Post # 1
I’m a minimalist at heart, but I’ll stil be having a larger wedding than I’d like, because we’re both from big families. To keep me sane, I’m making my OWN version of those dreaded “wedding checklists” that eliminates all the stuff I don’t want/need.
The advice I keep getting from married women is that in the end, you will never remember what color your chair covers were…you will remember what your wedding FELT like, not what it looked like.
So I wanted to create this thread for those of us who want to say no to those things blogs and magazines tell us we have to have, if that is not what we want. I don’t mean to bash anyone who includes these details–the point is to have a wedding you WANT and so if you want the details I dont, more power to you. I just wanted an empowering place for the bees that *don’t* want the extras as well.
So far I know I will be forgoing:
-toasting flutes/cake cutting sets
-not a thing, but flower girl/ring bearer (no little kiddoes in my fam)
-also not a thing, but garter/bouquet toss.
What details are YOU happy to go without?
Post # 3
well we aren;t having a ring bearer just because there are no little boys in our families. we are doing ceremony programs, but for our Catholic wedding, they are becoming SUCH a pain in the rear, so I might nix them. We decided not to worry about matching table linens with our colors, instead just doing ivory. Not doing menus either.
Post # 4
I dont think that I will be doing programs. I dont really see the point. We arent doing anything spectacular like rocket ship launching ourselves to the moon in between the flower girl walking down the aisle and the end of the ceremony so that would be just money wasted.
I dont think we will be doing menus neither. Its a buffet not a restaurant. No one is placing an order..wanna see whats on the menu? Take your butt to the buffet line. LOL.
No cake topper
Im sure there are more things that will be nixed but i cant think of anymore right now.
Post # 5
no ring bearer or flower girl for us and no garter toss. Kids make things complicated and the garter toss is a little too old fashioned to be appropriate. The idea is hat my dad had placed it on me for the hubby to retrieve and my father and I don’t have that kind of relationship. Not to mention that I don’t want everyone to see my pasty legs and cankles lol.
Post # 6
For our wedding, we skipped:
Garter Toss & Bouquet Toss
Menus (We had food stations with food labels though)
Bridal Party (but there are definite pros to having people who are required to help you!)
Guestbook – we used the photobooth as an alternative guestbook instead
Post # 7
That’s all I can think of for now. I’m sure there are other things, but since we are skipping them I can’t remember what they are!
Post # 8
flowers (other than for the bridal party)
something to toss
cupcakes instead of cake (our venue charged us $1 a slice to cut it, so we’re saving $100 + cupcakes are cheaper),
We’re having our ceremnoy and reception at the same place as well as staying there for the night, so we’re skipping the limo/luxury car.
Possbily favors, not becuase we aren’t appreciative but because I’ve been to too many weddings where they are left behind or thrown away.
Post # 9
We skipped a lot of things:
- toasting flutes/cake cutting sets
- dances (first, parents etc)
- cake toppers
- garter/bouquet toss
- flowers ( no bouts, no corsages, no centrepieces)
- chair covers
Post # 10
No cake cutting set for me! Or toasting flutes (we are taking a shot of tequila as our toast) and no cake topper!
Post # 11
No chair covers or cake cutting set. I would like to skip the garter toss since I don’t really feel like buying a garter haha, I haven’t been too inspired by any I’ve seen on Etsy.
Post # 12
– toasting flutes/cake cutting sets
– cake toppers
– escort cards
Post # 13
-The guy who catches the garter will not be uptting the garter on the girl who catches the bouquet. We are giving them giftcards to starbucks. I bought a gorgeous garter on etsy and I don’t want to give it away.
– The anniversary dance
– The bridal party dance
-Maybe no mother son dance. It depends on how she acts for the rest of the planning.
Post # 14
bridal party dance
bouts (hello awesome pocket squares!)
Post # 15
-rice tossing, bubble blowing, seed tossing
Post # 16
Dances – Fiance & Mom etc.
Bridal Party – we are having 2 fgs and 1rb but no adults
Garter toss and boudquet thing
Real flowers (except for the old ladies and some corsages – god forbid cackle cackle!!)
Favours (photbooth is the guest book and favour)
Big Cake – one small tier and cupcakes for those who need to get their icing on that bad
Individual seating plan – tables yes, where to park your ass at that table I hope you can manage all by your own self
Anything else Mom makes a dealio out of and tells me I HAVE to do :p