Post # 1
We just completed our registry this week. We have somewhat different tastes, but he usually defers to me on decor. We both have so many strengths, decor is just not one of them. So we show up to registry scanning, and the first thing we have to do is decide on silverware/flatware. He has serious feelings about the weight of silverware. I personally don’t like lightweight flatware, he hates weighty flatware. We eventually came to an agreement that we both loved but I just never expected flatware to be the time where we both had strong feelings. The more you learn about your FI through wedding planning 🙂
What did you disagree on most when planning your registry (either in-store or honeymoon)? Did it surprise you?
Post # 3
We disagreed on the color of the sheets.
My fiancé is a great craftsman, and a few years ago he built me the shelving system/headboard of my dreams. It’s painted plum. We had already planned on using it as our headboard for when we move in together. I assumed, based on the headboard, the bedding and bedroom decor would be plum. When I reach for the plum sheets in the store to scan, he did a 180 so fast and snapped that he was not going to live in Hank and Marie’s house from Breaking Bad (where every.single.thing is purple). Whoops. We registered for ivory. Lol.
Another funny anecdote, when we got to the silverware and plates section, he said he “wasn’t emotionally ready to register for plates.” Yet he registered for every single kitchen tool and gadget they had. Go figure.
Post # 4
@beeintraining: Registries in general. He thinks their tacky and outdated and greedy. I wouldn’t go far as to say that but I somewhat agreed.
That was until we started getting random stuff we would NEVER want or use so we created 2 registries and a honeymoon registry. The honeymoon registry sold out in 2 days and the rest of our registries are nearly bought out too and we still have a month to go before the wedding.
I had to fight him on putting a Dyson vac on there since he’s in love with his Walmart vac he bought over 8 years ago (it sucks.) Sory sweets, it’s time for a new vac.
Post # 5
@beeintraining: He was SO firmly against getting martini glasses that I actually went back and removed them. To be fair we will probably never use them, but I just thought it was one of those things that we “had” to register for. We added more beer glasses instead because we WILL use those!
Oh and I was forced to put two nerf guns on the Kohl’s registry. Guess what hasn’t been bought yet…I told you so FI!
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
@ebarnes0: hee hee! Nerf guns!
Post # 7
We disagreed on dishes. First he didn’t think we needed new dishes (the ones we had were only for 8 people, but many had broke since I bought them when I was 18). Then once he agreed we needed dishes, he wanted ones with crazy patterns while I thought plain cream dishes would be more timeless and go with anything. We ended up going with my choice and once we got them he realized it was the right one 🙂
Post # 8
DH had a few items he wanted like a Kurig and Soda Stream, neither of which I will use. Everything else he defered to me to pick. I asked his opinion, he said whatever I want.
Post # 9
We disagreed on the registry itself. FI is very utilitarian and doesn’t want to deal with a lot of decor and china and things we won’t use very often, he’d much rather receive cash. But, I feel weird accepting cash from guests because our combined income is larger than most of our guests’ incomes and our finances are doing great. My family in particular are not really cash-givers – they like to put a lot of thought into major gifts and they would not respond well to no registry. We compromised by looking at what we could realistically use and registered for those items.
We agreed on most of the registry items, but we disagreed on some cocktail glasses. FI wanted a very classic, older style of glasses and I’m more of a modern person. I didn’t put up much of a fight on those since he’d be using them more than me.
Post # 10
We agreed on almost everything, I made him pick out the pots and pans, and cutery (mainly because he cooks more often than I do) I also made him pick out the sheets purely due to the fact that I couldnt remember what thread count we normally get.
@ajillity81: He also made me add the soda stream.
Post # 11
We didn’t disagree about anything. FI left most of it for me to choose but he did have a few must haves.
Post # 12
@beeintraining: My fiance wanted to put a record player on the list because he’s always wanted one. However, he wants a vintage one (something you can’t really put on a registry since you have to hunt for them) and always has. He put some random one from amazon on the list. I told him that was silly, since he will want a vintage one (est around $400-500) eventually, and there’s no point making someone pay ~$250 for a random new one if he’s going to replace it. His thought was “if someone buys it for me I’ll use it” and my thought was “They should be getting things that we actually need/will get use out of”.
Oh well. He ended up removing it because I promised I’d get him one that he wanted in the next 5 years.
Post # 13
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
@beeintraining: LOL! I learned that my DH has very.strong.feelings about china patterns. Very strong, very weird feelings. He absolutely refused to consider anything that wasn’t round, anything that wasn’t symmetrical, anything with a design on the center of the plate instead of just around the border. Silver/platinum only, no gold. I think there were a couple other “rules.” We ended up with the “parchment” set (Lenox maybe? Mikasa? I can’t remember) which we both like but OMG I thought the poor BB&B registry lady was going to kill us. On the other hand, I got to pick all the linens (yay!) and he picked all the kitchen stuff since he is the one who cooks.
Post # 14
I did all of our registeries so we really didn’t have any disagreements.
I didn’t put china on our registry but I bought some afterwards. He strongly wanted that Chirp pattern by Lenox (due to cute personal reasons), which I think is adorable but I told him no because I didn’t feel it was timeless enough (meaning I was afraid I’d be sick of it in 40 years). He happened to be in the store with me to carry an exchange in, otherwise he would never have seen that pattern.
I picked out everything! We did go into a store once afterwards and he forced me to buy some potato dicer for $10 that I told him was a complete waste of money. Well…I was right since that thing didn’t even work. I’m strongly against clutter and items like potato dicers or avocado slicers, etc. I have knives and 2 sizes of food processors…that is all you need!
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
We agreed on pretty much everything except flatware (I don’t think we need it and he does) and knives (he kept wanting to register for extremely expensive knives.. like $100+ per knife).
Post # 16
@soontobeMrsBoo: Haha! I thought the guy helping us out was going to kill us too. But I think we were making it entertaining. We were looking at every day dishes and the ‘checklist’ said to get a gravy boat. And FI said “A gravy boat for casual plates? Will I be making casual gravy?”