Post # 1
I have a brother and a sister; my sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor, and my brother is going to be an usher. SO has 2 brothers and 2 sisters. We’ve asked his sisters to do a reading each, and his younger brother is an usher with my brother.
My question is, what can his older brother do, seeing as all the other siblings have jobs! (SO is having a friend as his best man)
Post # 3
Do you have an MC for the reception?
Post # 4
Can the other brother not be an usher too?
Post # 5
We’re having a really small wedding, so having 3 ushers would be a bit over the top! 🙂 (Our ushers are only doing it unofficially, and we’re not having assigned seating at the ceremony )But having him as an MC is a good idea.
Anyone else? 🙂
Post # 6
If ushers are in tux’s or wearing a flower, it is official. It is what is. If it acts like an usher, it’s an usher. Today they are called ‘groomsmen’ because not all brides want the formality of having people escorted to their pew or chair.
Let me say that asking the sisters do a reading and not including brother #2, is not giving them equal status and you may have trouble here down the line. I’m feeling bad and I’m not them.
I would say if the wedidng is small, let everyone wear whatever they look good in, give them all matching flowers and let them walk down the aisle. Same with the brothers. If money isn’t an issue let all the men match, either let them buy the same trousers and jacket and you give ties and shirts as gifts; or tuxes; and tell the girls to buy a dress in ‘x’ color, the length you want, and style [no boobs, no strapless,]. Give them direction regarding shoes [silver, ballet flats/heals, gold, black…]
Family first. Still tell the sisters you want her to do a readng; but let them walk the aisle for Pete’s sake. Tell all the men you are having groomsmen and not ushers and you will let everyone know what they are to do when you figure it out. Perhaps brother #2 can pass out programs. Make them if you don’t have them, with as little information as the names of the bridal party and parents if you don’t have a long service. All it costs is colored paper. You can DIY.
Post # 7
perhaps he could have the coolest job ever…
introducing the bride and groom at the reception, the DJs do. He could perhaps do a speach or something? I guess this goes along with EmCeeing, It would probably mean alot to him to do something so special.