Post # 1
Hi bees! I didn’t really intend to start this thread until I read the “Did you have guests come into your ceremony late” thread and it panicked me a little (and another bee suggested I start a new post) 🙂
So our ceremony starts promptly at 6. I say promptly because we have a string trio booked for just 2 hours (30 min before ceremony, 30 min for ceremony, and 1 hour for cocktail), plus it’s a 6pm wedding anyway and I worry about sunlight, and our reception is only about 3.5-4 hours long and I want to have as much reception time as possible.
Our coordinator suggested/requested we put 5:30pm on invites because guests have to be shuttled to the ceremony site (it’s only about a 3 minute golf cart ride, but I don’t know how many shuttles they’ll have running) and then find seating. Shuttle service will start at 5:30 and our coordinator said if they arrive prior to that then “they can just go sit in the lounge or bar”.
My dilemma is this: firstly, I feel weirdly dishonest and guilty putting anything other than the actual wedding time on the invites! I’m always early to events (especially important ones like weddings), so if someone told me the wedding started at 5:30, I’d show up at 5:15 at the latest but then feel weird waiting for 45+ minutes for the ceremony to start. Also, our invites are very simple in text and I wouldn’t even know where to fit in “shuttle service at xxx time” on it without compromising the simplicity and design of the invitation. Here’s what our invites look like (this isn’t ours, it’s the sample):
Thanks in advance 🙂 I know I worry about small stuff, but thought it would be nice to have other opinions.
Post # 3
Oh and I forgot to mention, we do have a wedding website where I put the times of the ceremony, cocktail hour, reception, etc. and ask people to get there no later than 5:30pm. However, I know not everyone will look at the website.
Post # 4
As suggested in the other thread, I think a buffer is helpful but I wouldn’t suggest more than 15 minutes for a normal ceremony. Given that you have a shuttle situation, I’m not too sure but in a normal scenario I think advising longer than 15 minutes buffer will lead to people who show up early or on time becoming frustrated with the wait.
Post # 5
@ThatOneGirl9613: I would absolutely, 100% put 5:30 without even questioning my decision if I were you. This may be because my cousins are famous for hosting parties at their homes & when I show up 15 minutes late, they’re still in the shower. 🙂 But still… with all those logistics, I say put 5:30 down. If you have a couple people who you know are always early, put a bug in their ear that the REAL start time is 6… but otherwise, 30 minutes isn’t going to feel long to wait if there’s music.
Post # 6
Personally I think that the primary purpose of an invitation is to inform, so you should somehow add the important information to the invitation even if it compromises the “look”. You could have a separate insert, but that runs the risk of getting separated from the invitation.
So I would put something (either on the invitation or an insert) explaining the logistics: 3 minute shuttle (or 15 minutes walk?) from 5.30, ceremony starts at 6, drinks served from 5.30 onwards…
p.s. If you put 5.30, most guests will arrive at 5.15 and be stuck, no shuttle and no drinks.
Post # 7
@MrsSawyer: I was totally with you on 5:45pm max until my mom said she thinks I should put 5:30pm because of traffic (Friday wedding). Do you still stick with 5:45 or considering Friday rush hour should we put a whole half hour buffer?
@MexiPino: I have written on the wedding website that the wedding is at 6, but to not show up later than 5:30 because of shuttle service. I figure if people read that, then they’ll know and I won’t feel as guilty. If they read it and disregard it then I guess they were bound to be late anyway lol.
Post # 8
I put on my invites – 4pm for a 4:30 start. Not dishonest, but gives guests fair warning that it starts at 4:30 (because the venue doors will be closed when it starts).
I would be annoyed if I went to a wedding with a start time that was 30 mins early, because I always make sure to arrive early as is, and would hate to end up waiting around for 50 mins because I was one of those who did the right thing.
Post # 9
@paula1248: Thank you! I realized I should let go of my OCD of the invite layout and lean more in favor of being informative.
Post # 10
@aussiebride26: I agree with this 100%