Post # 1
A couple years ago I went to my cousins wedding and saw in lieu of favors, she donated to charity. I was so touched because cancer does run in my family, both my nana and my cousin passed away from cancer. I decided that day I would do the same. The problem is there are so many issues that are close to my heart and my family: AIDS, heart problems, MS, cancer, diabetes, and PCOS. I know some charities are said to be corrupt, so I’m very hesitant at which to choose because I want to make sure my money goes to the right people. So I’d love to hear what charities you donated to.
I know many bees think it’s wrong to act as if its a favor to your guests, I didn’t see it that way. I was happy I wasn’t receiving a favor and was happy she put her money towards something so close to our family. While I respect those bees’ opinions, I have read posts where they practically took it over. While I’m respecting your opinion, I’d appreciate it if you can respect my post by either helping me choose a charity or if you must post about how you don’t agree, please keep it at 1 post. Thanks
Post # 3
We didn’t donate to a charity, but I just wanted to say that when choosing which one, perhaps go for an issue that will be relevant for many of your guests. You mentioned how your cousin’s donation was meaningful to you, so try to go the same route for your guests.
I would also suggest staying away from issues that could be polarizing (i.e., donating to religious organizations or charities dealing with politically-charged issues).
Post # 4
We donated $150 (guessing we’d spend at least $1.50 per favor if we’d actually bought any, times approximately 100 guests). We donated to a local homeless shelter affiliated with the church that married us. We wanted our money to benefit people in our community, plus DH used to work in urban ministry so it is a cause close to his heart.
I always forget the favor on the table anyway, and feel bad that the couple wastex their money. I agree that is not exactly the same thing, but I think it is a nice gesture. It also saved me a huge headache from having to choose a favor and all that comes with it.
We did have a bubble exit planned by my bridesmaid, and guests could keep their bubbles if they wanted to, but they weren’t personalized except with a ribbon so I don’t know if that counts as a favor.
Post # 5
How about one for animals? Would anyone really disagree if you donated to the local humane society or something to help cute puppies and kittens??
Post # 6
We were always going to do a donation to MS Society for Multiple sclerosis as my uncle has battled it for years as well as my sister in law, this way it was a fund that both sides of the wedding were close to. 6 months into our planning my mother was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer. so we did 150 to MS and 150 to the Lustgarten Foundation. we had about 140ish ppl so about 2 dollars a person.
Post # 7
@OSuKat24: i think you should focus on a charity that would impact the majority of your guests.
this is a very personal choice so i could not nor would not suggest a charity for you.
Post # 8
@OSuKat24: Our wedding hasn’t happened yet, but we’re planning on doing donations in lieu of favors to the OneFund, to help the victims and families affected by the Boston Marathon bombings. We live close to where it happened, so it was all very close to home, both figuratively and literally. I also went to a wedding that did this and was really happy that they did and didn’t even think about not getting a favor.
Post # 9
We donated about double our “favor” budget to Wounded Warrior Project. It was an easy choice since my hubby and many guests were military.
If you want to donate, id stick to ones that are the best reviewed where more money goes to the actual cause vice marketing itself….
What about st. Jude?
Post # 10
@OSuKat24: I love this idea FI and I are also thinking about doing the same but we are going to do 2 different donations. Susan G Komen for the Cure which is near and dear to my heart and the Boston Childrens Hospital who saved my FI life when he was 3 after a horible accident.
Just do your research on the carity and you should be fine!
Post # 11
@OSuKat24: We are debating on doing a small favor and a donation to Domestic Violence Solutions of Santa Barbara County. The organization helps men, women, and children who are affected and experiencing domestic abuse in their lives through an emergency shelter, transitional housing, group and individual counciling, and job placement.
Post # 12
@wanabeabee: CTbride2010: we are each picking a charity, so we’ll be donating to 2 as well. I registered earlier today on idofoundation.org which a lot of bees recommended.
Don’t worry, I will be picking one near and dear to me, as will he. My problem is more the fact that my family has problems with our hearts, cancer, and PCOS. My aunt has MS, my cousin died of AIDS, and my grandpa has diabetes which he’s had for a while and it’s something that we all have to be conscious of. Eventually I will pick one, but for now it’s been great seeing all the different charities everyone has picked.
Post # 13
@OSuKat24: We won’t be because my charity of choice would probably make my sister and her boyfriend uncomfortable. She lost her ex to epilepsy and he and I were friends. Since then, I’ve been doing what I can to help out with the Epilepsy Foundation of Texas. I don’t think she or her current boyfriend would appreciate it, though.