What color dress does the mother of the groom usually wear?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m dying to know the anwer to this question!!! There was/still is so much drama around this issue from my recent wedding.

Post # 4
12904 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The groom’s mother consults with the mother of the bride and finds a dress to match in style of formality and usually color.  She can where whatever matches well with the bride’s mother and there is no specific color designated for mother of the groom that I’ve ever heard of.

Post # 5
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well…I’m going to go with whatever she wants. My mom planned to wear a Gold dress and did but my now Mother-In-Law decided that she didn’t want to wear gold and wore Blue. (We had absolutely no blue in the wedding). It really bothered me at the time because I felt like she was just trying to “get her way”. I now realize it was silly and she hurt absolutely no one by wearing a blue dress.

Post # 6
1493 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Whatever she wants. My Mother-In-Law wore an eggplant colored dress when our colors were green and pink. My mom wore a pretty ivory dress that she wore to my brother’s wedding a few years before.

Post # 7
526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

There are a few colors that the groom’s mother is not supposed to wear in traditional western culture- white or ivory (just like every guest shouldn’t wear), black (because it implies that she is in mourning or disapproves of the wedding), or red (because it is considered too flashy or attention-seeking- I would include anything neon or super sparkly for the same reason).  She is also supposed to wear a different color than the bride’s mother and not be dressed more formally (for example, if the bride’s mother wears a tea-length dress, the groom’s mother should not wear a long gown, but she could also wear a tea-length dress or something less formal like a knee-length dress).  

If the bride and the MOG agree, you can try to coordinate her dress with the wedding colors (for example, if your colors are lilac and gray, she could wear a darker purple or pewter).  However, the bride generally does not have the authority to pick the mother of the groom’s dress or even the color.  

Post # 8
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My mom for some reason thought she had to match what the BMs are wearing (pink), and I told her actually to NOT wear pink.  I had no restrictions except no pink and no brown (black is another color in my decor and I don’t like them together).

My mom and Future Mother-In-Law both got black dresses, I don’t care if tradition says its not good, it works for me.

Post # 9
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - The Old Field Club

I think whatever color they want.  I nerver really understood why everyone semi-related to the wedding has to wear the same color.  They are pretty much never in the same pictures as the wedding party, so that shouldn’t matter.  Honestly, I would want them to wear something they are comfortable in whatever color that is.

Post # 10
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would say whatever she wants. I personally couldn’t care less what she wears. She actually asked my Fiance if there’s something specific that she’s supposed to wear and he said, “I don’t know, just don’t wear a wedding dress.” My mom did see a woman wear her own wedding dress to someone else’s wedding!!

Post # 11
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

My mom wore eggplant and my mother-in-law wore navy blue. They didn’t try to match, but they did try to match sure they didn’t clash.

Post # 12
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

mother of the groom can wear any color she likes. My mom and my Mother-In-Law didnt talk about what to wear and they ended up both wearing the same color which was actually kinda nice and people thought it was all part of the plan

Post # 13
5758 posts
Bee Keeper

It USED to be that the MOB chose her style and color first, followed by the MOG picking a different color but similar in formality. Now, pretty much anything goes. Some brides want them to cordinate with the Bridal Party, some want them to match closely to each other, and some don’t care at all! There really aren’t any ‘rules’, but only traditions about what they wear that have gone by the wayside.

Post # 14
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I don’t think there are really any rules besides no white. Being in a color that would look nice next the bridesmaid dresses isn’t really that big of a deal when you think of how few of pictures tehre will be with the moms and bridesmaids. I think I told my mIL to just pick something she felt great in.

Post # 15
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My mom and the MOG went dress shopping together. I told them to find something they like and feel comfy in. MOG is white and MOB is black, so the same color might not complement both their skin tones.

Wedding colors are black and white with touches of dark red. I think my mom will end up with a charcoal grey and his mom burgundy.

They’re talking about how “sassy” they will be looking the day of the wedding. I’m just happy they get along!!!

Post # 16
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@MissBananaBread: I agree with everything you posted.  It was exactly what I was going to say.

OP – If it helps at all, our wedding colors were red and gold and my mom wore a yellow dress and my Mother-In-Law wore a purple dress (of matching formalities).

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