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Immediately, there was the intimate side of our relationship. As someone who waited for certain aspects until marriage that was probably the first change I noticed.
Fianances are different, but it took a little time. Before we weren't too focused on splitting everything fairly, but we didn't have anything joint. We thought of our money as 'ours' more and more as we got closer to the wedding, but setting up a joint account and setting up investments together made it seem like our money much more.
Christmas was different. We always split our time between our families, but this was the first year we slept at the same house every night.
Not much for us - we both starting wearing wedding bands and referring to each other as husband and wife (we already lived together).
When people asked me "How's married life?" my typical response was, "Pretty much the same as engaged and living together life!" :)
We waited to move in together.
I just feel like since we were married everything is more special! We're just closer and way more in love. I love getting used to saying Husband...
I wish all my single friends would get married now too because marriage is so much better than I thought.
We didn't live together before we were married, so it seemed like everything changed lifestyle-wise. And it's been so much fun!
We live together! That's a big one. I never have to get sad about having to leave.
*We* have money. I don't have a job yet, so occasionally he'll say, "Let me know if you need money for anything." All I really do is buy groceries, but we were together for nearly 7 years before getting engaged and never gave each other money.
Hearing myself called his wife is weird. I still haven't called him my husband out loud (can you tell we've been married ten days?) so I call him by his name a lot more. Because I used to call him Boyfriend, but can't anymore.
The last one is hard to explain, but we feel a lot more connected now. Not emotionally, but as in everything is ours, everything we have, our future...We're really a unit now. To everyone, not just to us. It makes everything feel different to us, and a lot more special. :-)
We work through fights better because we're not just dating, we're stuck with each other now :P
We moved in together after we were in engaged, so living together without wedding planning hanging over us has been AMAZING!
I feel this inexplicable sense of closeness and security. Sometimes I look at DH and almost cry because I feel so lucky.
Finances: we are in the process of totally merging things right now and it feels good to be working towards our financial goals together. We treated our money as "our" money after we were engaged, so this should make things a lot easier.
I finally feel like we really are our own little family :)
Not a whole lot - I do double the laundry but haven't had to clean a bathroom in almost a year yay! haha.
Oh and we are allowed to sleep in the same room at the IL's now! Yay! lol
But seriously, it makes the visits MUCH more tollerable.
Haha double laundry. Yes. Agreed. It's so nice to have someone to come home to, that's the biggest one!
Nothing besides my name. We lived together for many years before tieing the knot so we were already as married as two people can be without it being legally binding. At first I was a little bummed that it didn’t feel any different but then I realized that it shouldn’t anyway. We’re still as crazy about eachother as we were premarriage, now we’re just husband and wife as opposed to fiance(e)’s. My love for him is the exact same and we still make our decisions as a team, just like we did before. Those who never lived together have a huge transition to go through but those of us who cohabitated before marriage just kinda keep on doin’ what we’re doin’.
@SarahSmilesDec28: ha, I was thinking nothing and then I remembered this! yeah, we stay at one house now instead of me staying at my parents' and him at his.
We lived together for 6 months before the wedding, so that part we were already used to. Otherwise, not having wedding stress and getting to really think about planning trips together, buying furniture/tv and thinking about house stuff!
@SarahSmilesDec28: Totally agree! My parents were so strict about this even though we had been together over 10 years before we got married. When we stayed over at Christmas is was so nice to be able to go to bed together in the same bed!
Other than that, not too much has changed. Life is pretty similar except we have nicer things now (from wedding gifts/things we purchased with gift cards) and we don't have stupid wedding plans taking up all our free time! So, life is pretty awesome!
@Catherine: isn't it awesome coming home from work/school and not thinking OMG! I must work on invitations/guestlist/vendor searches tonight!
@hisgoosiegirl: SO AWESOME! We have been back to the gym regularly, cooking nice dinners again, catching up on our shows cuddling on the couch... omg, it is BLISS.
I felt the way people treated us were different. We hadn't changed, but it felt like everyone else did.
@SarahSmilesDec28: I love it so much I want to marry it! Stress levels are down sooooooooo much. Not that we don't have big kid things to worry about, but gosh, I really like not having the walking on eggs feeling when I need to *talk* to DH *yet again* about his mom's 30 cousins she feels just *have* to be invited, regardless of the fact that most of them had never met DH.
So much less stress! That and sex. Sex is nice. Sex is very nice. I forgot that changed too, haha!
@AB Bride: nothing changed for us. we started sharing money when we were dating, and I moved in with him 5 months before the wedding. i guess we were a bit happier...and still are! being married is awesome--i am 10 months in and still have no idea why people say the first year is hard.
On the face of it, nothing really changed. Our chores/finances/parenting/etc. are still the same. But on the inside, we're even more in love and secure in our relationship. It feels even better than it did when we were engaged. It's awesome. :)
Now I don't feel as bad when we are the first to leave the bars when our friends go out, or when we choose not to go out at all. Totally milking the "married" card for all its worth. (We weren't ones for the bars anyway, so it is the perfect excuse.)
We share money a lot more now because I don't work at the moment.
The intimacy is a lot better!
The weirdest thing for me is that I still do not feel like we are married. We did not live together prior. A lot has changed in terms of chores. But I still don't feel that "OMG! I AM MARRIED!" feeling. So I am at a loss for words... 
I'm not married yet and we don't live together yet... but that HUGEST change will be the 6 and 7 year old boys PLUS FH living with me ALL THE TIME. Where can I hide... at work? HEHEHEHE
Well lets see:
Testifying in church that I thank God for "my husband".
My mother and father calling to check on "us".
My grandma asking where is your husband?
My husband leaving messages on my phone and saying, this is your husband?
Using the word husband.
Moving in with a man.
Living with a man.
Cleaning and cooking for my husband daily.
Going out on husband/wife dates.
Having relations (was a virgin before).
Waiting on the hubby to come home... and being so happy to see him!
Having someone in the bed next to me at night.
My mother in law calling, and visiting because she thinks I am lonely.
Having a new city to live in.
Having a new family to love.
Changing church families after being in the other one since I was a toddler.
Wearing a wedding ring....
Being madly in love with my husband and not wanting him to be away from me too long....
lots more changes than I thought, but all wonderful changes.... oh, yeah and having a garden now!!!
Yes, wearing the wedding band is new too. I just wish my husband would wear his a little more often! He jokes that it burns, but he finds it gets in the way at work. I just have to remind him to put it one most of the time when we go out because he's not in the habit of wearing it everyday.
It's just been recently that I've gotten used to the terms husband and wife! It took a while!
I think it's a little easier now to put up a united front with our families. We did it before, but it's just easier now.
We started TTC right away and got a huge blow on Dec 1. He doesn't have any sperm in his sperm test so now we are facing genetic testings, urology appointments, and hopefully IVF next fall.
We have struggled but now are much closer and much better at communicating. It has amped the level of intimacy, since it has made us dig deep and be there for each other while hurting tremendously.
We lived together for about 1 year before we got married so really there wasn't much that changed. 2 months before we got married, we got a single joint bank account. We certainly love referring to each other as Husband and Wife and I love having his last name which I'm still getting used to signing. We do seem to fight a little less now and when we fight, we work through it faster.
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Right after we got married, so many people asked how's married life. I found it didn't feel too different. Some things changed though. What did you notice?
Obviously, for couples who moved in together once after they were married probably experienced the biggest change. This topic is for all (or previously) married couples.