What are your thoughts on first dance/ dancing at wedding? Did anyone skip it?

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

DH and I had a first dance, but honestly, it was more awkward that anything. I hated knowing that EVERYONE was watching us… blah.

We had music afterwards, but my crowd isn’t much for dancing. A few danced a little bit, but we mostly mingled and had fun that way.

If you and your DH aren’t much for dancing, I wouldn’t think you are going to miss out on anything. If your guests are the dancing type however, they may get bored and leave quire early.

Post # 3
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Newbee

We are in a similar situation. What we decided to do is rent a small dance floor, do an ipod hook up, and do 3 songs: first dance, daddy/daughter dance, and mom & son dance. I know it’ll be a little awkward, but for 600 bucks, we will have an area to dance if people want to. I think a lot of people just like the pictures for keepsakes etc. 🙂 good luck!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We didn’t do a first dance, we did the shoe game instead and it was so much fun.  Plus, my husband and I both felt awkward having people watch us dance since it’d either be a “middle school” type of dance (i.e. not choreographed with a sway from side to side thing for a few mins) or we’d have to remember steps, practice, go to lessons, etc., and be super nervous about “performing” at our wedding.  I don’t regret not having a first dance at all.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We aren’t doing one.  I am good with that. 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

We had a dinner party style reception and skipped dancing. That was the plan, at least. But then Brown Eyed Girl came on, a song Mr. LK and I have been known to dance to in our kitchen, and I was so darn happy and a quite tipsy, and… well… I couldn’t help myself. I just HAD to dance. So I grabbed Mr. LK’s hand, we snuck off to a side room away from everyone, and we danced just like we’d done in the kitchen so many times before. It was the best first dance I could never have planned.

I didn’t realize it until the song was over, but our photographer had noticed us disappear and followed us, snapping photos all along the way. If we had known she was there, we probably would have been a bit more self-conscious and restrained. bBt we didn’t know, and those turned out to be some of my absolute favorite photos of the night. She caught Mr. LK smiling, something he rarely does in photos, and us just being goofy.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

You can have an i-Pod as your ‘DJ’ and not spend any extra money at all.  Honestly, as a guest I love seeing the first dance.  The couple is so in love and it is very romantic.  As a bride, I would never want to give up that first dance with my new husband.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

We’re not doing a first dance, I couldn’t imagine anything more cringeworthy and it’s a small destination wedding so not really necessary! We’re having our ipod as our DJ, no doubt we’ll all be up dancing round the pool later on but I don’t think a first dance is essential, it’s personal preference and if it’s not important to you don’t feel the need to do it!

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

coffeedrinker:  The funny part was that Mr. LK had secretly planned all along to sneak off with me for a first dance to Into the Mystic, another favorite of ours. But I beat him to the punch without even knowing it. Go figure. 🙂 And, yes, we are total classic rock geeks. 

Mr. LK was in charge of creating our iPod playlist, so he intentionally loaded it with songs we like to dance to in private. Every year, as part of marking our anniversary, we listen to our wedding reception playlist. Those songs have taken on new meaning to us because they were the soundtrack to our day. So even if you don’t want to have official dancing, I highly suggest that you still have your own music playing in the background. you will be amazed at the beautiful feelings and memories those songs can trigger, even years later.

Post # 12
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Worker bee

I’m planning on skipping it…neither FI nor I are fond of dancing, and my dad’s been living in utter terror of the father/daughter dance. No need to add more stress to the wedding.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Aug 30th, 2014

Skipping dancing totally. We aren’t dancers, and neither is my family or any of our friends. Everyone’s reaction that we’ve told so far has been, “Oh-thank-god.” His family dances a bit, but I think they’ll like mingling more. Music and dancing has never been important to us as a couple.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We aren’t doing it, I personally couldn’t think of anything worse than everyone watching me dance, but it is totally a personal preference. I have been to wedding where the first dance has been the best part of the wedding! If done well, they can be amazing!

But no, we aren’t doing it. Would love to hear of alternate ideas though as we would like to do a ‘first’ something at the reception.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

 

coffeedrinker:  we are doing a luncheon following our ceremony and everyone will be gone by 5 (hopefully) so we are going back to our home (which we wont live in until we are married) and will have our first dance in the great hall of our house, just the two of us, before we head off for a private dinner and then get whisked away to our honeymoon!

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