What "counts" in the budget

posted 3 years ago in Money
  • poll:
    Engagement ring : (11 votes)
    3 %
    Wedding rings : (68 votes)
    16 %
    Honeymoon : (31 votes)
    7 %
    Rehearsal dinner : (63 votes)
    15 %
    Travel related to wedding planning : (50 votes)
    12 %
    Premarital counseling : (43 votes)
    10 %
    Prenup : (28 votes)
    7 %
    Marriage license : (92 votes)
    22 %
    Chipping in for showers and bachelor(ette) parties : (36 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    2414 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Our budget is drawn up.  

    Right now it does not include wedding bands, the engagement ring (that’s what the sparkle fund is for), the honeymoon (we are both pretty set on making it our last really big trip for a while).  We have a co-hab that changes to a prenup when we get married, so its not included either.  

    It does include the marriage license, rehersal dinner, our hotel costs for the night before, night of and night after the wedding, and the activities the day after (we’re planning on having a family fun day at the resort, skiing, s’mores, a bon fire, etc.) 

    It also includes part of the accomodations for our attendants and all of their attire because its tradition for the couple to pay for that where he’s from. It doesn’t include anything I might wear for any party other than the reception.  

    Post # 4
    8387 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @sunflower22:  When I say “wedding costs” I include the wedding rings (not the engagement ring because that’s a gift from my groom, not a “joint” expense), tax, gratuity, rehearsal (welcome) dinner, thank you brunch, and the wedding itself (photography, officiant, attire, gifts, misc. items you mentioned, etc).  I didn’t have a pre-nup, but I guess that would be included too if I did.

    Post # 5
    2792 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think a lot of people include those things, but I really haven’t included them in our wedding cost/budget because most of those are getting paid by outside of wedding budget money.  We are going to be using our tax returns and my yearly bonus to pay for everything we are going to pay for on that list.  I also am not paying for 4 (the FIL has graciously offered) and number 5 is just trips to my home town that we would likely be taking even if we were not getting married. 

    Post # 6
    8483 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I included everything except engagement ring and honeymoon.

    I don’t see those as directly related to a wedding.  Everything else (everything) I included.  I mean, I didn’t include gas $ to drive the 5, 10, 20 miles to see vendors but I would include flights if it was only related to the wedding.

    Post # 7
    402 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @sunflower22:  When I refer to our wedding budget, I generally mean everything EXCEPT:

    ~my engagement ring and our wedding bands

    ~the honeymoon

    ~rehearsal dinner and shower/bachelorette party. 

    FI’s mother very graciously and unexpectedly offered to cover the rehearsal dinner, and I know my mother will be hosting the shower.  In my circle of friends, the bride doesn’t typically pay for her her bachelorette party so I’m not factoring that in either.

    Post # 8
    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    We’re having a tiny wedding. I don’t really include rings in the cost because that skews the budget a lot lol. Basically the budget would be like 90% ring cost if I included rings in there…

    I just count day of costs. It’s not like we’re doing a rehersal dinner or anything so it’ll all be costs for stuff on the day itself.

    Post # 9
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Our wedding bands, the pre marital counseling was included in the Church fee (so I guess we inclide that), and our wedding license!

    Post # 10
    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’m not including the honeymoon, rehearsal dinner or my e-ring. We don’t have any wedding-related travel, but if we did, I would include that. I also don’t plan on contributing to my own parties – I’d rather not have any (shower, etc.) to begin with!

    Post # 11
    6194 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I voted for pretty much everything, but I think it depends on the person, and who is paying for what. My DH wanted the total cost in general for us getting married, so he would include everything.

    Post # 12
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    When I say the wedding total cost, I don’t include any of those things. We never set a budget though, if that make a difference. 

    Post # 13
    1721 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @sunflower22:  Our wedding fund does NOT include engagement/wedding bands, honeymoon (thats 10k on its own, so we would prefer to make ourselves feel better and not add it to our “goal” of a wedding budget lol), bridal party gifts, or his grooms gift.  Basically, everthing we pay for out of our joing account (which is our wedding account) is accounted for towards the budget. My bio dad offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner, but we’re still gonna have money for it just in case it falls through. And we will use it as needed towards the showers, ect.  Other than that its only for specific to the wedding stuff, decorations, vendors, limo, hotel room to get ready in/wedding night.  That kinda thing 🙂

    Post # 14
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Our budget is $22,000 – and that includes everything. Rings, honeymoon, welcoming party, EVERYTHING.


    But, on the bee I always add the “includes everything” part. If you were to take away the honeymoon, it’s probably around $11,000 – but honestly, I’m hoping to keep everything under the 11,000 mark to begin with.


    We’re about $3500 in.




    Post # 15
    6951 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @sunflower22:  I would include everything except engagement ring, honeymoon & showers. The rehearsal dinner counts, IMO, if the couple is paying for it, as does prenup/premarital counseling and any trips to your destination to plan. 

    Post # 16
    3432 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We didn’t have engagement rings or a honeymoon.  We didn’t do any travel relating to wedding planning, even though our wedding was 8 hours away.  (The first time we went to our wedding area was when we showed up for the ceremony, and we did count our travel to the wedding.)  And we didn’t have a prenup or premarital counseling.  But we would have included those things if we had done them.

    About the only things we left out of our wedding budget were things we used before or after the wedding.  For example, I bought a pearl necklace for the wedding, but it has been a staple of my wardrobe since then.  We bought a portable convection oven for the reception, but now use it in our house.  And even then, it was a judgment call.  We included in our wedding budget linens and centerpieces we bought for the wedding but now use in our dining room.

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