(Closed) what belated wedding gift would you get a friend who is getting a divorce?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

how aboiut giving her a “just because” gift rather than tagging it as anything wedding related. could you spend 1/2 a day on a fun activity with her – something that will distract her for a few hours and make her happy?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would consider maybe a spa gift certificate. I’m sure going through a divorce is incredibly stressful, especially dealing with any snarky comments she may be getting from friends/family, you know? A spa day would be perfect to drown out all the bad stuff and really focus on her. I knwo I’d appreciate something like that if I were in her unfortunate situation, especially because I don’t ever buy stuff like that for myself.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I love the spa gift idea or a wine basket would do it for me!!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I like the spa idea too. Or maybe, if she’s got other friends in the area, a little wine and cheese party with her closest friends might cheer her up (if she likes that sort of thing). I think that the gift should be entirely removed from the “wedding” label and should just be something that you do for her that she will enjoy and that might take her mind off of the bad stuff for a little while. It’s important to have friends around when you’re going through something so difficult.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Having been through a divorce – anything that helps her “check-out” from reality for a little while.  A spa day, or even just a mani-pedi or massage – all great ideas.  Have a fruit arrangement or goody basket delivered. 

You’re a thoughtful friend!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

A massage and a home cooked meal! I bet she’s too bummed to cook for herself…a casserole would be nice =]. Ok you’re talking to the foodie….=]

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

So is it that you were plannign on giving her a gift after the wedding, and before you got the chance she is getting a divorce? 

I can understand you want to do what’s socially appropriate.  Not to mention, of course you simply want to give a close friend a gift.  But if you try to tag it as a wedding gift, so she knows that you didn’t forget, or are an etiquette rebel, I think at this point, that does more harm than good.  I agree with the spa gift, or if you have the time and money, perhaps a girls’ weekend away for the two of you (if you’re that close).  She’ll appreciate your thoughtfulness.  And she’ll probably find better use for that kind of gift now, than all of those blenders and towels she got earlier… 🙁

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would do the spa thing, but go with her. And listen. I have a girlfriend who was going through a divorce and felt like people were just so sick of hearing about it. I think she felt really isolated by that. I agree; don’t attach it to the wedding. Maybe just write her a nice card saying that you are there for here, you are sorry she has to go through this, and confident she will emerge even stronger. You are a very thoughtful friend.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Food is an excellent idea. When people are depressed, they just stop cooking entirely. The spa idea is also a wonderful one; she must be feeling physically awful.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m going to jump on the spa gift certificate bandwagon!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I completly agree too, a spa gift card would be awesome I am sure!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Ditto all the people that are saying spa gift certificate – my mother found herself in this gift giving situation and that’s what she did, and the recipient was so grateful.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

spafinder is a gift certificate that is good at any number of locations if you don’t know which one she prefers

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