Post # 1
should we go with wine red/burgundy ish (which is one of my wedding colours) or classis black? FI says its up to me but I cant decide! i like the classic black but wine red is a nice pop of colour too… I’m wearing ivory btw.
Post # 3
I like black, but I tend not to really like colors involved in tuxes. It always ends up looking cheesy IMO.
Post # 4
@ariaK: traditionally the groom wears a white or ivory vest/cumberbun/bowtie/tie, groomsmans wear the wedding color for the vest/cumberbun/bowtie/tie, and fathers and grandfathers wear black vest/cumberbun/bowtie/tie.
i would say your groomsman should wear the red.
Post # 5
Personally, I don’t like colors with tuxes, they tend to look very prom-y to me. Black is classic and will always look great.
Post # 6
@ajillity81: That’s not really a tradition unless you consider something that became trendy in the 1990s to be a tradition.
@ariaK: Black is the only proper bow tie with a tuxedo. There’s a reason it’s called “black tie”. It’s an elegant look that will never go out of style and look cheesy.
Post # 7
@Groominator: that started at least in the 70’s since it was that way in my parents’ wedding photos and other family weddings i had seen during that time.
after 40 years, i would call that tradition.
Post # 8
I would go with black or whatever your FH wants to wear.
Post # 9
@ajillity81: That’s a tradition created by the wedding industry to get you to spend more money. It’s not a real, meaningful tradition, and flies in the face of classic men’s style (as does much of the fashion of the 70s, like powder blue tuxedos with ruffled shirts).
Post # 10
@Groominator: merriam webster says: tradition is a way of thinking, behaving, or doing something that has been used by the people in a particular group, family, society, etc., for a long time
it doesn’t matter who started the tradition. new traditions can start any time but anyone.
we can agree to disagree, since we have a different view of what tradition can be.
Post # 11
Definitely black for a tux.
Post # 12
@ajillity81: This may be a tradition in your family, and I understand that it’s a choice a lot of women make for the men in their wedding, but it’s certainly not a strong, general tradition like a bride wearing white on her wedding day. It’s also not one of the options the OP was considering. Wearing a black bow tie with a tuxedo is a much longer standing tradition. That’s why they call it “black tie.”
Post # 13
A black tie always looks more elegant and mature (not to mention, timeless). FI has been in two weddings that involved colorful vests/ties and I can’t help but think of high school prom when I see the photographs. Black tie, no question.
Post # 14
Thanks everyone!! I’ve decided to go with the black and FI prefers black a bit more too.
@ajillity81: @Groominator: I’m not sure what the tradition is but my whole wedding isnt traditional at all, we r doing none of the bouquet toss, garter, etc etc..i guess my question is more towards asthetics and which colour would look nicer/classier for the groom.
Post # 15
@adoc86: now that u gals mentioned it, and the more i think about it, true..colors tend to look more prom ish.