Post # 1
Since BF has announced that “this is definitely the year” that we are getting engaged, and we have discussed many times that we want to be married by the end of summer 2012, I’m starting to get a little worried about not having a long enough engagement. I have always wanted a 1.5 – 2 year engagement so that I could enjoy wedding planning and not freak out because of a time crunch – in between work, school, and life in general. I plan to let BF know that I have started to look at venues because I want to get his opinion. But what else can I start to plan at this point, to get out of the way, kind of… to save myself time and frustration in case we have a shorter engagement than planned?
Anyone who is married/engaged – did you start to plan before you were officially engaged?
Post # 3
No clue- I refuse to look until I have the ring. I may go to an expo or two but nothing else. Maybe you can try those?
Post # 4
You can plan a wedding in a year. It honestly isn’t that stressful if you aren’t super particular. It might not sit well with your SO that you are looking at venues and planning when you aren’t engaged yet.
But, if he is ok with it, I would suggest just looking at some magazines to get ideas about color and decor. That has been sort of overwhelming for us. There’s a lot of options. You can also start thinking about your budget and figuring out ways to save.
I would suggest NOT going to try on dresses dresses. I know it is tempting, but don’t. I’ve seen lots of people purchase their dress too early and end up with 2-3 different dresses.
Expos are also a good idea.
Post # 5
I’m neither married nor engaged, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you maybe getting an idea about things like venues, possible people to inlcude in your wedding party, dresses you like, honeymoon ideas, menu ideas…etc. Even if you’re just “window shopping” right now, when the time comes to actually reserve things and purchase a dress, you’ll already know what you want and how long it will take to reserve/purchase what you need. You won’t be starting from scratch, so to speak, which could end up saving you time. Also, finding out things like how far in advance you need to book a venue, airline tickets and so forth might be good information for your BF to know, since I don’t think many men realize it can take 6 months to get your dress and have it altered, and that some locations need to be reserved pretty far in advance, so so a Summer 2012 wedding (especially isnce summer is such a popular time for weddings and you’ll be facing competition for many venues), you both need to pick a date pretty soon, and that it seems silly to ask him to pick a date when he hasn’t officially asked you for your hand.
Post # 6
There’s nothing wrong with being prepared in advance – provided your SO is ok with that. He may think you’re being presumption or stealing his thunder, or maybe he really wasn’t serious about the date he told you but wanted to put you off (heaven forbid this isn’t the case here, and if it is call his bluff baby ;))
Post # 7
I was actually thinking I could get one of those wedding planning books. Just so I have somewhere to compile all the ideas I get! I’ve known girls who had one of those since they were young…then broke it out once they got engaged. Any recomendations? I just hope BF doesn’t get freaked out when he finds it stashed under our bed!
Post # 8
I don’t really think you need to worry so much about that now, as you do have some time:) I had NO clue about anything in reference to wedding venues etc etc…In fact it was only a month after I got engaged (about 3 months ago) that I started looking into these things and I’m getting married this year (March)
Lol! While I don’t recommend the crazed maniac wedding planning lifestyle I live these days, I do thing with proper organization and pre-thought, you will be able to pull off your wedding planning without having to dedicate too long of a time span to it:) I think compiling ideas is a wonderful think at this point!
Post # 9
@CurlyWurly: Thanks! I just know that since I will be consumed with (hopefully!) finishing my grad program at the time, I need a happy balance, and peace of mind that I have control over school/work/wedding. I’m definitely getting ahead of myself. But hey, I have to do something to distract me while I’m waiting.
Post # 10
I brainstormed ideas while I was waiting. Whenever I thought of ideas I typed them into a Word doc on my computer. I bookmarked venue ideas, centerpiece inspirations, DIY blogs, save-on-crafts.com, pretty much anything I stumbled upon wedding related. Our course I never booked anything but I admit I emailed a venue or two to find out prices lol.
Post # 11
lol you can actually do quit a bit.
Your situation reminds me of mine. I’m “Un-engaged”. My boyfriend and I have decided together that we are going to get married, we’ve decided roughly when, he just doesn’t consider us officially engaged until he puts a ring on my finger. Basically, we are engaged, but we’re not telling anyone we are yet.
That said, I’ve started quite a bit of planning and DIY projects. I’ve almost finished designing all the paper items (STD, invitations, menu, programs, ectect). I’ve also started designing and building a wedding website. I have bought a whole slew of vintage stamps off Ebay. I’ve gone to various second-hand stores and collected a bunch of neat bottles I am going to use as centerpieces. In my mind I’ve planned a lot of further details and I’ve gathered all sorts of inspiration.
The only things I don’t feel comfortable doing yet are anything involving actually discusses in-depth details with or booking vendors. I also want to wait until my boyfriend will let me tell people I am engaged to try on dresses.