Post # 1
I have been engaged since September 2012 and we are getting married in August 2014.
I feel like I have spent the last year on a total wedding planning high, all the while getting some raised eyebrows from vendors who were noticing how early I was booking everything.
Now, here we are in the year of, the time to start taking action, and I feel like I’ve completely stalled. I’m super stoked about the wedding and the marriage but any eagerness for the planning has completely disapated and I feel like I am at a standstill.
To date we have booked/completed:
- Venue (includes food and beverage)
- Purchased wedding dress
- Confirmed wedding party
- Discussed guest list
- Discussed table signs, seating chart and favours (my mom is an artist and is making most of these things)
- Purchased Groom’s wedding band
All the major stuff is basically done and now I am overwhelmed by the smaller details. As a result I am completely ignoring them.
What did you avoid while planning? Or what are you currently avoiding?
Post # 3
Wow you’ve done a lot already! We’re currently avoiding finding a caterer, which is the last major vendor we need to book. It’s partly for financial reasons, but partly because the photographer was a higher priority for us to book early. Next month, we are dropping money on a new fence in our backyard, and we want to let our budget settle before putting a deposit on a caterer. We’ll probably make a decision in December/January. We’re doing a backyard wedding, so the fence will improve the venue at least.
Post # 4
I avoided booking a limo for the bridal party until the last minute. Big Mistake!
I also avoided booking hair and makeup, and then couldn’t get my top choices.
Post # 5
Oh right, hair and makeup has been booked as well, I forgot about that.
Right, transportation…haven’t even thought about it. See its all these details that require you to nail down the logistics/itinerary/timing of the day that I seem to baulk at.
Post # 6
We avoided gifts for the bridal party. That was honestly the most stressful part of the week before the wedding for us. We wanted to get them meaningful useful gifts but had no idea what to get them… We spent two days wandering around malls and looking online before figuring out gifts. It seems like such a small thing but I wish we had started coming up with ideas earlier!
Post # 7
Take a break!
I got engaged in Aug 2012 and was planning for my Oct 2013 wedding. I, like you, got nearly all of the “big things” taken care of ASAP… then, I took a “wedding break” from ~Nov 2012 – Feb 2012, and I’m so glad that I did 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I created and printed the ceremony programs the morning-of. I kept having recently married girls telling me “oh the last couple of days before the wedding, you’ll be all done with everything and there’ll be nothing you can do, you’ll be going crazy!” – aha, BS. I was running behind on a lot of things up to the wedding day. It sucked!
I also was very late booking hair/makeup and all my favorites were booked by the time I called them.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I did the seating chart 2 days ahead of time, and we wrote our vows 2 hours before the ceremony! Didn’t make them any less special though.
You have plenty of time – take a break til you feel like dealing with all those things.
Post # 10
I put off choosing a first dance song (we dont’ have “a song” so it was hard to just pick one) and put off day of transportation – it was done less than 10 days before (and our transportation from the wedding back to the hotel was booked the DAY before).
I was only engaged a year and I, like PP, took a break. Especially if you aren’t DIY’ing a lot of stuff, you really do “run out” of stuff to do. I had booked all the stuff I needed to book, but it was too early to do some of the other stuff. So there was a break. It was GREAT!
Post # 11
I’m definitely procrastinating music, not bec I want to but bec I am hitting such a mental roadblock. Also, my cake topper has been a procrastination, as well as small ceremony and reception details . So much stuff is dependant upon guest RSVPs that I had to put it off until now.
Post # 12
Gifts for the bridal party (you might want to have them wrapped and ready no less than a week before) and I 2nd the waiting to do the programs. 2 or 3 WEEKS before the wedding DH’s brother backed out because he lost his job and couldnt afford to be in the wedding or come anymore and I had an usher have an episode (he was diagnosed as clinically depressed) and back out the wedding THE DAY OF! It was crazy.
We didn’t have the music playlist ready till 10 days before the wedding. Our venue was booked 7 mons before the wedding so everything seemed last minute. I ordered my flowers and had my hair trial a month before the wedding. Had my makeup trial 2 weeks before the wedding, got all the last minute reception essentials a week before the wedding. I was engaged Christmas 2011 but I kept changing my mind about EVERYTHING (mainly wedding dresses, venues, and color schemes) I was lucky to have anything together and ready the day of. Thank goodness you’re not like me!
Post # 13
I avoided the seating chart! = It was stressful, I still had guests that were undecided the week of the wedding!!! so I didn’t get to do the seating chart until two days before the wedding.
Post # 14
@Vsmart: I forgot to get a unity candle a aisle runner. my wedding is in 3 days, i just got them this weekend.
Post # 15
We started planning and booking 2 years in advance and EVERYONE thought we were nuts but I am SO glad I did because now that it’s pushing closer to the year of I know I don’t have to rush things and stress out over all the things that need to get done even though I DO stress out over the things that aren’t done yet. In my mind from day 1 I only wanted to worry about my bridesmaids dresses and my gown the year of and now I have an officiant to worry about, a few more decoration ideas and centerpiece layouts, a guestlist, food options, seating chart, all the dresses, it’s TOO MUCH lef tto do in my eyes even though I have a little over 15 months left until the big day lol. I just like to get things done fast so I stressing.
Post # 16
I waited to bake my sweet n salty buffet and do my flowers at the last minute because I had no other choice. I had a 10 month engagement, so while it was plenty of time for planning, I had very little down time (I did a ton of DIY).