Post # 1
So ladies (and gents) I’ve seen some posts floating around about how many years older or younger you’d date so it got me wondering- what are your other deal breakers? What are things you just could not put up with from a significant other and why? Was there anything you always said you’d never be attracted to… but kind of are from your SO? Or things you’ve learned to live with but still don’t really like?
For me, I’ve never had any hard or fast rules overall but I did say I wouldn’t date or be attracted to a smoker. Its bad for your health- cigarettes are pretty gross IMO- I just wouldn’t want to be around it. But my SO grows, flavors, and smokes his own pipe tobacco occasionally and I actually have come to associate that smell with good memories and now if I smell someone smoking pipe tobacco it’s usually soothing.
Post # 2
I love that my husband is humble hardworking smart driven in his career and most important committed to our relationship now marriage
Major deal breakers of my past relationships lazy cocky close minded lost (get you sh!t together your not a teen) horrible At communication (are you seriously throwing a temper tantrum?!) immaturity
Post # 3
I always knew I would date within my economic class, and likely within my geographic region and culture, though not in so many words as a teen. I did find that with FI.
I didn’t think I’d ever understand pro-gun culture, even though it’s common in my region, yet I now look at gun cases in shops. Never dreamed I’d need to have one!
Post # 4
Racists, homophobes, drink/drug driving, violence/abuse and men who wanted kids were my deal breakers.
Post # 5
Racists, homophobes, getting drunk on a regular basis, bad eating habits (eating too much junk food).
Post # 6
Alyx19: what do you mean by geographic region?
Post # 7
Drug users are a big no no to me, including cigarettes. I’m not fond of partiers, as I prefer quiet nights in most nights. Over all, I just wanted someone who knew what they wanted out of life.
Thankfully my fiance fits all of this. 🙂
Post # 8
I would never (EVER) date someone who was cruel to animals, a narcissist or someone who didn’t support my career aspirations (as I would support his).
I don’t think I would last long witih anyone who is very negative or complains a lot.
This is also a weird one, but I just know I couldn’t be with one of those grown men with the palate of a 5 year old – like only eats chicken fingers and pizza. I know that doesn’t mean anything about who they are as a person, it would just personally annoy me too much to be with for the long term.
Post # 9
Cheating!! I would leave straight away
Violence and abuse as well
DH is trying to quit smoking but as long as he doesn’t kiss me with ashtray breath is fine. Leading him to better habits is a good thing, but it isn’t a deal breaker
Post # 10
Cheating, abuse, smoking (SO smokes cigars on occation, I hate it, but since its rare in my mind its kind of like one of the other many terrible things we do to our bodies), severe immaturity (to me that means we’re just not in the same place in life).
Post # 11
Deal breakers: Picky eaters, people who are unmotivated, people who are mono-amorous (not judging, I just can’t live that life), conservatives, homophobes, anyone who didn’t support my career, anyone who wants children (though I guess as long as they didn’t expect me to parent it would be okay?).
Post # 12
Deal breakers for me: Smoking(popular, yay!), drugs, religious (not judging, just not my lifestyle), conservative, cheater, doesn’t love animals, doesn’t want kids, lacks ambition, no desire to learn new things.
Post # 13
j.gar89: my dealbreakers: dishonest, disloyal, jealous/possessive, unmotivated (no job/career and no desire to work), racist or homophobic, religious, doesn’t like to travel, owns a gun, has a child.
I would also be wary of a man who a) has no friends, b) has no hobbies or interests that he’s passionate about, and c) refers to all his exes as “crazy” or other insulting terms (I wish guys realized how bad this makes them look – the one thing exes all have in common is you!)
Post # 14
My dealbreakers: smokers, drug users, racist, homophobic, doesnt like animals, lazy/ not motivated.
Post # 15
Dealbreakers: instability, infidelity, substance abuse