Post # 1
hi guys… wondering who else decided to opt out of certain wedding traditions and why.
Bridal shower –
I’ve declined the offer to have a bridal shower as my FI and I have lived together for 2 years already and have everything we need. Bridal showers are an outdated practice IMO originally intended for young women still living with their parents before the wedding. I think it’s a tradition that needs to go out of style.
Not seeing each other before the wedding –
We aren’t superstitious this having no reason not to see each other before hand. We plan to do a first look and take bridal party photos before the ceremony. Getting photos done before hand will allow us to start cocktail hour immediately following the ceremony and keep things moving.
Bridal Party paying for their own gowns/tuxedos –
Ive noted thanks to the Bee that this is just a thing thats expected in the States. Its a tradition that seems tacky to me. I can’t imagine asking somone to pay $150+ on a dress that I picked out! Even though I’m not wealthy I budgeted to buy the girls their gowns.
Garter/Bouquet toss –
I think the garter toss is awkward for everyone involved. I don’t understand the point of the bouquet toss.
Are there any Bridal/Wedding traditions you aren’t partaking in? Why?
Post # 2
I’m not doing the bouquet or garter toss. I will be paying a lot for my bouquet and don’t see the point of tossing it away. Plus, I’ve always felt forced and awkward at other people’s wedding during the bouquet toss. I also don’t really want the awkwardness of the garter grab and toss.
It’s tradition here to do a Dollar Dance, which I find extremely tacky, so we’re not doing that either. Plus I have really awkward older male relatives and it’s just a no go all round.
The shower’s up to my Mom/MOH/aunt/grandmas. I’m not demanding one or even going to mention it, but I’m the first grandkid to get married. We are still pretty young too, though we’re 99% independent from our parents, so we are missing some larger things or nicer things, so it’d be nice to get some of that, but by no means am I looking for the shower to occur. I foresee that my female relatives would be sad to not plan and go to one, haha, so it’s really up to them.
I’m also requesting a not bachelorette party. I have no desire to see strippers. I have no desire to run off and get wasted. My MOH asked, and I said if all us girls really wanna do something, let’s go out to lunch and drink too much wine or have a spa afternoon.
I’m hoping to buy the girls’ necklaces and part of their dresses, and they are picking out their own in whatever style they want, as long as it’s in the right general shade. I don’t see the point of having exact bridesmaids dresses – I’d rather have them look great together and look happy, so as long as it’s not white and it’s some basic shade of teal, I’m happy.
Post # 3
I am not doing a bouquet or garter toss, just because I find them a bit awkward and uncomfortable.
My FI and I are planning a first look and are doing photos before the ceremony, so we are forgoing the “can’t see the bride before the wedding” rule.
We are not having a traditional ceremony. Instead, our friend will be officiating.
Post # 4
So far: no bridal shower, no walking down the aisle, and no giving away of the bride.
Post # 5
we did not do a garter or bouquet toss. i always found them mortifying when i was single, and i think they’re awkward and a bit…dare i say it?? tacky.
Post # 6
No dollar dance, bouquet toss, or garter toss (no garter at all, actually). And we’ll be doing a first look instead of waiting til the ceremony- I wanted to be able to take photos without being rushed, but more importantly, I wanted to spend as much time as possible with the groom on our wedding day!
We also won’t be having a cake. Instead, we’ll just have peach/berry cobbler for dessert, since we’re doing BBQ pork and chicken and it was included in the catering budget. If we do any cake at all, it’ll just be a small one at the head table for FI and I to do the cake cutting, but we may just skip that element altogether as well.
Post # 7
I also declined bridal shower, garter/bouquet. We are not having an offical bridal party either, just attendants. Dad has passed away, personally feel a replacement is impossible, so…going it alone!
Post # 8
I didn’t have a bridal shower, and we didn’t toss anything at the reception. We also didn’t do any grand entrance into the reception because we hate things like that. We also paid for the wedding party outfits.
Post # 9
We’re not doing the garter/bouquet toss, no grand entrance into the reception, and we are 100% seeing each other before the ceremony, I am not missing out on our awesome cocktail hour to take family pictures. First look for the win. I want alllll of those pictures done pre-ceremony.
We’re not going to table visit or do a recieving line, we are attending the cocktail hour to work it like crazy people – that’s our goal.
I don’t think I’m going to have a bachelorette party, it just isn’t my thing, though I’ll probably go out to dinner with my bridesmaids.
Post # 10
We are not doing a bouquet/garter toss either. For one, only about 5 of our guests will be unmarried. My fiance and I also find it rather distasteful for a crowd to look on and cheer while he digs under my dress for a piece of lingerie.
We are doing our pics before the ceremony, will not do a money dance, and will have creme brulee instead of a groom’s cake.
Post # 11
Im not doing the bouquet/garter toss. I would love to do the longest married couple dance, but my aunt is recently widowed and she and my uncle were married for almost 50 years (so they would have won). I don’t want to upset her, so im going to skip it altogether.
Post # 13
smirkypox: like you i didnt have a bridal shower (agree, they seem gift grabby if you have your own house or are alittle older) and didnt have a bouquet/garter toss (hate them). I told my bridesmaids to find a blue dress they would wear again and thats what they did instead of me dictating what to spend.
Post # 14
I have to say FI and I are pretty traditional but we are not doing the dollar dance, bouquet or garter toss either. I hated them when I was single and we don’t have a ton of singles which makes it very awkward.
Post # 15
smirkypox: no flowergirl/ringbearer. No Garter toss/bouquet toss. We’ll do a first look.