- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Wedding talk has amped up in our household of late, and it’s really made me realise how different husb-to-be and I are when it comes to planning our dream wedding. FI and I are usually on the same page when it comes to pretty much everything (social and entertainment style, shopping habits, aesthetics, personal style, culinary preferences) but when it comes to this wedding, it would appear that I’m on Planet Bridezilla and he’s on, well, Planet Clueless Guy. Some polarising issues so far:
– Photography/videography: of paramount importance to me. I love all things visual, am an enthusiastic hobby photographer, I work in media. I am willing to put a large chunk of money into what I consider to be an investment in our memories. One of my exes was a photojournalist and the portraits he did of my great-grandmother have become some of my most treasured possessions since she passed away. I will never stop being thankful for having those images, and I don’t want to risk missing those moments with a cheaper/inexperienced photographer. FI thinks we could just ask a friend who’s handy with a SLR to do the job.
– Wedding vision: we’re doing a destination wedding in Bali because it’s a geographic compromise for our families and friends (scattered all over Australia, Asia, Europe, US). Having said that, I adamantly don’t want a tropical, beachy, ‘destinating-looking’ wedding. FI keeps making suggestions like tropical flowers in my hair, Balinese decorations and roasted whole baby pigs at the reception.
– Alcohol: lots of our friends are gourmands and I want to serve decent wine (probably Aussie or NZ) at the reception, but I’m not really into spending a huge part of our budget on French champagne and Bordeaux. FI works in F&B and is passionate about wine, so he really cares about this. We have managed to agree on a signature cocktail (Earl Grey Martini, a mutual favourite).
– Stationery: We’re probably only having between 50-70 people, so I think I can justify doing letterpress invitations. FI reckons we could just send Facebook invites be done with it.
We have managed to agree on attire (both his and mine) and wedding colours. I’m sure there are going to be so many more topics of disagreement to come…I can’t see him caring much about floral arrangements or programs either!
I’m sure I’m not the only bride who feels like she has to justify every preference when it comes to wedding planning.
So, Bees – what are the biggest areas of contention when it comes to planning your wedding with FI?