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    okqueenbee    Dec 4, 2009   OKC

    People keep asking me "Are you having a BIG wedding?" and honestly, I don't know what to say.

    We are having approximately 70 guests, which to ME is big because I certainly don't have 70 friends, and half of those people are guests/spouses of the people that I do know lol.

    I'm confused as to what constitues a large or small wedding. The answer I usually give people is "We are having about 70 guests" and leave it at that.

    Sometimes I feel like they are expecting me to say "Yes. In fact I had to rent the Yankee Stadium because our original venue was too small."

    :P

     

     
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    OttawaBride2011    May 21, 2011   Ottawa, Ontario

    we're having about 60 guests and i call it a small wedding!

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    I am having 60 and call it a small wedding!

    70 would be considered small as well! I think avg is low 100s and large is over 150 - thats my personal judgement on size!

     
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    Valhalla    June 26, 2010   Vancouver, British Columbia

    We are having 60 guests as well, and I think, by the wedding industry's standards at least, that it is considered a small wedding. It feels like a lot of people, but overall I guess its considered small!

     
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    Mimi29    July 31, 2010   Wedding in Miami, FL

    100! and that's my final answer, I see already a few people trying to get back in touch with me since they heard we got engaged, so not cool! I'm only having with me special people that are close to us.

     
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    bvig    September 2009   wedding in NJ

    I have no idea, I said mine wasn't too big at 120 people and got scolded by a few people for that.  I guess what I meant when I said it was that since a lot of that number was family it's not 'big' in a way that we could include all the non-family people who meant a lot to us.

     
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    Dancy905    February 5, 2010  

    I think it might depend on where you're from & your background too. We're trying to keep it around 250-230 & I think that's about normal for around here. Our venue holds 400! And a lot of the other places we've visited said they often have 400-500 people at Jewish, Indian and Egyptian weddings. 

    If it were up to me, I'd have about 80 people on a beach at the Jersey Shore, but my family and FI weren't havin' it.

     
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    Tulip61110    June 11, 2010   Philadelphia

    I think lately the concept of "big" and "small" has changed in regards to a wedding size.  A lot of people seem to be having smaller weddings due to the economy.  I think I would consider a wedding under 100 guests to be small (even though that still seems big to me)!

     
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    Miss Sapphire    December 2009   Seattle

    We're having about 50 people, so small.

     

    100 doesn't seem "big" to me, 200, 300 + does though.

     
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    Soon2bZischke    August 28, 2010   kentucky

    We are trying to stay between 150-200 people (prefably 150).  To me that is a small wedding because it is close friends and family (along with spouses).  I was in a wedding last August and the couple had 350 guests!  The bride didnt know the majority of the people there!  That is what i think to be a big wedding. 

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    I think that "big wedding" and "small wedding" are relative terms and hard to generalize.  I know, with our wedding, we invited 119 and a lot of people thought that was really small.  For me, that was as big as I wanted to get!  We ended up with 86 attendees, so I guess that's small, relatively speaking?

     
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    prettyflowers    September 2010  

    Here's how I see it -

    • Under 50 - really small wedding
    • 50-80 - small wedding
    • 80-150 - average size wedding
    • 150-200 - getting big wedding
    • 200+ - big wedding
     
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    zippylef    October 30, 2010   Norfolk, UK

    I think under 100 is small 100-150 seems average and above 150 is big. This is just y personal opinion.

    We're having around 65-70 people and it seems big to me.

     
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    hilsy85    September 2010  

    We're inviting about 200 people, which seems HUGE to  me. Orginally, our guest list was about 150, which seemed medium sized.

     
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    808bride    October 10, 2009   Hawaii

    We had a little over 200 of us. That is 'not that big' for Hawaii terms. A typical hotel wedding is 275-325  and up to 400+ sometimes, with all the extended family and friends of family.

    I agree with the prettyflowers designation though:

    • Under 50 - really small wedding
    • 50-80 - small wedding
    • 80-150 - average size wedding
     
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    vintage2010    April 10, 2010  

    I think 150-200 is average size for my area.  200-250 is large and anything over 250 is HUGE!  We are thinking ours will be around 180-200 but not sure because his side is all from out of state and then a 5 hour drive for all of my side.  So we'll see!

     
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    October2010Bride    October 23, 2010   San Francisco, CA, Getting Married in Pleasanton, CA

    I think we are having a HUGE wedding - 415 guests will be invited.  My fiance's family is Indian, and mine is Middle Eastern, so we both have large families.  It's going to be so much fun, though we struggled with finding a venue that fit 400 people and permitted outside catering.

     
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    trugem    January 2011  

    I heard that anything over 200 was considered big, but in my family that is normal. We are having 400+ and I consider it too big!

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    I think over 200 is big! 70 is small for me, and I SO want a small wedding but we'd never get away with it.

     

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