Post # 1
I’m not in favor of not allowing adults to bring a guest…However, if you are going that route why not just say so.
On the invitation just say, ‘due to wedding constraits we are not able to allow you to bring a guest, we hope that you will still come share this amazing day with us’ (or something like that).
You can look at the history of posts on here and see all the times people assumed, thought, or just wanted to bring a guest and filled out the RSVP with a +1, why not just come right out and tell them from the start they can’t (not simply hint at it)?
Post # 3
Because it comes off as kind of rude. Trust me, I wish I could be blunt lol, but unfortunately it usually upsets people.
Post # 4
Because that would be rude and it really isn’t the place on a wedding invitation to state such.
Most people know (or should know) that whomever the invitation is addressed to, that is who is invited. I know from my own experience with RSVPs that this isn’t the case but to me, it’s common sense (or should be).
Post # 5
Yeah I wouldnt put that on the actual invite
Post # 6
From a lot of posts here I’ve read, it doesnt matter HOW you put it… someone will still try. Some bees have gone the “we have reserved xx seats in your honor” route, and that seems pretty clear, but there’s been report of guest crossing out that number and making up their own!
Post # 7
We didn’t put anything – we just addressed invitations to the people we wanted invited, so people in serious relationships got an invite addressed to both people (even if they didn’t live together, we put both names on the envelope).
Our initial plan was to not allow date (rather than relationship) plus ones, but then we had a bunch of friends not be able to make it and by the time anyone asked about bringing a date, we were happy to allow them. So being a little open-ended allows you to 1) tell people personally if they don’t figure it out and 2) wait and see which sometimes solved the problem.
Post # 8
It sounds easy enough in theory but actual practice is a little more messy.
Post # 9
@glorfin: Because that is rude.
Post # 10
Is it more or less rude than having to explain it after someone responds that they want to bring a guest?
Post # 11
PS: I think not allowing a guest is rude…doesn’t make me right either.
Post # 12
@glorfin: It’s more rude. You don’t know the circumstances for why you weren’t invited with a guest. Maybe it’s a very small, intimate wedding. Maybe the couple can only afford for you to attend, not your guest that they’ve never met.
I prefer that guests be invited with a guest as well, but in all situations, that’s not possible.