(Closed) What bums you out most about wedding planning?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

My in-laws! My FSIL insited on being in the wedding and have made my life hell since. I just love how they wanted to be in it but don’t like me and resume to go dress shopping or participate in any activities wedding related.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Both our mothers contributed to a little bit of drama.  His mother and almost all of his family left early at the reception (which ended at 9:50, not that late) and weren’t there for our sparkler send-off.  My mother didn’t need to but insisted on checking up on the caterers, florists, and other decorations and was upset she wasn’t it a lot of pictures.  Both of them wish they could re-do the wedding which bothers me because they didn’t see the need to enjoy the wedding at the time.

Post # 5
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195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

hmmm…

right now, the biggest bummer is that I’m consumed with doing wedding things. and time into this takes away from projects I want to do on the house and just spend time enjoying spring together. its a lot of work haha.

i’ve been buying more and DIYing less which is fine. I love everything we’re doing, but we’re 3.5 mo. out and I’m ready for it to be here so we can get back to normal haha

My mom hadn’t been real helpful. That was a bummer. She’s getting better though. She’s actually fighting with her sibilings which is huge bummer. I’m ignoring it though and my aunts/uncles have been nothing but suportive and excited for me still. but still makes it awkward.

(I like this post! haha)

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We had a groomsman that made our lives miserable while planning. I’ll try to keep it short, but basically, after he HAPPILY accepted my husband’s invitation to be a groomsman in our wedding and wishing us so many congratulations saying how happy he was to be a part of it, he got really weird and immature and refused to call or e-mail us. He also started spreading weird rumors about us and our wedding that were downright mean and very, very untrue. It was awful. It finally got to a point where my husband had to ask him to step down because the relationship was ruined anyway, and he told US that we were the bad guys ruining our own wedding (or something? what he said made no sense). Ever since he was cut out, planning was pretty much smooth sailing, and we wished we had done it when we heard the first rumor he started about us to save ourselves months and months of headaches and tears.

Weddings bring out weird emotions in people. We later found out from a mutual friend that this groomsman admitted to some people he was jealous of our wedding and our relationship (he’s married to a pretty awful woman that no one in the family likes). It just seemed so stupid that this guy threw away a 20-year relationship over something as stupid as jealous and immaturity.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

This is a great question. I am not married yet – I still have several months and thus far everything has been bliss.  I hope I am not jinx’ing it Tongue out My sister is my MOH and she is the only one that lives near us. Other than that all our families plus our wedding party and guests are all out of town. IMO the distance between all of us has been a huge help.  In saying that I will admit that I am sad my sister isn’t more involved. She actually isn’t involved at all. She is 10 yrs older than me and I don’t know if her lack of involvement is b/c she doesn’t know what her “MOH” responsibilities are or what.  Regardless its ok, my BM’s have stepped up to the plate and its all working out in the long run…

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Miss Chapstick- Wow! That is very sad. I agree, weddings do bring out weird emotions in people. I wonder why? A similar thing happened to my best friend.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

What hasn’t been a bummer? Anything that could go worng for us, has since day one. FI stopped talking to his parents and family after a big fight, my mother stopped talking to her family, we changed our wedding from a huge affair where we live to a destination wedding, so more people are unlikely to make it but we’re happier doing it this way. My bridal party don’t really like each other, we can’t get all the guys to commit for sure yet (my wedding is in 5 MONTHS BTW), everything is an argument with someone and my sister who is my MOH has been miserable throughout the entire thing!!!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Definately family drama!!! Why?! Its so embarassing, my Fi’s family has been super supportive and genuinely happy for us but my family, oh no, trouble! Just trouble! My sister dropped out of the wedding and now has decided not to go, she brainwashed my brother into thinking my wedding is dramatic which it isnt so now he is taking her side.  My mom came with me to get my dress last night and said it was ‘just nice, not like wow beautiful or anything’.  Now I know why they make movies with family drama around weddings because its reality!!!

Post # 11
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523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

the budget bums me out…

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh and my BMs all stink, my poor matron of honor is doing everything for the shower herself, the other girls are all unreliable or just dont even care

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

My mom’s been a huge pain in the ass, but she’s like that most of the time regardless of wedding planning. LOL

Trying to plan a wedding when FI lost his job was interesting.

I’d have to say the guest list has been the most difficult part of the process though.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hm, I’m not married yet.. but so far my two biggest “bums” are having to chose a more traditional hall (I wanted to have the reception at a historic hotel, or an art museum, or the botanical gardens – but couldn’t afford it) and the second was having to choose another church.  The first one was SO beautiful and perfect.

My sister is making my life a nightmare most days, but that’s sort of expected – not really a “bummer” ha!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

The guest list kind of bums me out because I not only am splitting it between my fiance and I but also my parents are divorced and my mother remarried so I am having to be very diplomatic about things.

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