Weddingbee boards

So I see all of these posts about how life changes once you're married... how does it change once you're engaged? For bees planning a big wedding, does the planning affect your relationship? Would you rather have eloped/had a smaller wedding and enjoyed the engagement more? For everyone, how did the dynamics of your relationship change?

According to him, blow jobs. He claims he hasn't had one since I got the ring.

I feel that the FI is more jealous now that we are engaged. When we were just dating and we been dating for about 4 years now he did not care if I had guy friends. Also now that we are engaged my family acts like my FI is god....lol.  One good thing that has happend is that he talks about our future a lot more now :-)

@BerryBerry:  Well, the waiting is over! In a way, your partner has just officially confirmed the fact that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, and you have confirmed it to him as well. So, there could be some changes happening! I just thought it was an interesting question :)

@SFreeman2187:  Haha I'll make sure to keep that in mind!!

The stress of planning is for sure there but, I think, it's balanced out by the assurance that your FI has the same life plan (more or less) as you do. The whole relationship is "no matter what" I really liked that. 

Also, as someone who may or may not have peeked around at wedding websites before getting engaged, I had about a million different ideas and themes and looks that I loved imagining for a wedding. However, once we were planning our wedding, a lot of that fell away because it was just not "us". So as far as wedding vision, that all cleared up really quickly. Basicly I went from  planning my wedding to our wedding and that was a big shift just in my own mind.

I have been dating my fiance for a little over 10 years now and we have been more respectful of each other and really taking the relationship more seriously. We also are required to take these marriage counseling classes by the pastor that will officiate the wedding so I think that helped us. And we own these 2 dogs and so we feel like a little family and really are good about making sure we feed them, walk them, play w/ them and such and really try to do it all around both of our schedules.

Wow, these are some great answers! Thank you! I never realized how much families and outside people can really play a role when such a big change in your life happens.

I moved in when we got engaged, so a lot changed because of that.  I notice a lot more people looking at my hand. Strangers in stores ask me when the day is.  Women who know they're not getting invited (friends of friends I barely know, people I just met) quiz me about everything and ask for advice about random things like band or DJ. 

We've learned how good we are at delegating different tasks. Hubs took over the honeymoon, DJ, and a few other things while I tackled the photographer, Reverand, and such.

When we got engaged I started calling him hubs, hubbily, my 'ance (fiance). He calls me his wifey, and often turns to me and says, "You're going to be my WIFE."

Getting engaged really put a crunch on the house hunt. We want to move before the wedding.

We learned a lot more about how we each spend our downtime and are working to develop individual and couples hobbies.

Nothing! Thats how it should be! We talk about the future a lot more, and we are planning a wedding! but other then that we have a great relationship, we are both very happy which is how we were before we got engaged L)

Things changed between us, but it was very subtle. To put it simply, I went from thinking we would spend our lives together to knowing we were, and that small shift makes all the difference. The good and the bad. As in, I get to spend the rest of my life listening to that laugh! *Happy Sigh* And, I have to spend the rest of my life listening to him eat??? *Horrified sigh* lol!

No, but seriously, it all changed for the better. I have such an amazing feeling of love and security that I want to wrap myself in it all the time! The feeling of "this is it" is unmatched when its right.

I will say that our families say that things are different. My family says that my FI is more affectionate towards him, and his family says that I am more loving towards them. I guess our brains both shifted to each others family being our own family once we were engaged.

Well the biggest thing for me was that we stopped arguing about not being engaged :) any built up resentment I had for waiting for what felt like forever (4 1/2 years, but now I am so glad we waited) went away. He has definetly changed, he just seems happier, less stressed, more loving and more settled. We are better then ever, we are having fun wedding planning. I agree with Bellagiobride, it just now it's more certain, it feels different. I am loving it.

@BayStateBride:  Haha yes indeed, it makes me so anxious to wait because it's all on him!!!

Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences, I loved reading them! I'm very much looking forward to that time in my own life and the pertaining changes (maybe later this year?). :) I also hope that in our relationship engagement will bring more stability and a better team/partnership feeling. We're already great with each other, but I just have trouble feeling complete in a relationship until we've gone through engagement and marriage.