wait that long, he wants be be a young dad. So, we compromised and we're going to wait until we've been married a couple of years. So, that would put us, ideally, around 25-26 (we're both 22 and will be 22 when we get married.)
Plus, we want to have them while our grandparents are still around to enjoy them.
I had mine when I was 20, 22, and 26. Those were perfect ages for me because I didn't want to be an old woman when they graduated. I also wanted to make sure that I had enough energy to look after them properly. Sometimes I wish I would have waited longer, but that is only because they are grown now and I am forever in mommy mode. I miss my kids, but I raised them to be independant and very responsible. I am very proud of each of them.
I'm 27, DH is 26. I'd like to have my first by the time I'm 30, he wants to wait. It will have to be a compromise for sure! I want to have kids a little earlier because I want to still have the energy to run around after them and REALLY enjoy their younger years. Plus, I don't want anyone mistaking me for my kid's grandma at their high school graduation!
32. Good career time, and Fi won't be 40 yet. So, five years....
I would like to have one and adopt one or two.
Well, ideally we would like to be done having kids by the time we're 30. We've recently said that we'll start trying within the next 5 years, so that puts me at about 26 when we start.
I wanted to have my first by the time I turned 30....but seeing how my 30th bday is 2 months after the wedding, looks like I missed that marker. I'm ready to go ASAP, but I know FI wants to wait a few years still. Prolly start around 32 and wrap it up around 36-38. We want 2-3 kids about 2 yrs apart. We'll see how that goes.
I heard that a lot of where we (as in women) get our 'ideal' age from is due in part to when our mom had kids and I think to some extent, that rings true. My mom had my older brother when she was 27 and me when she was 29, so I always thought I would be in the 29-32 yr old range when I had kids...when I turned 27 I couldn't believe my mom had kids at my age because I thought I was too young. But at 30, It feels like it's the perfect age for me.
I am 26, but turn 27 in August, we would like to have our first before I turn 28, 2nd before I turn 30, and then possibly a 3rd by the age of 32 if all goes well.
my first is due in feb, and i'm 27. is that my ideal age? no. i think i would have wanted to start at 25, but life just didn't turn out that way. i'm hoping to have my next around 30, just b/c we want two but i don't want them too close together.
I thought 36 would have been the perfect age, but due to career and relationship requirements, it didn't happen until 38... which was pretty perfect in it's own right!
I like to start about 2, 2.5 years after we get married, so that puts me at 27, 28. I'd like at least 2, maybe 3 kids, so I guess I"ll be popping out babies through my early 30s!
I'd like to start around 25-26 (SO would be 28-29), finishing whenever after that. I do want to be somewhat young parents though and I'd like 3 children.
This plan however hinges on marriage so that timing (whenever it may be) could change my hypothetical plans haha.
@mcnetn3: hilarious! we have the same exact "done by 32, out of the house by 50" theory.
I'm only 23 and recently single, so kids are nowhere in my immediate future, but I think around 35 is a good age, give or take a few years. I'm seriously considering going back to school for my PhD, and if I do, it'll be closer to the 35-37 range. I only want one (hopefully my future husband does too!) so I feel like that gives more flexibility since I don't have to cram a bunch in (or out? :) ) a short period.
I just turned 23 last month and fiance will be 27 in January. I'd love to have my first by the time I'm 25. I don't want to be an old parent. I'd like to live a little when I get older and have time to enjoy my grand kids 
Fiance and I both have careers and have already purchased our first home together (we have three rooms to fill 
). After the wedding it seems like kids would be the next natural step!
I used to think I'd have them at 31, 34, and 37, but I'm 31 now so that's certainly not going to happen. I think we have to wait at least a year and a half so we can create enough savings for a house downpayment. I think it'll take at least 18 months if we live on one salary just to get 10 to 15% downpayment. If we need to save 20% then that would be two years. Hopefully, I can spend the end of the saving period actually being pregnant. I'm really worried that I'm already too old to get pregnant but my husband seems to think it's perfectly fine to wait.
I honestly thought I would NEVER have kids.
However, I was a mom @ 19.
For a while we thought we would want to be DONE having kids by the time I was 25, but with school, finances, and just taking time for ourselves I almost feel like we won't have time for any more.
If it were a perfect world, I wouldn't have had my fantastic son until I was between 25 & 30.
But we all know that the world isn't perfect! ;)
Ideally 26 and 29.... but due to limitations with my husbands education/career we may have to wait to have our first until we are 27/28. We are 22 now.
I'd like to have my first by 24 :) I turn 21 later this year and FI is 24 now. If it happened earlier we'd be okay since we have a home but I'd like to be try and be done with school first! We want 2-4 children and ideally I'd like to be done by 30. We want to adopt the last child. :) I seem to be in the minority for wanting them so soon! I have baby fever now but alas I still have about 2 years of school. We want to be young parents (more energy) and have time to ourselves when they're older (we would be in our 50's) also we want to enjoy grandchildren!
hopefully between 26-32 for me and 28-34 for him...hopefully we can have a couple in between those years. that way my body can dounce back and the kids will be off to college when we're in our 50s :)
@Melissabegins: "Can someone just deliver a 4 year old to me that is my biological kid please?" hahahaha I totally agree with you.
So, if both FI and I could magically have Ph.D.s and stable careers by 28, that would be my ideal. We'll have been married for almost five years and my body would still be plenty young to deliver a healthy baby and then watch it grow up and have kids of its own. But it just won't be financially or emotionally doable for us until we're well past 30. We'll probably start TTC around 32/33. We want two kids, and I really don't want to have a baby past 35, so it's going to be a little...intense.
26-32 for me and 27-33 for him... which is a little nerve-racking because that means we'd start trying about a year after the wedding since we want to squeeze in three during that time frame! :)
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