Post # 1
Oh, I have a ton! But my most recent addition to the list would have to be when I mention my weightloss or fitness goals to people I get jumped ALL OVER, especially if I’m talking to anyone who may be a little heavier than me.
“Please. You don’t need to lose weight. Look at you! What are you complaining about! I wish I was your size. You must think I’m a cow, then.” (Mind you, I’m not annorexic or anything!!)
Um, no. I know I don’t “need” to do anything but the fact is I’m not comfortable where I’m at right now. I’ve always been very lean and toned and kind of let myself go over the past couple years. Why shouldn’t I want to get in the best shape of my life for my wedding? It has no bearing on anyone else, I don’t compare myself to to other people’s figures so stop comparing yourself to mine!!
I just don’t mention it anymore, it’s so obnoxious!
Post # 3
@BurlapnLace: I know what you mean, I don’t ever bring up my weightloss plans to anyone for that reason. But I’m doing a pretty restrictive diet and I sometimes have to explain to people why I can’t eat whatever it is they’re offering. I literally started calling it a “health food challenge” because people would blow their top if I used the word “diet.”
My pet peeve is when someone I barely know asks me about a detail of my wedding and then criticizes it. At FI’s office Christmas party one of his coworkers asked what color the BMs are going to wear, when I said black he said “oh…like a funeral?” I had to laugh, the guy is maybe 70 years old, I don’t think he has his finger on the pulse of wedding fashion.
Post # 4
My wedding related pet peeve is when people have completely unrealistic expectations. Especially when they treat their wedding party more like photo props and less like their nearest and dearest friends.
My non-WR gripes are:
People who suck at driving, don’t know how or when to use a turn indicator, or ride a merging lane allllll the way to the very last friggin second and expect someone else to let them over.
Grammar. Oh, the grammar. YOU + ARE = YOU’RE! Your is possessive. For example:
“My bananas? What about my bananas?”
“No no, you are bananas!”
“Oh, you mean ‘you’re’ bananas then.”
Also, punctuation saves lives:
“Let’s eat grandma!”
“Let’s eat, grandma!”
Post # 5
@BurlapnLace: That’s so annoying! Working out and eating healthy is important no matter what your size is. I need to lose weight, but one of my friends (who is skinny, just not as toned as she used to be) wants to workout too. I would never assume that because she wants to be healthier she thinks I’m a cow.
That reminds me of something that happened with another friend who is heavyset. She told me she was going to start going to the gym three times a week because she wanted to lose weight and be healthier. I said, “that’s great!” and she was like “you’re supposed to tell me I look great and I don’t need to lose weight.” I told her that I thought she looked fine, but why would I discourage her from doing something that’s good for her?
I just don’t get the mindset that exercise is only in relation to what your body looks like. I think of it as a healthy activity that everyone should do.
Anyway my biggest pet peeve right now is people lying about plans. Luckily I only have one friend that does this, because everyone else is more mature. But, she will NEVER just say, “Hey I’m really tired tonight I don’t feel like going out,” or, “I don’t feel like doing _____ activity so I’m doing this instead” She always has these elaborate excuses. Totally unnecessary.
Post # 6
My current wedding pet peeve is if someone talks about how expensive weddings are and criticizes people who spend a certain amount without knowing what I’m spending. Usually they’ll be like, “Oh I could never spend xyz on a wedding…” and in my head I’m thinking “Well, that’s how much I’m spending!” If you’re going to come and eat and dance and enjoy yourself, you should probably think twice before criticizing me (indirectly) for paying for it! No one is doing it purposefully, so I don’t get too mad, but I think most people don’t realize how much weddings cost if they’re not actually planning one.
Post # 7
@DaneLady: +1 to your grammar pet peeves!
Post # 9
@DaneLady: Lol…..I admit to being a huge offender of this on WB. I tend not to really check my posts for grammar or typos before I post them. If it is making some people get the twitch eye though, maybe I should start!
Post # 10
@Bridey77: Haha, yeah there are some people who get twitch-eye over grammar stuff. I do understand that English is not everyone’s primary language, but sometimes posts come accross as completely incoherent because people are too lazy to use punctuation.
Post # 11
Wedding Related Pet Peeves:
Anyone who uses the word, “vision” in association with what they’re looking for in a ceremony, reception or the event as a whole. Prophets have visions…this is a wedding.
Brides that assume ever person they’ve ever known wants some special job associated with behind the scenes wedding planning, preparation or DIY…we don’t, it’s not an honor…just feed us and play the chicken dance.
Brides that literally take three hours after the ceremony with pictures, leaving their starving and totally bored guests to fend for themselves on signature cocktails and weenies…I give them an hour, if they aren’t back, we leave and go out to dinner somewhere else.
Life In General Pet Peeves:
Any person, male or female, under the age of 25 who claims to have a “Dark Past” ….what are you, BATMAN? Unless you are a serial killer, escaped mental patient or a mime, I can assure you it gets so much worse than whatever the hell you think was so bad.
Couples that throw a kid’s birthday party on Super Bowl Sunday….come on people, don’t pit your kid against the extravaganza of men on the gridiron & the best commercials of the year, you’ll give your kid a complex!
And finally…that person…in a group of people you’re eating out with who says they aren’t hungry, orders like…a side salad and proceeds to take multiple bites of everyone else’s food….Mr. 99 and I call these people…vultures.
Post # 12
@Nona99: Fuckin’ vultures, man. I’ve seen ’em myself.
Post # 13
I’m really sick of hearing the word ‘vintage’ when it comes to anything wedding related, especially when what’s being described as ‘vintage’ really isn’t.
I really don’t like it when people say they are eloping when they aren’t. If you’ve discussed your plans with a bunch of people, especially the people who would be attending the wedding, you’re not eloping. Getting married quickly is not eloping. Having a small wedding is not eloping. It shouldn’t be that difficult to use the term the right way.
Post # 14
@Nona99: BAHHHHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! YESSSSSSSSSSS…
Post # 15
FI and I have a couple of friends and the guy always refers to his wife as “my wife”, even when she’s in the room.
Umm, WE KNOW HER NAME. Thanks.
Post # 16
Wedding related: When couples think you actually give a damn about their wedding once it’s over. Um, I was there. I don’t need to look at your pictures or watch the video.
Everyday: People (other than the elderly or disabled) who walk really slowly in crowded areas.
People who take pictures in restaurants. The lovely couple sitting behind us last night got a great shot of the back of my husband’s head and me stuffing my face with risotto.
Those who don’t understand cell phone etiquette.
How many times do you need to read the word “espresso” before realizing it does not contain the letter x?
Co-workers who re-heat their stinky fish leftovers in the lounge.
Coffee and/or cigarette breath. Please use a mint or write me a note instead of speaking.