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Ours was on a Wednesday at noon. But we eloped, so worrying about people coming wasn't an issue.
Great question! I think in your situation, going with Thursday could be a little iffy... for reasons your dad is pointing out. For our wedding, similar to you, it will be a DW for just about everyone except us since we live here. However, everyone is going to be flying in for like a week and making a vacation out of it, so it really shouldn't matter at all what day it is for us.
Are many of your guests going to make a trip out of it? Or were they only planning on doing a 3 day weekend kind of thing? If it's the latter, I gotta say I don't think it's quite fair to ask them to take an additional day off. Actually, check the airfare rates. It might be cheaper for them to fly on Thursday instead, so that could be reason enough to go with it.
I think there is a huge difference between a Thursday wedding and a Friday wedding, and I agree with your dad that a lot less people will come on a Thursday. A three day weekend is a lot easier than a full on vacation, and sometimes one day makes a world of difference. We are getting married in Mexico so everyone will be traveling, and though some people are planning on making a trip out of it, there are some people who are only coming Friday - Sunday (wedding is on Saturday). Could you have a Sunday wedding, or is that considered the weekend as well?
my wedding is in Jamaica on a tuesday. it works out great because all my guests are staying there for a full week.
Were doing a friday. We wanted everyone to be able to get settled in their hotels before the ceremony so decided on 7 pm.
I think if you are getting married within the US, it's a big difference. If people have a certain number of vacation days for year, then it really does make a difference to have to take an extra day off of work. Enough difference that they may not come. If it's a saturday, they could theoretically fly in Friday afternoon and back on Sunday, and miss only a half day of work. On a Thursday, they'd be looking at two days of work, minimum--and that would require flying the morning after your wedding, which might make them less inclined to really let their hair down at your reception.
Also, Knoxville is lovely, but it's not a place that I want to spend a week of my vacation time. Caribbean, yes. Tenessee, no. Nice place, but for my vacations I like a beach.
Finally, 700 miles? That's a 2-hour flight. People could even fly in Friday night for a Saturday wedding.
You know your guest list better than any of us, so if you honestly think everyone will come for a week anyway, then go ahead. But for the vast majority of weddings, I think it would make a big difference.
We're having a "DW" in Florida. Ours will be on a Thursday night. Talk to your guests. We asked everyone if it would be a problem and no one objected. There all already going to be there for the week anyway! So it really didn't matter what day we got married on!! Luckily everyone agreed with our Thursday night because that's our dating anniversary and we REALLY wanted to get married on that day!
We held ours on a Tuesday but all our guests were staying at least a week in Mexico with us so it's a little different. What about having a Monday wedding? The could come in on Sunday and leave Tuesday??
I tend to agree w most posters. Your wedding isn't what I think of as a typical destination wedding. I would not make a vacation out of a TN wedding and wouldn't like to take off an extra day unless I was immediate family or close friend of couple,
Edit: And this is not a dig, but your wedding is in Nov when people really don't take much vacation, least of all to a place that won't be super warm.
We are having a DW in Florida and our wedding will be on a Wednesday. It works for us because everyone is going down for Memorial Day weekend and then staying for the whole week. We also saved a lot of money by doing it on a weekday!
Mine was a Monday... But it was in the Dominican and everyone was there for a week so the day didnt really matter.
Mine was a Monday... But it was in the Dominican and everyone was there for a week so the day didnt really matter.
I also agree with the a lot of the previous posters in that I think there is a big difference between a DW in Mexico, Jamaica, the Dominican, etc, than in Tenessee. I'm sure Tenessee is a lovely place to visit and people will enjoy being there for your wedding, but I wouldn't want to spend my sacred vacation days there and take more than one day off.
My darling cousin had hers on a Tuesday in Tennessee, and even though I love her to death I just couldn't make it. If it's what you want, go for it. Just don't be upset if people can't make it. I would have been crushed if she would have been mad at me for missing it, but she was great about it.
Thanks to everyone for all the imput!! Much appreciated. We will probably end up going with Friday/Saturday then (le sigh, says my wallet).
And PS, to everyone who took "digs" at Tennessee..... Totally understandable!! I'm in nooooo state of mind to call this place Home... it is simply where I live right now and where I coincidentally am living when I am having my wedding.
I moved here to Knoxville in December - I have lived the last 7 years in Santa Fe, New Mexico, which would have been a MUCH more preferable place to have a wedding/DW, but alas - life didn't go that route.
(PS, when Pigeon Forge/Gatlinburg, TN's sewage holding tanks aren't rupturing, it's apparently the #2 honeymoon destination in the US. At least it used to be. Who knew?)
we are getting married on Monday April 18th at caesars palace las vegas. we decided to do it on a monday being that the weekends are crazy in vegas and it would just be too much. I am very glad with our decision. its your day and you should plan it the day u want. Congratulations!
Our wedding is in Jamaica and on a Friday. We changed our date to accomodate our guests, but it seems they have all backed out now. So we don't need to worry about it anymore! Good luck to you :)
Ours is on a Saturday. We would rather pay more to not inconvenience our guests and give them the most flexibility with their work and family schedules, as well as the most flexibility with travel plans. We will be taking about 7-10 days off, arriving at our destination on Wednesday then coming home either the following Wednesday or Friday. I agree with your dad that if the Friday costs the same as the Saturday, then just do it Saturday as a service to your guests so they have more flexibility on booking their travel plans. I dont't think weekday weddings are realistic for a decent sized guest list and destination wedding combination.
Ours is on a Tuesday, but being a destination wedding, the twist is part of the fun! The way we designed our wedding in Vegas was for our guests to come in the weekend prior, have fun as part of a mini-vacation, and then enjoy our wedding in the middle or at the end of their visit. Of 65 people invited, we have 45 who say they will be attending (though nothing is official yet).
I am getting married on a Sunday, 13th May 2012 in Turkey
My wedding is in FLorida on a Tuesday, which works great for everyone cuz they are all staying atleast a week.
My wedding is also on a Tuesday. I live in Virginia and we are going to the Poconos to get married. We've had friends say they want to take off and come even though it's during the week. However our ceremony is going to be a private one.
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Hey all,
We aren't really having a typical DW - we live in Knoxville and our closest family/friends are 700 miles away, so everyone will be traveling. It is virtually a DW.
What day of the week did you have your DW? We are trying to cut costs and have already planned a Friday night wedding, but I just realized that our #1 venue choice considers Friday part of the weekend. We could save half of the venue rental cost (about $1,600 - and we're looking to spend only $10,000 anyway) if we switch to Thursday night.
My thought process says, "Well, people will already be traveling/missing work, what's one more day?"
My dad firmly disagrees and says that many, MANY more people will NOT come to a Thursday night wedding than even a Friday evening one, and that if it will be the same cost we'd might as well just have it Saturday.
So, what day was your DW? Did you find most people made a week out of it, or did most people rush away again to get back to work?