Post # 1
Hey all !
My fiance and I have decided that we are not getting married in a church. The only thing that we are wondering about.. or a little puzzled about! is what our guests can do with the time between the ceremony and reception (as in when we will be off getting our pics done ). We dont want our guests to be wandering around with nothing to do… but are looking for an idea that don’t break the bank and is fun for the guests !
Any suggestions would be lovely
Post # 3
How long in between are you thinking of needing for the pictures? may give us a little better idea of suggestions.
Post # 4
Are you getting married and having the reception at the same place? You can do a cocktail hour and have some hors d’ oeuvres available. Otherwise if it is a long break between the ceremony and reception, most people will go back to the hotel and change or rest then go to the reception. You can have a cocktail hour set up at the reception site for people to attend while you are taking pictures.
Do you have any favorite tourist spots that you can suggest people visit while you are taking pics that is close to the reception?
Post # 5
Thanks for the responses!
I am thinking that there will be about 3-4 hours between the ceremony and the reception.. (is that the normal time) I know the photograhper that we have is amazing 🙂 and would do a few locations and a lot of pics!
We do not have a ceremony / reception location picked yet… very soon.. we are in the process of loooking at sme places.. and I am trying to figure out in my head how the day will flow if we do it at the same location versus two locations! Thats why I was trying to get some ideas so I will have an idea if we could have it two places and it still work or if we should try to stick with one (also! A lot of the places that we are looking at are not close to many other things so I am worried that if we stick with one location then there might not be a lot of things that our guests can do – which we dont want! )
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2009 - Catholic ceremony, reception at local armory
I went to a wedding once where anyone who wanted something to do in between was given directions to the same bar. The couple has reserved a private room and all the wedding guests could mingle before the reception. It was a cash bar so I don’t think it cost them much, if anything, but it was fun to be with all of the other guests! The bride and groom even showed up after they were done taking pictures, and it was a great way to visit with them before they got so busy at the reception!
Post # 7
Are many of these people OOT? Or local? If there is something touristy you can suggest or arrange that would be nice. You don’t necessarily have to pay for something, just arrange it for those who want to go. (Ie. local wine tasting, art museum, boat/train rides). Also, I’ve heard of one of the parents or relatives hosting an open house for a couple of hours for those who want to join them.
If worse comes to worse, don’t stress about it. Your guests will figure what is right for them. If they want to nap they will. If they want to bum around until the reception, they’ll figure that out too. Maybe for those who are OOT, have some brochures of local attractions for them to check out.
Post # 8
Why would you need such a large gap between them if you’re not doing the ceremony in a church? I’ve heard it’s pretty typical in Catholic ceremonies, but if it’s not in a church and you can do it anytime, why not make them closer together so you don’t have to worry about the gap?
Post # 9
Thanks for the great ideas! And support! A lot of people are out of town – Mascara – I think it was a great idea to direct them to the same place (as in a restaurant)! Or provide them with some ‘touristy’ things to do!
And Tanya123 – you make a good point – they will do whatever their hearts desire! I guess we can just provide some options for them to choose from!
KateMW – the reason for the long break – We are investing a great amount of money in our pictures and have the photographer for a long time with multiple locations – I didnt think that 3-4 hours was that long either! Well.. since travel time to and from locations and ceremony to reception would be over an hour!
Either way.. I just dont want them sitting around killing time!
Post # 10
If I go to a wedding with a break in between, I want to go back to my hotel. I do not want to go on a tour or anything like that. I am in heels!
Also, in my circle, a lot of people do not go to the ceremony. Especially if there is a break in between. I am also doing a oot wedding, though only by 1-2 hours oot. A lot of people are overnighting. If my ceremony was 3-4 hours before they would not be there for it. It would be mostly family. My ceremony is at the same place as the venue. We’ll see how many make it to the ceremony!
Just my 2 cents!
Post # 11
Ac-ny – that is a very good point you have – as in wanting to sit with the heels during the break!
I am thinking it might be a good idea to do them both in the same place – problem is – we would need to find somewhere with hotel rooms close.. or well.. something close
Post # 12
I guess I don’t understand the need for such a long gap. If I were a guest, I’d want to go from the ceremony/church to the reception and get the party going! In my family at least, people come to party and to prolong it seems weird, in my opinion.
I’d be curious to know what time your ceremony will begin. But here’s my plan, and maybe you can take pieces from it to work for you guys. My ceremony will be in a church and it’ll begin at 4 p.m. It will go for 1 hour and then guests will be able to start making their way over to the reception site which will begin with a cocktail hour followed immediately with the reception. So between 5 to 6 p.m. my guests will be making their way over to the venue, which is not far (we will have almost all oot so we wanted to make it simple) and then be able to snack on some appetizers and drinks. Our cocktail hour begins at 6 p.m. and then 4 more hours of dinner, dances, etc. And if the bridal party finishes taking pictures sometime during that 6 to 7 cocktail hour then we can join in as well.
So since you have not yet nailed down a reception site, you might check with those that include a 1 hour cocktail hour in the per head cost, as in my situation.
Remember to make it as simple as possible on your guests.
Post # 13
I just looked at your location! I vacationed in St. John’s a couple years ago!
Are you getting married in St. John’s? It is not that big of a town that people couldn’t easily go back to there hotel after the ceremony. (I’m a NYCer for comparision) Or do whatever they want., bar, tourist, whatever.
It was a pretty easy town to get around in and not like NY where it can take two hours to go one mile, you know.
But if people are traveling into St. John’s from other parts of the country, some might skip the ceremony. Some would go to ceremony and then check into their hotels to freshen up. Then they might enjoy the break because it gives you that opportunity to go to the ceremony, then relax after the drive in. I once wore a sundress and sandals to the ceremony, then changed into cocktail and heels for the reception.
But your venue choice will really make that decision easier. I am getting married on an apple orchard and then having the reception in the barn afterward. So ceremony and location in one place right after another. We are doing photos beforehand where we are getting ready and then some after while the guests are at the cocktail hour.
Good luck! I loved Newfoundland!
Post # 14
Glad you visited – and loved Newfoundland! We will be getting married in St. John’s! Its funny to put the distances in perspective… for me.. in St. John’s a 30 minute drive would be from one side of the city to another (which I seen as beeing a long time) I guess it does make a lot of sense that no distance will be really far.. with comparison to some that you may have to work through!!!
And yes! I guess my pondering stems from the idea that I want it to be easy peasy for my out of towners to get from point a to point b. I just want to make sure that I am taking all factors into consideration when choosing a location for it all (which will be very soon – we are going to look at 4 next week! )
Post # 15
I have to be honest and say that I think it’s being kind of inconsiderate of your guests to have a 3-4 hour break between the ceremony and reception. What if people are driving a couple of hours to be there? 3-4 hours is a *really* long time. If you want pictures that badly, why don’t you do a TTD session after the wedding, or take photos in the morning before the wedding? If I was a guest and was told there were 3-4 hours between the ceremony and reception, I probably wouldn’t go to both, particularly if I had driven to a city I didn’t know very well. In fact, I’d probably be offended that I was being expected to wait around while the bride and groom ran about town taking photos. And if something was scheduled, but I had to pay for it? That would be even worse.
I don’t mean to sound harsh, but I think you should definitely take into account the possibility that this might really annoy/offend some of your guests. If you decide to go this route, be prepared for lots of guests to decline to attend one or both of your events.
Post # 16
I agree with Amandopolis, I think it’s one thing to be having a Catholic/church ceremony that can only be held at a certain time and HAVING to have a gap, but choosing to leave your guests hanging just to have photographs taken? That seems a bit rude and inconsiderate to me. Start your photos in the morning before the ceremony or do a day-after shoot with your photographer.