Post # 1
So my bachelorette party is next weekend in another city. I haven’t been able to sleep all night thinking about it and I think I’ve decided I do not want to have one. I just wanted to know if there were others out there that decided not to have one and if there were any regrets? Okay, so part of the reason I don’t want to have one is because of all the negativity from friends throughout this whole wedding process. Another part is all the people that have bailed…we made these plans almost a year ago…to go out of town. I say we because I told FI we needed to go the same weekend only because his best man’s GF doesn’t trust him and even though I don’t know her I wasinviting her.They decided they weren’t going. Partly because she says I was “forced” to invite her and partly because he can’t go alone and doesn’t want to deal with her BS. We live in a smaller city and we used to go out a lot so going out here would be any ordinary day, same people out, and might run into exes…these are reasons I don’t want it here. I wanted something special and now I want nothing, but will I regret it later…
Post # 3
Ignore all the negativity and enjoy the people who are there for your party! If you know you’ll regret it then do it because you want to. Or maybe cancel going out and do something during the day out of town like shopping, a spa day and lunch…maybe that will appeal to more people? I would just do what I wanted and those that truly want to be there with me, will. 🙂
Post # 4
Very true. I also feel bad because now FI may not get off work so he may not even go and he hasn’t wanted to go because of money and I feel guilty if I go. I really preferred a joint party, but at the same time I’ve never had a girl trip. Also, everyone wanted to fly except for one girl so we decided to drive then at the last minute said she isn’t going…flights went up so we are stuck driving (expenses) and we are taking my car. I’m fine with that but it means I’m driving the whole time. Maybe it sounds like an excuse…but that’s why I wanted to fly.
Post # 5
IF you feel like you may regret it..then by all means go and have fun! 😀
Personally, I’m not the bachelorette party type.. so I’m having PJ-wine/cheese/girl chat evening 🙂 My close friends and I will hang out on our roof top (our home’s a pent house with view) and light candels~ chat and be girl~ LOL
Post # 6
You don’t have to go out to have a Bachelorette party (have your friends come over with a stack of movies and a few botttles of wine!), and if you do go out it doesn’t have to be the traditional party, either. What would be a fun evening for you and your friends? Do that. I went with friends to a music festival and then for pizza, narrowly avoiding the attempt by a friend to turn it into a kidnap-the-bride-to-Magic-Mike that would have horrified me (I found out later that was her plan).
Sorry you’ve dealt with a lot of negativity. Weddings are so full of bad feelings sometimes. Hope you’re able to pull off a great evening and have fun!