Post # 1
I wanted to ask you girls what you thought about a co-ed bridal shower..
Have you ever been to one?
Are you having one yourself?
I’ve been to one before and at first, I thought it was a little weird that the guy was there. But I have been thinking about it lately. I don’t know if I should go ahead and do the traditional bridal shower without him there or go ahead and let him be involved with the gifts as well.
My reason being.. My fiance & mother-in-law has friends at my fiance’s church & I’m sure they would like to get an invitation BUT they really don’t know me all that well. They would most likely come to support us because they know him. So.. Is it weird that I’m having a hard time in making this decision?
ETA: The bridal shower is going to be at my fiance’s church. So that is another reason I was thinking it would be nice if he got to come.
Post # 3
Yes, I’ve been to one and Yep, we’re having one.
I’m SO excited about it. We’re calling it a “His and Hers Shower” because we didn’t want to call it a Couples Shower as some of our good friends are single. It’s far from traditional. My Maid/Matron of Honor and FI’s Bridesmaid or Best Man are throwing it. From what I know, it’s a cards/games/dice theme, we’re having FI’s poker table brought in, having it later on a Saturday 6:00-8:30, and having pizza, popcorn, candy, root beer, coke floats…that kind of thing. I am STOKED! <– And I never say that word. Ever.
The one we went to sounds really similar to what you’re thinking, and we definitely enjoyed that. It was much more relaxed and less awkward because it wasn’t just us girls. We all had our SO’s there, that helped lighten the mood and break the ice a bit too. Fiance knew the Bride better than I did anyway!
Post # 4
If it’s a co-ed bridal shower, wouldn’t it just be considered an engagement party? I’m confused on the difference….
Post # 5
We did it! But since Mr. Hedgies family and close friends all live in AZ it was mostly my family and friends… oh well. We still had a good time. Guys and girls alike.
Post # 6
Au Jardin: Myabe I’m wrong but I thought an egagement party was for people to come & celebrate the engagement of the couple & could bring a gift if they wanted. A bridal shower is for friends and family to bring gifts for the couple for their new house/apartment. (gifts like household items).
I really like the idea but I didn’t know if anyone else had heard of it before. Thanks girls.
Post # 7
We had one and it was a lot of fun.
Post # 8
sorry as this seems to be a controversal topic in my family. my mom, dad, Fiance and all agree.. shower = woman only! hhaahaha
anytime there is a shower, wedding or baby and its a co-ed my dad and Fiance are like… NOWAY! have fun!
I always thought it was so awkward for the guys!
— However we are going a joint/co-ed bach party weekend trip!
Post # 9
We are having a Co-ed wedding shower only b/c we are having a Destination Wedding so it is more like a pre reception for those who can not attend the nuptuals. Its going to be a big party basically.. band.. dj.. catered food.. It will be in my back yard.
Post # 10
We’re having a traditional shower and he doesn’t want to be surrounded by a bunch of women (even if a couple of his friends are there). The bridal showers we’ve been to when men were there were awkward for the men (they weren’t really involved, looked like they didn’t want to be there, etc.) so he volunteered to have it only be for me (although the gifts are for us).
Post # 11
I have given one, been to one, and will be having one. In our circle of friends, all the guys and girls get along really well so it is just another party that happens to be for a couple. We call it a Jack & Jill or co-ed shower. The key is, if the groom is there, his friends should be there, too.
Post # 12
I went to FI’s friend’s couples shower… I thought it was kind of weird and just seemed like an engagement party where everyone brought gifts off the wedding registry (it was friends and family- basically everyone that was invited to the wedding). It wasn’t my favorite thing becuase it just felt like double-dipping, and I wasn’t really sure what the purpose of it was (although I’m not sure why I feel this way about this event and not about girls only showers). It was fine but based on conversations with my Fiance and his friends, it was really kind of turn-off for them.
But, all this being said, I say do what you feel confortable with and just go with it! 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: January 2012 - Catholic Church, Chateau Thomas Winery
I haven’t been to one but I think it’d be great!
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I’ve never been to one but I love the idea! I had a lot of fun at my shower that my in law’s side threw but I know I would have had an even more fun time if my husband (then FI) were there, as they are all his family. The nice thing about a shower with people on “his” side (where he doesn’t go) is you’re kind of “forced” to get to know them better—the family and friends that you’re marrying into. With your Fiance there, it’s a little bit of a crutch (which isn’t a bad thing!) but when you’re thrown into the mix with your future in laws and their friends without your husband, you grow a special bond with them because now you have shared experiences with them outside of your Fiance 🙂
Either way I think it’ll be a fun time!
Post # 15
Fiance and I have been to one, but don’t plan on having one. Anything considered a “shower” and FI’s eyes glaze over. I think instead we’re going to do a “stock the liquor cabinet party,” which will be co-ed 🙂