Post # 1
The etiquette board is generally peppered with people asking what is, and is not acceptable. Subjects such as the ‘should vegetarians serve meat’ or ‘should children eat kid’s meals’ or ‘How exactly do I word asking for cash’ are normally cause for huge debates – and in those debates you find a lot of bees claiming that you should or shouldn’t do something because of your responsibility for your guests.
So I guess I’m curious. I always thought your responsibilities were to make sure the guests were warm, dry, well-fed, well-watered, with something to entertain them and enough space to be comfortable. The details never mattered too much to me – but it seems many have more indepth ideas on what your responsibilities are as a host.
So tell me – what are your responsibilities over your guests?
Post # 3
this:: responsibilities were to make sure the guests were warm, dry, well-fed, well-watered, with something to entertain them and enough space to be comfortable
Post # 4
@asianyoushi: I’m their host, so they need to feel welcome and comfortble. I’m their friend so they need to have fun. That’s it.
Post # 5
Agree with both of you, though I would also add that I see my responsibility as a host to also ensure they feel appreciated and thanked. You can feed and water them, given them entertainment and all that stuff, but still be a stressed out self-centred bitch, especailly on the day we’ve all be lead to believe is “our” day. If each of my guests doesn’t leave my wedding feeling like their presence was genuiely appreciated, then in my book, I will have failed, even if their bellies are full, their liver is in overdrive, and their feet are sore from dancing too much.
Post # 6
My wedding planner told us the reception is our “thank you” to our family and friends for supporting us and attending our big day. We are planning our reception with our guests in mind, not ourselves. It’s important to me that they feel welcome, comfortable, and appreciated for the gift of their time and support.
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Post # 8
@ZebraPrintMe: We planned our reception was our guests in mind. We provided a list of hotels with the best costs and directions to local restaurants that we found at one of the hotels.
We also made sure the gap between the ceremony and reception was not too long. We provided hor devours duing that time too.
We made sure the venue was nice and professional. We made sure the food was soemthing everyone eats (fried and baked chicken) and we provided a cash bar.
Our favors were something edible as I hate spending money on stuff people throw away.
Post # 9
It think as host you should keep guests comfort in mind with most major decisions and balance that with your budget and vision. Example, there was a venue that I liked but they didn’t have elevators, so for some of my elderly guests I wouldn’t book it because negotiating the stairs for them would prove most difficult. Would it matter that only maybe 5 out of 100 guests are affected, for me yes. But if the venue was the most economical I would have gone with it (thankfully I had other options to consider).
However, that doesn’t mean every single decision has to be a majority consensus (I’m fine with childfree weddings). I think open bars or beer & wine only, are preferble to cash bars, but I don’t knock others who aren’t able to make it happen financially or perhaps for religious preferance (dry bar). So provide sufficent beverage alternatives. I love to dance and want a party atmosphere, so I probably won’t be playing alot of ‘slow’ tunes.
It’s impossible to have everything to your guests liking or preference, but I think since it is a “thank for you” them, why not put their desires in the forefront of your mind.
Post # 10
I turned down any place with more than 5 steps for the same reason.
I think you should try to accomodate guests and make them comfortable if possible as long as its within budget.
Post # 11
In my opinion, you don’t need to have all of the big-budget items of a big meal, open bar, party atmosphere, but I think it’s about hosting a gathering to welcome and thank your guests for coming. I subscribe to the “if you have your reception at a meal time, you need to feed your guests” idea, and if you agree with an open bar, do that, if you want a dry wedding, give your guests lemonade or at least something to drink that is appropriate, and some sort of entertainment, even if that entertainment is simply mingling with family and friends.
Post # 12
@Blonde17Jess: Those are all great suggestions.
We hope our guest enjoy everything we planned for them and that they have a fun time.