Post # 1
Wedding planning has been so interesting for me and my FI. I love to plan, and he hates it, so most of it has fallen to me and that is fine. But some things that I expected him to have opinions about he hasn’t cared about at all, and then other times, when I have already made a choice and am just running something by him, he’ll be like, “Wait, what?! Absolutely not!”, which I find hilarious.
We are doing mainly sunflowers for our centerpieces and they will make up the bulk of the bouquets. So, my plan was to use mini-sunflowers to make the bouts. Simple, right?
FI doesn’t care about flowers at all, so I mentioned in passing that when my MOH was in town this weekend, we were going to do some flower trial runs and he was like, “Yellow flowers for my bout?! Won’t that clash and be really jarring with a black tux? No! I want white flowers”, I went on the knot with him and scrolled through some bout pics and he likes calla lilies for bouts. Completely fine with me me, but I just never would have guessed that he would care at all about that kind of thing.
Has your FI surprised you with strong opinions about random things?
Post # 3
Hahaha my FI cares about centerpices!! so weird I was debating between low centerpieces with floating candles and flowers but out of no where he insisted they had to tall centerpieces.. he wouldnt budge lol I gave in and I do like them it was just weird lol
Post # 4
Aside from having very strong opinions about the music (we both do–luckily we share a lot of the same taste), he had shockingly strong opinions about boutineers and…my veil. Of all things! Apparently, my easy-going FI secretly despises men wearing flowers on their lapels and was determined not to have that at his wedding. Fine, we went with pocket squares, but it still surprised me that he had any opinion at all about it. He also admitted, after seeing that I purchased a cut-edge veil, that he was relieved that I didn’t go for the ribbon-edge veils I had been looking at originally because he thought they looked “weird.” Hmm. I still love a ribbon-edge veil, but I guess I’m glad he likes the one I got. So odd.
Post # 5
My FH is really excited about picking the song to our “grand entrance” when we are first introduced at the reception. I thought it was cute, so I said okay and told him it was totally up to him.
…….I am sort of regretting it now, but trying to suck it up for him. First, he wanted to use a Sevendust song (I am a country girl myself so Sevendust is a bitttt too heavy and, oh yeah ANGRY for a wedding song, IMO). Now he wants to do a montage of memorable movie quotes mixed with songs. I didn’t really get it when he was explaining it but it sounds…. ummm….. 😉 Where did he get this idea? Oh, the interlude the Flyers use between the 2nd and 3rd periods.
Post # 6
Who knew men had such strong feelings about flowers and decor?
@frugal- my BM’s FI also had really strong feelings about her veil! He wanted her to wear a blusher over her face, but she wasn’t willing to budge on that.
@neato- Hilarious that he wants to use a hockey-music-inspired montage for your entrance music! It sounds like it could be cool, though
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Salad. We literally debated for a few hours over what type of friggin salad to serve.
I actually get very frustrated sometimes when I’ve researched options, done price checks, done all the work on something and then out of nowhere, he’ll pipe up with some random opinion about whatever I’m working on and doesn’t like it! I’m always like, fine, then YOU do all the work and research for this then, if you don’t like this!
Post # 8
HAHAHA! I love this thread!
My finace wanted to use test tubes in place of champagne classes…thought it would be funny to freak people out! He got so upset when I shot this idea down without hesitation that I had to pretend to consider it!!
Post # 9
His suit! OK, it’s not that weird that a guy has an opinion on his suit, but what he chose surprised me! We were having a DW, and with the very warm weather and the casual feel of our wedding, I thought for sure he’d be going with linen pants and shirt – you know, the typical beach-wedding attire (even if we were in a garden gazebo, not a beach). Well he didn’t even want to look at that. He insisted on wearing a suit, with the vest and tie, regardless of the heat (DH gets very, very hot and uncomfortable quickly with the heat). He thought anything other than that wouldn’t be formal enough for his wedding.
He looked good in the suit he picked, and I’m very happy he chose to go that way (I would have never even try to make him wear something like that in the heat!)
Post # 10
he ended up picking the champagne glasses in the end.
Calvin Klein toasting flutes: the closest one to test tubes, if you ask me. lol.
Post # 11
The silverware we registered for. He literally spent a good half hour at each of the stores tryng to pick out the silverware. I never knew he would care that much about anything on the registries!
Post # 12
@trailmix- I agree on your “you want to do that, YOU do all the research” line. For our honeymoon, we were between going to Vancouver (his choice) and Montreal (my choice). So I said, I’m fine with going to Vancouver if you want to plan the honeymoon. Needless to say, he ceded out destination choice to me.
@kcasam– I think your “test tube” flutes are beautiful and a nice compromise
Post # 13
My FI really loved the idea of a square wedding cake.
He wanted pinstripe tuxes
He randomly became interested in the invites.
He was hesitatnt at first, but got VERY into picking the ceremony music.
Post # 14
My FI didn’t want to wear a flower bout. We compromised with a hypericum berry bout.
Post # 15
I’m also in love with this thread!!!
My fiance was very specific about music. Which surprised me. I was going for the “feel” of the evening. What would be appropriate for what times… well he VETOED every idea I had!
I thought it would be hilarious to have Joe Cocker’s “leave your hat on” for him taking off my garter… and he hated it!!! He wanted “Macho Man”!!!!!! OMG! What are we going to do with our men?!?!
Post # 16
Save-the-Dates! I had asked my artsy sister to help me design a Save-the-Date to send out via email and casually ran it by him – he was upset that I didn’t ask him to help so I let him throw a contender design into the mix. Unfortunately, I don’t like what he came up with at all – we just had this discussion last night and still haven’t resolved it. I had no idea he cared so much about this, too funny!