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FI and I weren’t planning on doing engagement photos but one of my bridesmaids is a photographer and wanted more engagement photos for her website so she asked us if we would pose for her. We already did a quick shoot last weekend but it was Carnivale and Downtown was packed which made it really hard to get in all the pictures we wanted to get. We are going to do another shoot this weekend but before then I want to get some advice.
FI and I are kind of like the anti-couple, we aren’t very cutesy at all, we don’t do pet names and we aren’t into PDA. As a result most of my favorite pictures from last week were taken when we weren’t paying attention or when the picture was super posed and involved props. So what I want to know is how did you loosen up and get comfortable in front of the camera especially if you aren’t a PDA kind of person? I feel so awkward when the camera is on us, I never know if I should be looking at the camera or what I should be doing with my hands. What are your tips for getting good engagement pics?
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@novacaineandlaughter: Tip – hire an experienced photographer. It’s on us as photographer’s to make you look good.
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@continuumphotography: I am hiring a pro for my wedding but for the engagement pics this is literally just a favor for my friend since she is switching from shooting for newspapers to shooting portraits/engagegement pictures/landscape/etc and needs to pad her portfolio and I figure since we are doing it we might as well look good since we do need some pictures of us for the wedding website.
Any tips as a pro to relax and get some good shots?
Post # 5
Someone posted this yesterday…
How to…Pose in Your Wedding Photographs – What to Do (& What Not to Do)
I’d also say to just laugh and have lots of time. What was nice for ours was the photographer turned some music up loud and told us to just relax and dance a bit and talk and ignore him. It helped us ignore him since we couldn’t really hear him. But we started our shoot indoors and then later moved outdoors.
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@novacaineandlaughter: I would say pretend no one is taking a picture of you that it is just you and your FI. 🙂 That helped us a lot when we took our engagement photos. And also not overthinking the posing if that is what she is making you do. Our photographer kind of encouraged us to get in a certain position but waited until she found the right moment to take a picture when it didn’t look like we were posing. I think the best pictures come out when you aren’t being too aware of the photographer, is in the moment, or captures a moment of pure joy and happiness! 🙂 Good luck and that is nice you are helping a friend out with her portfolio.
My FI and also took 2 sets of engagement photos too, one was taken with a friend of ours who wanted to build up her portfolio and the other with our wedding photographer. That is a thought too, maybe you could ask your wedding photographer if they have an add-on for an engagement session?
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@continuumphotography: To me this is a weird question, because the advice on how to make your subjects relax is advice I should be giving to the photographer not the subjects. It’s my job as a photographer to make you relax, it’s not so much a tip I can give you. I use my personality and rapport to make that happen. If your photographer doesn’t have that connection with you, or it’s not in their experience to help their subjects relax than I don’t think I have much advice to give.
Most engagement sessions are awkward the first 30 minutes. It takes time for people to relax. I tend to shoot in closer proximity to them in the beginning to push that awkardness up, and then as they get used to me being close I drop back and shoot with longer lenses so they really relax. 85mm, 135mm, etc. I try to make my engagement sessions about the couples interacting, I talk to them and ask questions, and keep the mood light. I’ll give them suggestions on what to do as each pose unfolds, but since I’m inspired on the spot by the environment I couldn’t really tell you much beyond that. If your photographer friend wants to get good at this, it’s all stuff they need to do – you as the subject are not responsible so much.
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Our best pictures were ones that our photographer “caught” when we didnt think she was taking pics. Our worst ones are the posed shots bc it was our first time working with her and taking professional pictures. You can tell we were a bit awkward.
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if your guy is down, I highly recommend prcatising in the mirror with him. You can get a feel for posing together, as wll as begin to understand your “angles” – if you guys practice now, you will be much more comfortable going into the shoot, less awkward coming together for a photo, and your friend will have something to work with
this knowledge will also come in handy on your wedding day for your pro pics, as well as posing for guests!
Post # 11
We aren’t cutesy people either, so I thought our e-pics were kind of awkward! What really helped though was knowing that we both agreed to NOT publicly share the photos on facebook or with other people. After the fact, we showed family members and close friends the ones that we liked.
Even if you’re going casual, get a new or cute outfit that makes you feel great and definitely put on more makeup than usual—I put on a LOT more than usual and you can barely see it in the photos.
Post # 12
Why don’t you have your friend photograph you and your fiance doing an activity together? You could go to an arcade, play miniature golf, go to a park and play on the swings, etc. It may help you forget that you’re getting your picture taken.
You could also do what my fiance and I did – have a couple of drinks before you start
Post # 13
That’s actually good advice ^ have a beer or a glass of wine.
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Thank you to everyone who has responded so far!
@SeptemberBride2013: That’s a good suggestion on both counts haha. Last time we kind of just winged it and found cool spots as we went to act as a background but this time I think I’ll research some activities we can do Downtown.
@bndmusicfactory: Yeah that might help cut down on the awkward factor, especially for FI because he will gladly admit that he is the least photogenic person on the planet and much less aware of his good angles than I think I am.
@Elky: Thanks for the link! I’m getting some good ideas for poses we could try.