What are your deal breakers?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
135 posts
Blushing bee

I love that my husband is humble hardworking smart driven in his career and most important committed to our relationship now marriage 


Major deal breakers of my past relationships  lazy cocky close minded lost (get you sh!t together your not a teen) horrible At communication (are you seriously throwing a temper tantrum?!) immaturity 


Post # 3
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Banquet hall

I always knew I would date within my economic class, and likely within my geographic region and culture, though not in so many words as a teen. I did find that with FI.

I didn’t think I’d ever understand pro-gun culture, even though it’s common in my region, yet I now look at gun cases in shops. Never dreamed I’d need to have one!

Post # 4
7941 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Racists, homophobes, drink/drug driving, violence/abuse and men who wanted kids were my deal breakers. 


Post # 5
6 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

Racists, homophobes, getting drunk on a regular basis, bad eating habits (eating too much junk food).

Post # 6
969 posts
Busy bee

Alyx19:  what do you mean by geographic region? 

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Post # 7
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Drug users are a big no no to me, including cigarettes. I’m not fond of partiers, as I prefer quiet nights in most nights. Over all, I just wanted someone who knew what they wanted out of life.

Thankfully my fiance fits all of this. 🙂

Post # 8
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would never (EVER) date someone who was cruel to animals, a narcissist or someone who didn’t support my career aspirations (as I would support his).

I don’t think I would last long witih anyone who is very negative or complains a lot.

This is also a weird one, but I just know I couldn’t be with one of those grown men with the palate of a 5 year old – like only eats chicken fingers and pizza. I know that doesn’t mean anything about who they are as a person, it would just personally annoy me too much to be with for the long term.

Post # 9
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Cheating!! I would leave straight away

Violence and abuse as well

DH is trying to quit smoking but as long as he doesn’t kiss me with ashtray breath is fine. Leading him to better habits is a good thing, but it isn’t a deal breaker

Post # 10
2136 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Cheating, abuse, smoking (SO smokes cigars on occation, I hate it, but since its rare in my mind its kind of like one of the other many terrible things we do to our bodies), severe immaturity (to me that means we’re just not in the same place in life). 

Post # 11
878 posts
Busy bee

Deal breakers: Picky eaters, people who are unmotivated, people who are mono-amorous (not judging, I just can’t live that life), conservatives, homophobes, anyone who didn’t support my career, anyone who wants children (though I guess as long as they didn’t expect me to parent it would be okay?).

Post # 12
43 posts

Deal breakers for me: Smoking(popular, yay!), drugs, religious (not judging, just not my lifestyle), conservative, cheater, doesn’t love animals, doesn’t want kids, lacks ambition, no desire to learn new things.


Post # 13
1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

j.gar89:  my dealbreakers: dishonest, disloyal, jealous/possessive, unmotivated (no job/career and no desire to work), racist or homophobic, religious, doesn’t like to travel, owns a gun, has a child.

I would also be wary of a man who a) has no friends, b) has no hobbies or interests that he’s passionate about, and c) refers to all his exes as “crazy” or other insulting terms (I wish guys realized how bad this makes them look – the one thing exes all have in common is you!)

Post # 14
392 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

My dealbreakers: smokers, drug users, racist, homophobic, doesnt like animals, lazy/ not motivated.

Post # 15
7462 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Dealbreakers: instability, infidelity, substance abuse

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