Post # 1
My shower is next month and I was wondering if my fiance should attend it with me. My bridal party and Mom haven’t mentioned anyting about it but they do know that he’s planning to drop me off (the location is a surprise to me so I can’t drive myself) and is planning to pick me up which they seem fine with.
I’ve only been to one shower where the groom was present for the entire time which I didn’t think was odd and the others the groom has always showed up at the beginning and/or end but has left during a majority of it. To be honest I would love him to be there the entire time because the gifts are for the both of us and this is his wedding as well. It would be nice for him to help open the gifts for us and also FI hasn’t met alot of the people that will be at the shower so I thought this would be a good opportunity to introduce him before the wedding.
I just don’t want to offend anyone by having in there. Thoughts?
Post # 3
@Beachy0404: My DH was not at my shower but I would have loved it if he was as the gifts were for both of us. I have seen it done both ways and would not be offended or thrown off if someone’s FI was at the shower. Does he want to go? DH didn’t really want to go because he thought he would be bored during the socializing and games part of the shower.
Post # 4
I would only think it was weird if it looked like he was forced to be there, like if he acted like he was bored or something. If it seemed like he was enjoying himself there I wouldn’t think it was weird at all!
Post # 5
I’ve been to a few where the groom was there, but it only really seems comfortable if he knows several people at the shower. If it’s your mom’s work friends or your best girlfriends from out of town, he might not be super eager to be there. But there are people he knows well there, then I say go for it! I went to a shower recently where the groom was the only man there, but all of us knew him well.
Post # 6
DH would have killed me if I dragged him to my shower. I haven’t been to one yet that had the groom there, and to be honest most of the women there, don’t want to be there. There are other ways for him to meet up with friends/family and it’s not like they will get to know him at this shower. The grooms usually show up and help with loading gifts in the car.
If he hasn’t met some of your family/friends then maybe schedule an outing for the guys (like golfing or batting cages) of the women going to the shower.
Post # 7
i personally don’t want my SO there because it will only be girls and cheesy wedding stuff that he isn’t into lol
Post # 8
Mine would have been super uncomfortable for DH so I am glad he didnt attend. We did all girly games, presents like lingerie and undies would have been awkward opening in front of him but were fun to show him at home.
Post # 9
If it’s women only, I would think he might feel uncomfortable. If it’s a mixed party, no problem.
Post # 10
@Beachy0404: I’ve never seen a groom at a bridal shower. It might get awkward depending on what games you have(which you can control) and also what gifts people bring(which you cannot control)- I don’t think I would want to open wedding lingerie or body chocolate in front of the groom. My sister had a coed baby shower, and that was fine (some of the guys were obviously bored during some of the games- during food time it was fine).
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
DH did the same that your FI is planning- drop off and pick up. He was able to meet a few people towards the end.
Unless you’re doing a co-ed shower, I wouldn’t have him there. It’s such a great women-only event. True- the gifts are for both of you, but let’s face it- he’s not going to be excited about dinnerware or a lot of the typical shower gifts. And it’s a lot more fun to ooh and ahh over the lingerie without him there. 🙂
Post # 12
To be honest I think it’s pretty weird for the guy to be there the entire time I’ve never herd of thy before I know a lot of guys will go at the end and say hi/ bring flowers for the bride and mothers but I told my FI I don’t even want him to do that, it’s girl time lol but there’s no right or wrong way if you want him there, have him there
Post # 13
Why would he be? Moreover, why would he want to be?
Completely excluding couples showers, which are absolutely their own thing, most bridal showers are very lady focused. And sometimes inappropriate gifts are given. Would you really want him to be sitting between your grandma and mom when your best friend from college gifts you warming massage oil and crotchless panties? Even if everything stays G-rated, he will probably get really bored, especially when conversations turn to babies, breastfeeding, gossip, vaccinations, shoes, etc. like they tend to do.
Post # 14
Showers are most definitely “girl time”…
Men would be incredibly bored IMO
Unless they are an event for Couples… and organized as a “Couples Shower” (those can be a blast !!)
Many a Groom-2B will drop off the Bride, and come by later to pick her up, and help pack up the Gifts / take them home.
But to sit around… play silly games, listen to “girl talk” and ooooh & aaaah over Gifts that are chosen with the Bride in mind….
Post # 15
My thought was…
” Ehhhhhhh…….” With a ‘Sour milk face’
Post # 16
Groom attends bridal shower = not a bridal shower (in my opinion). It’s just a party then.