What are your 'red flags' that someone is immature?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

iarebridezilla:  if a lot of your validation in life is based on or related to facebook, i view you as immature. of course, there are people that i’ve gotten to know and though they take fb very seriously, as i’ve grown closer to them they’ve proven maturity in other ways. 

however, if a lot of your life revolves around who said what, who posted when, so and so didn’t tag me in this or that…grow up please it’s just facebook. it’s myspace for adults.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I was in the car with a grown adult who once said, “But Mommy, pweeze?” after she had asked her mother a question and the mother said no.  No freakin’ joke, this person was in her 20s. 

Baby talk is my assessment that you are immature, and I will never take you seriously.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

iarebridezilla:  Someone who always questions themselves: “I hate bananas, but that’s just me, lol!”

Also, someone who is afraid to speak up or stand up for themselves! 

I do have a friend like this and our relationship has been on and off for years, now! Right now, it’s off!

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

GreenBayBee:  I’ve got one of those “friends.”  She let’s people walk all over her, then complains that people don’t treat her nicely.  Grow a backbone and stand up for yourself!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Soemone who constantly tells you how mature they are.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

iarebridezilla:  I find this quite difficult to answer as for me it’s usually a combination of things that would make me think someone was immature, as well as the situation.

To use your examples, I don’t see smoking weed as being any more ‘immature’ than drinking alcohol. But I do see it as immature if you’re smoking it with your friends as the park.

I also don’t see being able to laugh at yourself as a sign of maturity. I’ve almost always been able to laugh at myself, as have many people I know; I think it’s more down to upbringing than maturity or lack of.

I guess one thing I see as immature is a black-and-white world view. When I was younger I was much more likely to see things as black and white; these days, I recognise that there are in fact many shades of grey.

Other than that like I said for me it tends to be a combination of factors, coupled with the specific situation. 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

iarebridezilla:  When it’s you and your DH, that’s one thing.  This was in a car, with four grown adults, over something stupid like, “Can we stop at Dunkins.”  Plus, she does it ALL THE TIME. lol

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

people who fight on facebook or post way to many selfies and are, like, over 30 doing it 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Someone who doesn’t own their mistakes!   

A mature person realizes they’re wrong and makes amends.  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

iarebridezilla:  

For me, a lot of it is in language/speech.  I find a lack of maturity for people that cannot formulate a proper sentence, or whom constantly are using slang.  

I also equate maturity, vs. lack thereof of people whom cannot take direction from anyone else, namely in the workplace.  To hear a 20-something year old (for example) quit another job because they did not like that their boss asked/told them to do something, or work longer hours, or work the weekend is so annoying!!!  It is called life.  We all answer to someone, for the most part!

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