(Closed) What are yours and your SO's major differences on parenting?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
986 posts
Busy bee

We really don’t have any at this point! We grew up in similar households, so that really isn’t an issue, and we had the same rules throughout our teen years, so we’re on the same page there. I think our only issue may be school districts; I don’t care, but he has a preference. (And since I don’t care, I’d just look for a home within that district, haha).

Post # 4
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Me and SO were raised very similarly as far as structure and discipline, so we don’t have any point where we disagree. None that we’ve come across yet, anyway. We both agree on discipline, and that we’d prefer our children to be involved with extracurriculars, but we’d prefer that they pick out what they’d like to do instead of us.

Growing up, like your SO, me and my guy were always doing “productive” activities because the dominant parents were very Type-A. However, as children, our parents chose the activities we did. At 5, I began playing softball. I grew to really love it and excelled at it, but I what if my parents asked me what activities I’d like to do? What would I be great at now? It was a similar situation for my SO: he became proficient at piano and tap-dancing. I am in no way angry at my parents, because I know they wanted me to be active and healthy, and I was very young, but it’s something I wonder about.

I think a good balance of structure and self-expression is something every child could benefit from.

Post # 5
1481 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

We agree on discipline and generally how we want to raise children. The only things we disagree on are the amount of TV/video games they’ll get to watch/play (I say they need to earn it, he says they should be able to when they want to) and drinking/smoking weed with them after a certain age. I don’t ever want to cross that boundary until they’re 18 but I don’t smoke either. He thinks it’ll be fine after 16 or so to do both with them. 

I’m hoping he’ll change his mind in time since we don’t have kids yet and aren’t planning on it for at least a few years.

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