Post # 1
This is just a wedding after party my hubby and I are doing in his home country. However, I learned that all of his close female relatives will be wearing floor length, beaded evening gowns for this. What would you wear if you were the bride? I’m thinking about J. Crew wedding gowns, as we are not even serving dinner, but would J.Crew look frumpy up against a bunch of women prom dresses??
Post # 3
Could you not wear your wedding dress again?
Post # 5
I agree to wear your wedding dress again.
Post # 6
Nope. Originally wedding gown is out. Major hassle to travel internationally with. I agree that its a weird situation!
Post # 7
It’d be a great opportunity to wear your dress again! Doesn’t happen often!!!
Post # 8
Is there a special wedding gown/costume that brides wear at your husband’s home country? It might be neat to be able to wear something like that for the wedding party in the home country. I can think of wearing qipao/cheongsam if it’s in China, or festive/sparkly dresses if in Inda, etc.
Post # 9
I think you should look into getting a dress from a destination wedding line. You can get something really inexpensive and it’ll look like a wedding dress only you’ll be able to move around in it, more so than a full wedding gown. I was helping a friend look at dresses on the mori lee website and they had a lot of cute ones, they were super reasonably priced too! Like $300-ish?
Post # 10
I’m a little confused–are you traveling home to celebrate your marriage with your DH’s family and you want to stand out b/c they’re all wearing prom dresses? Why are they wearing prom dresses???
I’d wear something a little slinky =]. Like not poofy, but fitted, like an old hollywood gown.
I guess i don’t get why they’re dressing up so intensely unless you’re having a really formal black tie dinner or something
Post # 11
Hi @fabulouslyengaged, sorry I chime in on all your Turkey wedding threads…I know this is more of a second celebration, an after-party for you, but my guess is to your FI’s family this is THE wedding…Since it’s the only one they get to experience. So they will treat it like a real wedding, they’ll dress their best and expect to see a bride in a traditional wedding dress. Ultimately it’s your choice if that’s a hassle to you, but I’m just saying you might feel differently once you’re there. For my previous marriage, I had a second reception in Turkey and my parents planned a big, elaborate bash for us and both me and my ex thoroughly enjoyed it. Think of it this way, you get to be a star for two days instead of one 🙂
As far as travelling with the dress, I think lots of brides do this and it’s not as big a hassle as you may think. If you don’t want to wear your original dress, I also second @jennifer_espos on the Destination lines from major bridal brands (Maggie Sottero has some very nice ones), they’re designed just for this purpose.
For the guests’ dresses, lol, think of them more like “oscar night” dresses than prom dresses (although I can see how it can come across like that. Too funny.) . In all the wedding pics I see from home people are dressed to the nines, I don’t know where they get those dresses from! I need to go home and buy me some dresses like that.
Post # 12
I want to second melis that formal dresses are not prom dresses.
Post # 13
If you are doing this in Turkey as I gathered from pps then I would say a J. Crew wedding dress is not going to cut it. There are a couple of Turkish wedding dress shops on my commute and I always marvel at the ornate colorful ball gowns in the window. I think you just answered my question of who wears these. I would reconsider flying with your gown. In fact, if you buy it a new duffle bag to hold the dress bag you should have no problem carrying it on (if you can get it small enough). Also, I think you could call the airline ahead of time and ask if you could just carry it on and arrange for them to hang it in the first class coat closet.